The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Ox Drover
Rosa, a friend of mine who has a P-son (and he has a P second wife) was keeping her granddaughter from visitin gher so she VOLUNTEERED at the Kid’s school so she could be near her and eat lunch with her some days. (She had actually raised this kid 24/7 from age 1 to age 8 when her son got remarried and took the child away from her) the girl is 13 now and see a bit more of her grandmother via her bio mom’s allowing her to visit when it is her turn to ahve the girl.
There is more than one way to kill a cat besides choking it to death with butter! You can also call the school annonomously and report abuse if you see bruises on the chld. Might want to think hard about that one though. (previously discussed)
Rosa
Oxy:
I know. I wil be thinking all summer about these things.
kelsis mom
I have set up a virtual cemetery for Kelsi Jordan Miller please visit at:
findagrave.com
to search for her you will have to fill in the country—USA
state—Texas county—Ector County—–cemetery—-Sunset Memorial Gardens surname —miller
learnthelesson
Dear Kelsis Mom,
IT IS A BEAUTIFUL WARM WONDERFUL DEDICATION TO YOUR DAUGHTER. THANK YOU FOR SHARING!
Kelsi’s picture are breathtaking…she sure did have a spiritedness and lovingness that shines through her photos…she was SO involved in community services and active in so many ways in her life…
What a tragedy. I hope you are doing ok and taking one day at a time. Kelsi has to be equally proud of you for sharing this painful journey of yours with others in hopes of bringing more awareness. I was particularly struck by her cause of death being listed as ” DOMESTIC VIOLENCE”…. not enough families are brave and strong enough to do that.
We are all here for you as you continue on your healing journey with Kelsi always in your heart and soul…
My daughters chose the flowers for Kelsi (forget me nots)…God bless you and your family…
Ox Drover
WITSEND–WHERE ARE YOU? Let us know you are okay!!! (((hugs))) and prayers.
shabbychic2
kelsis mom: I visited the memorial for your daughter and it is beautiful. I loved the pictures of her with the animals, especially the sheep! She really belonged to a lot of clubs! And Little Miss Texas!!… volunteering her time and talents to the terminally ill, what a wonderful girl. It just makes me cry to God… why is she gone so soon? I believe that someday we’ll understand why some souls are here on earth for such a short time, but right now I don’t understand it at all. She is still here in all your hearts, I know that. God bless and keep you and your family in his arms.
witsend
I just want everyone to know that I am ok…My computer is down and I am at the public library borrowinging a computer. I will try to read what I can to catch up as I miss this support system more than you know.
My older son is suppose to pick up my computer and have his friend look at it but he is getting married in 2 weeks and I am hoping he will find the time as it is “cruch time”.
I will try and check in at the library as time allows.
Rune
Witsend: I’m so glad to hear from you. Yes, we’ve missed you. I hope you are taking good care of yourself.
witsend
Rosa
Are you on now? I wanted to ask more about the rares/tantrums that you said your neice dislays? My son immediately following his fathers suicide did display something similar. I was wondering if it might be the same type of “display”?
OUT of nowhere he would fall to the ground flinging his arms and legs and his little face would be somewhat distorted as if he was either in pain or even somewhat like a seisure. I was never sure how to describe it to the doctor. Kind of like a seisure/tantrum/melt down. The first time I did experience it I DID think it was a seisure.
Nothing led up to these, it would be out of the blue. I consulted the doctor he saw right after the suicide and he believed them to be related to his young age and possibly like a “flash back” of the incident. Unable at his age to process what happened to him.
Does this sound similar to your neices?
I will only be able to use this computer for a little while, so please respond if you are online.
Rune
Witsend: A doctor looking at your son back then would likely make that assessment, and he would be very unlikely to think of anything else, since your husband’s suicide was so recent.
Temper tantrums are fairly common at the age your son was back then.
However, the extreme acting out could also be an early indicator of other reasons for concern.