The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
What a truly heart breaking story…and one to make us all sit back and thank God we all escaped our s’s. We at LF are the lucky ones. We have all suffered the pain, heart break, emotional rape, financial losses, etc,…but we are alive.
The story also demonstrates the need to educate our government officials, the police, the judges, the lawyers, about sociopaths. How many of us here at LF would have benefited if only the rest of the world really understood the utterly evil nature of these beings.
Today, I will say a prayer for all of our fallen military heroes, and give thanks for all they do and have done to protect our country. I will also say a prayer for all who have suffered at the hands of a sociopath, and for those who didn’t survive.
Sstiles54..
Amen to that…
The RED FLAGS were waving, screaming, warning…
The knowledge about the warning flags was not there nor provided to this 22 year old (as it wasnt for so many of us and generations before us and before them)
Knowledge is power…
Something is missing from our world…our education system from within our own homes to schools to law enforcement to government officials…something is dreadfully missing in teaching so many children to believe there is good in everyone or to do their best/give their best no matter what …SOMETHING IS MISSING IN OUR SOCIETY…I have no idea what it is…but it causing so many lives to be ruined beyond repair and/or lost forever…
My prayers to Kelsi and her family. Her mother did all she could once she became aware of the situation… my heart goes out to her.
The horrific cycle is never-ending in this world. Saddens me.
My deepest sympathy to the families in this familiar and heart-wrenching story.
I am encouraged by what Kelsi’s mother is doing. She is speaking out to audiences that include crime victims and (I assume) law enforcement and other professionals. In the final paragraphs of this article, there is this statement from the mother:
“I know what many of you are thinking. How in the world did a beautiful, intelligent, loving young lady with such a bright future fall for a total loser like that? I’ve often asked myself the same question. The answer is simple. The person she fell in love with never existed. It was an illusion created by him to defraud her into marrying him. Once married, he slowly began to reveal his true self, but she still believed in the basic goodness of humanity and got satisfaction from nurturing and helping others. He preyed upon this and deceived her with his charm and flattery, built up her trust, and then slowly isolated her from family and friends, and then it was all about power and control. Being the type of person she was, she believed in honoring her commitment even as she was beginning to realize that she had made a terrible mistake…”
In years past, before Lovefraud and before victims like us began to speak out, those thoughts would likely not have been expressed and certainly not understood.
The responsibility would have been laid upon the victim for her “gullibility,” or her “dependence” or her “weakness.” Law enforcement and the general public might have said “She drove him to do it” by her manner of dress, or her lack of submission, or any number of other false reasons. Today, because of what so many of you are doing here, that new message–that the responsibility lies solely with the disordered, deceptive, violent criminal–is being expressed and BELIEVED.
Huge thanks to Donna for this site, to Kelsi’s mother for turning her pain into action, and to everyone on this site for redefining what it is to be a victim of a psychopath.
I wish that cases like this one would never happen again.
Unfortunatelly can get away on time from these predators, hopefully one day the light will shine upon all of us.
love to you all
I pray that the sacrifice of this young woman to the ignorance about psychopaths will be the last life thrown away to ignorance…what you don’t know can KILL you, and that was obviously the case with this young woman.
God rest her soul!
Dear Soberana,
Glad you found your way to Love Fraud, whatever brought you here. there is a tremendous amount of information here, and I hope you will stay around and read and educate yourself on this type of thing. Welcome!
What a beautiful, kind and gentle woman Kelsi Miller was. A native Texas gal like myself.
Sounds to me, by the case story written by Miss Donna, that Jarrett was an extreme Borderline PD. He obviously had no control over his emotions and reacted, time and time again, with violence.
My older sister is a borderline and I could see her in his personality, actions and behaviors though clearly my sister is much, much more mild than this loser. Still, she has caused oodles of damage to her children and ex lovers. And to herself.
What is concerning me in particular about this tragic scenario is Jarrett’s childhood. Didn’t his parents deal with his crap day after day? Why didn’t they warn Kelsi about his propensity for violence, his incapacity for holding down a job?
Were they in denial about Jarrett? Were they like many parents who say…”oh, he’s a good boy. He doesn’t mean it when he hits stuff or yells and screams”? Or maybe they were in over the heads and terrified of Jarrett. I would be.
I just don’t get it and yes, I DO feel sadness for Jarrett’s parents, but they must have had many terrible instances of violence, emotional instability and disfunction while living with Jarrett.
This is beyond horrible. Another beautiful soul, another loving and good woman whos life is snuffed out so callously, so cruelly.
Heartbreaking….
Dear Jane,
I actually took note when the article referred to Kelsi choosing not to call her parents after Jarrett beat her in the face …but opted to call HIS parents to come pick her up in the parking lot…
What I took note of was that it was at the insistence of HIS MOTHER, that Kelsi call her mother and tell them what had happened. I found that to be very telling that HIS parents were not choosing to denial…at least at that point…
But all in all…I JUST DONT GET IT EITHER…as we all know at a certain point/age of child…we become unable to “control” any part of our kids lives and those that choose association with them irregardless of the red flags waving for ALL involved… :((
Its all so very sad…and scary to not have the tools to deal with Sociopaths, especially violent ones…from recognizing them to disassociating with them as a friend and/or lover upon the FIRST red flag…
I am referring our school guidance counselor to this sight… at 22 years old it is a HUGE eyeopener that we need to raise awareness that so much more needs to be done in educating people of the dangers as well as getting to the bottom of a treatment plan for the disordered individuals.
My comprehension of the magnitude of this situation world-wide is truly overwhelming.
Learnthelesson,
Yeah, apparently his mother was trying to help Kelsi but it wasn’t enough to save her life.
And, no, I’m not blaming his parents for Jarrett’s incorrigibility which led to the untimely and excrutiating death of the lovely Kelsi.
I’m just sick to my stomach and pissed off that this sick, toxic relationship continued for so long. Poor Kelsi didn’t seem to stand a chance with a twisted person like Jarrett.
Yes, hindsight is 20/20 but for pity’s sake!…it is so far beyond the time when folks should intervene in these situations. We can’t underestimate the extent to which PDIs will go to win at all costs. To maintain some perverted sense of control even if that control contributes to the merciless death of a loved one. Of a wonderful human being like Kelsi.
I don’t need to know her personally to care for her. She’s me. She’s you. She is all of us. Only we are still alive and she is not.
I did not interview Jarrett Weaver’s parents, but can say that they were aware of his issues and tried to help him.
A big issue here was the use of drugs. Jarrett was abusing multiple drugs, including steriods. The drug abuse got progressively worse, and that could have made him more violent.