Did you know people actually have two brains? We have a conscious brain that produces thoughts, ideas and intention and we have an automatic, unconscious brain that produces impulses. There are advantages to having two brains. The conscious thinking brain makes us smart and deliberate but the problem is it is slow. On the other hand, the unconscious automatic brain is fast, but the impulses that arise from it are sometimes undesirable. Automatic impulses do not always serve us well.
Have you ever been walking in the woods and seen something that looked like a snake out of the corner of your eye? Notice that your heart pounds and you have that alarmed feeling even before you are aware of having “seen” something. If you had to wait to fully process the image of the snake in order to react defensively, you would likely get bitten. So the mind makes you jump at a few snake-shaped sticks because that way you will be sure to avoid stepping on the real snakes.
The part of the brain that automatically senses threats is the amygdala. The amygdala receives sensory information from every sense. It “filters” this information and automatically “decides” which perceptions represent something that is a threat to safety. Notice that the amygdala is a dynamic or changing structure. If you are relaxed and happy you are less jumpy than if you are “on edge” because you just got into an argument or drank a cup of coffee.
The job of the amygdala is to take its crude sensory perceptions and to energize you to take action to protect yourself. It energizes you because it directly controls your sympathetic nervous system and stimulates the release of stress hormones. Did you know that stress hormones like adrenalin and cortisol are actually stimulants? The action of adrenalin is similar to that of cocaine. By the way, just like stimulants can be addicting, stress which releases these stimulants can also be “addicting” for some people.
The amygdala is not just a single brain structure. It actually has many parts to it. There are different classes of things we associate with threat and fear. The main two classes of feared situations are social and non-social. There are some very outgoing people who climb mountains and yet are anxious at social gatherings. Similarly there are some socially outgoing people who are easily frightened by heights or other non-social stimuli.
People get their fears two ways. The basic activity level of the amygdala is set by genetics. That is why anxiety disorders run in families. Studies show that timid people suffer from an over active amygdala. Fearfulness can also be acquired because like I said the amygdala is a dynamic structure. PTSD is a disorder where there is an enhanced threat response.
Now here is the important part that you may not have considered. What motivational systems does your amygdala interface most with? What are you likely to do in response to threat? There are people whose amygdala is over-connected to dominance motivation. When they perceive a threat they go on the attack. There are other people whose amygdala is connected to affection motivation so when they perceive a threat, they seek out social support. For others, the anxiety is free floating and they freeze up.
If you want to observe firsthand the amygdala at work, watch the dog behavior shows on Animal Planet. As you may have read, my daughter fosters dogs and so I have had the privilege of seeing threat behaviors and how they create dog dysfunction. The dogs also help us to understand how genetics and experience interact to shape threat responses. First let’s consider the grey hound. These dogs are very fearful but in general their fear system connects with their social affiliation system. As a result, they are on average low in aggression. Both of the grey hounds we fostered ran away from our dachshund. I think these dogs have been specifically bred for non-aggression and that is why they tend to cower when afraid.
This week, we had the good luck to meet the Dog Whisperer of Connecticut he explained to me why some working dogs bite people. The answer as to why some working dogs are vicious has relevance to anxiety in humans so stick with me. My new friend raises dogs who protect us by sniffing out bombs and narcotics in the airports. He showed us some terrific dogs and demonstrated their strong temperaments that make them ideal to do their jobs. The dogs with ideal temperaments have a very strong “play” drive and they like to have fun. But they also have to be sensitive to threat so that they will alert to danger. When they sense danger, they have to be energized to face it playfully. My new friend explained to me that vicious dogs are a by-product of the desire to breed dogs that have both play drive and an adequate threat response. If a dog is easily threatened but doesn’t play it only cowers if it is like a grey hound or aggresses if it is a working dog. So what our instincts tell us to do with our fear is important.
Like people dogs also have two brains, so they can be trained some. However the unconscious brain of a dog is always stronger. If a dog has an overactive amygdala and reactive aggression it will always be potentially dangerous. To help these dogs, we need to keep them in a calm environment or give them medication.
Fortunately people can, through conscious experience modify their genetics. People who are born with social anxiety can use psychological training to reduce and even eliminate their automatic responses. In people the amygdala is dynamic.
To manage anxiety we must first identify and understand it with our conscious minds. Then we must take conscious steps to face our fears while relaxing our bodies. Repeatedly facing a feared situation causes the amygdala to stop reacting to that situation as threatening. Avoiding a feared situation only reinforces the fear. The amygdala is rewarded by avoidance behavior and senses that it did it did a good job when we avoid.
Now stop a moment to consider how anxiety operates in you personally. Are you like a vicious dog who snaps at everyone when you get wound up? Are you like a grey hound who tries to cope by cozying up to a friend? Or do you just avoid everything and everyone? My friend who is a Buddhist says, “A human life represents a great opportunity because only humans have such a great capacity for choice.” Although the pull of anxious impulses is very strong we humans luckily do not have to be ruled by them. We can use our large intentional brains to make choices. The choices we make will then shape the structure of our unconscious minds.
Next week psychopathic anxiety.
Rperk-
Those fetishes, well I think it’s aabout objectifying sex. It’s an act, a different flavor, person, behavior…..
There’s an entry on this site stating Psychos are neither, gay or straight….it makes sense.
Free, another signpost for me, for people to be wary of, are people who demonstrate extremes of behaviour; people who are too pushy, who offer too much flattery, blow hot and cold etc. Mind you, at the start of the relationship with N, I told him to stop putting me on a pedestal and slow it down, which he did, but I fell into his trap, because that gave me the impression I was controlling the pace of things, whereas he knew darn well, how to dominate matters.
I just find it disgusting. I want my man to walk, talk, and behave like a man and he is not Scottish.
Control is a big issue with the sociopath. It bothers them immensely to lose their power over you. They want to be the only voice that you are listening to. Mine was constantly lecturing me about something or other. Of course, his evaluation of a situation was more relevant than mine.
He wanted me to call him when I got home. For a long time I thought that he was just trying to be protective, but now I see it as another control technique.
We all fell into a trap of one kind or another. These sociopaths are skilled in laying the bait that attracts us – like our nurturing nature. Mine was always having financial difficulties and I would bail him out.
Free,
I didn’t have time to read it all but I kept checking to see if it was still going. HAHA!
I think there was some kind of mental health issue going on.. not any evil intent.
Anyway, very entertaining. We do need a laugh now and then, don’t we?
:o)
rperk,
Miniskirt? ewwww. Bad Man took pictures of himself in my underwear. I was speechless. Unfortunately, these images are burned into my mind. BLECH!
to all…
I am just sharing a random moment.
A few days ago at work, one of the children ran up to me and said, “HAHA! That’s your boyfriend!” and handed me a scrap of a paper with a picture of Indiana Jones on it. WHOA! I was not expecting that and I actually gasped… but then I laughed. Bad Man looks exactly like Harrison Ford when he is in his Indiana Jones character.. especially in the promo pictures. (Of course the kids don’t know anything about this.)
I am hating all these promotional ads for the movie… and I HATE hearing the theme song too! ARGH!
I don’t think I am going to go to the movie.
Have a great day!
Ewwww is exactly what it is. I’m just hoping that I looked better in it than he did! Hopefully he didn’t try on my underwear, not to my knowledge anyway and if he did, I don’t ever want to know. Not never!
It’s funny how certain movies, people, music, places ect. remind you of the P. My thing is music, lots of good songs I used to like I won’t listen to anymore because it reminds me of him. He ruined alot of good songs.
WOW! I sure missed a lot while I was gone Sunday and Monday. I’ve been on holiday with a most remarkable woman. She is a world renowned authority in her profession, traveled all over the world, and absolutely one of the most interesting and vital women I have ever been around–she too was the victim of a psychopathic relationship that left her a quivering blob of protoplasam, almost unable to work.
This woman is so bright, so accomplished, and such an outstanding person that I feel in awe of being in her presence, and yet I realize that she was just as taken in as I was, D &D’d by this creep, and left emotionally bleeding.
I think just knowing that someone of her high intelligence, outstanding accomplishment, etc. to be totally beaten down by such a person doesn’t make me feel so “alone.”
We spent a great weekend as just two friends, talking about our lives, our experiences with the Ps, encouraging and validating each other–and in our growth, and healing.
While being with you guys is so good in so many ways, to just be with someone “in the flesh” to talk and encourage each other was so good. It makes me think back to some suggestions a while back (can’t remember on which thread) about support groups, either national, regional, or local. About maybe “seminars” etc. and how good they would be, how empowering.
I know that some of our posters are from other countries, so it would be difficult for everyone to come to one spot for a “seminar” or convention, and it would take at least a year or so to plan for one that was VERY affordable.
I’m not sure if anyone would even be willing to work on such an event. I would be willing to offer my farm and facilities as a site–I am located in Mid-America so centrally located to the US states–international airport at Little Rock–60 miles away–also train station there, so pick up would be fairly easily arrangeable–and though I don’t have a place to bed down a great number of people, I have a large aircraft hangar that could be turned into a large “bunk house” if everyone brought a blow up matteress, and I have a mobile commercial kitchen (licensed etc) that could feed 100-200 people 3 meals a day 3-people working it, for minimal cost, and there are fairly low cost motels within 20 miles for those that didn’t want to “camp out” in a bunk house. Temporary sanitary facilities are avaliable for rental very cheaply, so the cost of such a seminar should be very minimal compared to many held in larger hotels–so that just about anyone could afford to come. If anyone is interested in trying to get such a seminar going–say within the next year (it does take a long time to get this type of thing together, with programs etc. especially when you have 0$ working budget.) let me know and we could form a committee to investigate the fesibility, number of people who might be interested, etc. It might not even be possible, but at the same time, it might very well be possible.
I know that just spending one weekend with someone in such a self-affirming “holiday” sure made me feel as if I were reenergized.