The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
James
Rose
“James & Rosa: That’s interesting information, but it doesn’t look at whether the “loser” is actually a mentally unstable person. Not all people who are psychopathic or sociopathic are that predictable. This information is a little scary because it doesn’t let people know that there are very unstable people who sort of look like this, but who are actually dangerous.”
How true! Which is why I went further and researched this even more. But the list does open doors (questions) and believe it might help someone want to get more information and therefore begin to learn all about PD/S traits. Yes, to me it was a good starting point but no way does it answer all the questions.
James
“They are so completely stuck in their own heads, with their own crazy sense of entitlement to whatever thoughts flash through, that they can’t see us as separate humans in our own rights.”
Again very true. Something our uninvited guest made perfectly clear to us in that entry. What didn’t sit right with me was the subject matter and why post here? It took me two day before posting because in all truth I didn’t know what to say to the survivors of this horrific act. But for them it means nothing….
Rosa
I need to be reminded of these things on a constant basis because I am someone who is “easily sucked in”, even to this day.
Believe it or not, I am just learning about all of these tactics that losers/abusers use on their victims.
At the time, I knew a certain person was making feel horrible, but I had no idea that “tactics” were being used on me.
Rosa
Rune:
Believe it or not, looking back at the time when I was dating the ‘S’ boyfriend, I saw his control as love.
I thought, “He must really love me to go to these extremes to control me.”
I would tell myself, “No one else has ever gone to these extremes, so this must be love.”
I know it is sick and twisted, but that is how I was rationalizing it at the time.
Of course, he sabotaged himself by taking things too far over the line, and I began to recognize that this was not love AT ALL.
It is by the Grace of God that I was able to get out of that, because I was totally ignorant about personality disorders back then.
James
“I need to be reminded of these things on a constant basis because I am someone who is “easily sucked in”, even to this day. ”
Rose,
Ditto, which is why this information and sites like LF is as close as my finger tips. I just don’t want to get “suck” in again. I might have made it out alive this time and see myself as luckily. No way I will ever tempt fate again!
Rosa
James:
DITTO DITTO!
James
This is something I just added to my personal blog site and wanted to share it here. I believe I got this short story from a member here at LF, anyway…
People who suffer from personality disorder can be filled with hate. This explain why you will experience from time to time “narcissistic rages”. I believe whenever we fill ourselves up with hate it will consume us and will destroy all that which is good in that person sociality and the general public. So I would advise others to feed only the “good” wolf and starve the other one. Hate it self is pointless and will only promote more of the same.
~The Wolves Within~
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a schoolmate who had done him an injustice, Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.
He continued, It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing. Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked,
“Which one wins, Grandfather?” The Grandfather smiled and said, “The one I feed, son, the one I feed.
”
~ Author Unknown ~ (has been attributed to Shaw though)”
Hope all have a good day! 🙂
Rosa
Rune:
I believe that my sister-in-law “hunted down” my brother before she even met him.
She knew who he was before he knew who she was, and she targeted him right from the start.
Her plan has been a smashing success……so far.
James
Rosa and Rune,
This is something I believe to be true. They see someone and what they have and want it too. They will go through all types of tricks and games to get what they want and if someone gets in the way? Well, watch out! These people are serious about their prey just as much as a tiger on the chase! But animals are smarter, for them it’s all about hunger and energy and will quit if they can’t catch their prey. Not so s/p they will put themselves and others in danger to get what they want no matter what!
Rosa
James:
You are so right! They (S/P’s) are SCARY when they are in that “survival mode”.
I loved the “Wolves” story.