A Pennsylvania woman met a guy online, fell for his stories, and got pregnant. She claims that he then conned her into giving him the child.
Read: Woman fights man she met online for baby, on Today.MSNBC.MSN.com.
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You know, that is a story and a half, but it doesn’t seem to me to take the WISDOM OF SOLOMON to realize that there was a CON involved in this one too…fighting over the baby!
Talk about planning….I wonder if the wife was in on it from the first, and my guess is that she was (but don’t know this of course) but she would have to know by now that the baby belonged to her husband and how it came to be “available” for her to “adopt” it, so she KNOWS ABOUT THE CON and she is still with the guy…trying to get the baby.
Wonder if she’d agree to cutting the baby in two and keeping half and giving half to the birth mother? I bet she would.
Now, though, what about the daddy’s “rights?” If the spurious adopting is nixed, what about his rights and his visitation rights and all that? Me thinks the birth mother’s life is screwed and her child’s as well if this man is allowed contact with the child and I am going to BET the “adoptive” mother loses, but he gets visitation RIGHTS and so on. What a night mare! The poor kid.
ps How about a FRAUD prosecution for these people and put them in prison?
I don’t want to call this gal stupid maybe more naive.
I can remember when my incident took place with my spath I was a young naive girl of 24. A lot of folks told me I was stupid for taking the bait. And yes, like this gal, my spath pulled the wool over my eyes leading me to believe we had a future together.
As for the guys wife, like my ex’s long-term girlfriend she must be either an idiot: allowing him to go to social networking sites claiming to be single and picking up women to deceive, or else like Oxy says: she was in on the con from the beginning hoping to get a baby out of it.
I do believe the girl’s story though about the con job he did on her.
I can remember when I entered my spath’s house for the first time there was a picture of him and his arm around his long-term girl friend who he is still with today after conning count less women. He told me it was a picture of him and his sister. After that visit the picture disappeared. Whoops, forgot to get rid of the photo before visit of new victim.
And yes, my spath told me numerous lies about himself to impress me and build himself up.
Another story about the dangers of online dating and how you really have to be careful. I’m 30 years happily married now but if I ever entered the “meat market” (dating scene) again which I probably won’t I’d do a complete background check on any future suitor.
Just my thoughts.
Joanie123
Joanie,
I can’t call anyone stupid because of what I was conned into doing. When you don’t know what spaths are capable of you can’t imagine it. You just can’t.
Who does that? WHO!? Nobody does that. right?
*sigh*
I know Skylar you’re right. These spaths do a number on our psyche.
Every time I think about what my spath did to me the movie “Original Sin” comes to mind.
The villain or evil male nemesis is a clone of my ex-spath and the character played by Angelina Jolie reminds me of my ex-spath’s long-term girlfriend going along with his games and cons to fool innocent dupes.
The poor woman is clearly not very bright but that makes what he did even worse. He took advantage of someone who did not have the smarts to see through him.
I work with developmentally disabled people and am fiercely protective of them. They are so vulnerable, so incapable of defending themselves against manipulation and abuse. I’ve worked with kids who were in a special needs class but, because their IQ was slightly above that which mandates socialized care, once they turned eighteen they were on their own. These kids would no doubt have been called “stupid” in the world once they were on their own. Without support, there is no doubt they would have made many disastrous choices. But being “stupid” is not a crime.
Taking advantage of someone who is vulnerable, no matter what their vulnerability, should be, though.
Where does it say this woman was mentally retarded or slow?
Not to “brag” but my IQ is in the top 2% and I was CONNED repeatedly by s-paths throughout my life inside and out of my family. I am NOT stupid, and neither is Donna or Dr. Leedom or the posters here…that’s one reason I like this site is that there are INTELLIGENT PEOPLE HERE who are “just like me” and they also were conned in some pretty OUTSTANDING CONS.
While this is a bit unusual in what he was conning her FOR, a child, not money…it still doesn’t mean she was stupid.
She may have been “stoooopid” (versus stupid) as we all were when we got conned, but she ain’t STUPID….just a woman who suspended logic for the fantasy of true love.
I want to add a lot of times when we’re in love we can’t see the forest for the trees. The person may be no good. We can’t see it but others around us who aren’t under their spell may and may even try to tell us.
A lot of these spath boys/ and girls seem to have some charismatic charm where they actually mesmerize you to carry out their will and those who have been in relationships like this know exactly what I’m talking about.
I think Oxy’s right when she says a lot of time we suspend logic for the fantasy of true love.
My spath conned me financially and married me to do it. Where was my logic at that time? Who does that? Not a normal man. A normal man would probably file bankruptcy to clear his debts before he conned a woman in this way.
These spath guys are very good at what they do and many women fall in their traps because they know how to work it.
He probably weighed his options.
Plan A was he would try his hardest to exploit this girl and make a baby for himself and his wife.
Plan B was if he couldn’t get away with it he still made an heir. Something he couldn’t do with his wife.
No doubt at some point down the road his wife will see the reason behind it and divorce him.
He may at some point get together again with his victim. We women can be stupid like that and give 2nd chances.
In any event I saw myself wearing her shoes many years ago albeit different circumstances.
Update on this case: I go on several boards besides this one and we were discussing this case in a live chat.
Later on someone anonymously emailed me through my other group and told me the reason why he conned her through online dating to have his baby was because he and his wife couldn’t adopt through proper channels.
Apparently according to the anonymous source he had a prior drug conviction and no adoption agency would handle them.
I don’t know who the messenger was or if this bears validity but whoever sent it had inside knowledge about the case.
Joanie,
thanks for the update. sheez! wouldn’t that couple have made nice parents! NOT.
Talk about entitled. This guy takes the cake.
He didn’t want money, he wanted someone’s baby.
sick, sick, sick.