In response to my last video about sociopaths and love bombing, a Lovefraud reader asked a question: Why do sociopaths marry? In this video, I answer the question. For more videos, visit the Lovefraud Video Page.
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behind_blue_eyes
kim frederick;
There is an old navy saying: “it ain’t queer unless it’s tied to the pier.”
kim frederick
Blue eyes, After discovering his affairs with women, I did have some reason to suspect he was on the down low, too.
Donna Andersen
Very interesting reading. Thank you all for your perspectives.
snowwhite
Donna
Reading this helped me to figure out what he wanted from me. He often said I would be a great step mother. He had said that once we lived together he wanted to get custody of his son so that he wouldn’t have to pay child support. Piece by piece thanks to your information the picture becomes clearer.
Donna Andersen
Snowwhite – yes – I’ve heard that story before. They want a new step mom to help them stick it to the ex. It’s truly despicable.
darwinsmom
Yes, spaths need a wife for status and job reasons, or at least they do in the US it appears to me. Private life of people never seemed an issue in Belgium at the workfloor, nor the managementfloors. We rarely ever see the wife or partner of a (prime) minister in the media even. It’s almost always a total non topic. But i can hardly imagine a bachelor even trying to get votes in the US. The image of the perfect family picture is important for credibility it seems in the US.
alohatraveler
Dear JustBree,
You said, “I know it’s crazy, but when I heard this news I was hurt ”“ it was one more reminder of just how little he really cared for me”…. remember, he doesn’t care for her either.
Aloha :O)
ErinBrock
Excellent video Donna!
darwinsmom
She’s in for a lot of trouble. If by tropics you mean latin america… which are drug trafficking paradises, but also drug traffic war zones, where the last person they wanna see have a piece of the cake is an expat. And since police are so corrupt and they don’t do a thing unless you pay for their ‘gass’, … well you get the picture. 🙂 Her dreamland will soon turn into nightmare land with the business he’s in.
sisterseven
Hi Everyone!
This latest video was, along with all the others, another confirmation for me. Oh, not that I don’t believe my ex is definitely an spath, simply more unveiling of the “real” truth. Not her truth. I now refer to her as “crazy.” I no longer speak her name.
Crazy tried her best to talk me into having a child together. Being Lesbians that would have to be a foster situation or possibly adoption. I am 62. She is 52. Right? I would just laugh every single time she brought it up. She was the ultimate love bomber. I had never been so romanced. One of the first questions she asked me was what was the most romantic thing anyone had ever done for me. And she tried to top it the entire time we were together. Well, when she wasn’t yelling at me. Or when she wasn’t snarling at me. Or when she was caught dead in a lie and refused to speak to me (which could be heavenly). She was always talking about us getting married. Ummm, she was already married, to her partner of 19 years. She left this woman, moved out while partner was on a cruise, and moved into her daughter’s house. Convinced me that she and partner had been only sharing a home. The relationship had been over for years. I won’t bore you with the details. Liar liar pants on youknowwhat.
I am considered by my grown children and my friends, co-workers, etc., to be a calm and serene person of peace. I am now over 25 years clean and sober. A Lightworker. I channel angels. I teach forgiveness and love. This is my truth, my path. And I was ripe for her pluckin! Ha! I completely loved all her romantic gestures, blah, blah and blah. Until I didn’t anymore. Until I began to notice the lies and deceit. And those stares! I would look back at her and throw her stares in her face. Thank God I had enough tools in my spiritual toolbox to fight back. And on that fateful day when she let the mask slip and I saw the evil, the monster, I was done.
I was with her off and on, in my home and out of my home, for 18 months. I found Donna by going online and asking what is a person called that exhibits these symtoms. Sociopath/Psychopath. And there was Donna’s name and her book, “Love Fraud.” I ordered it immediately. The book led me to this website. And to Donna’s second book and workbook. I have all of them. I am very grateful to Donna for all the work she has done and is doing.
At first, I too had a hard time with the No Contact idea. I am a civil person with good manners and a Christian attitude of can’twealljustgetalongforpete’ssake?? I am a quick learner though, and here is what sold me. I read on this blog that the spath ONLY views me as the “supplier.” Yep. It really was just that simple. Because I now truly understood that she did not care for me. She did not love me. She was and is an evil person. I have not seen her since May 5, 2012. She has tried and continues to try to get to me. I paid very close attention to what Donna said to do. No Contact. No response.
We all deserve a lot better. Thanks to all of you for sharing. It means so much to know I’m not alone, and neither are you.
Love you all, Elizabeth