The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
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witsend
This was MUCH more than a tantrum. And they didn’t exist until the week after the suicide. They also only lasted for a short period of time. Once he was sleeping and woke up with this going on.
I had to break it DOWN to even tell him what I saw. It was not simply a tantrum. It was kind of complex in that “alot” was going on all at the same time and I wasn’t sure what to focus on the most. I was fortunate in that a friend of mine witnessed one and could also relate to what what she saw.
Rune
Witsend: Have you said any of this to your son’s current therapist. This sounds like it might be something she should know.
Rosa
Witsend:
I think my niece’s tantrums are definitely tantrums, not seizures.
She usually does it when she does not get her way, but the behavior seems inappropriate to the situation. Do you know what I mean? It seems like she is over-reacting big time. Or maybe she is reacting to something else.
And I should also mention that she goes into these tantrums after she has been with her mother for a prolonged period of time.
For example, if I have not seen my niece in a week or longer, I have to sort of de-program her to get her back to being a calm little girl. She is a wreck after she has been with her mother too long.
I am so uptight over every tantrum or outburst because I am thinking “psychopath in the making” or PTSD, as opposed to normal child.
What bothers me is how she will come out of it in a split second and go back to “normal”.
Sometimes she just screams at the top of her lungs. She does not really cry. She comes out of these screaming tantrums in a split second, too.
But, there is usually a trigger for the tantrums, even if it is something small.
I don’t know if this helps.
Ox Drover
Witsend, Glad you are okay and able to get on line at least for a little while.
Seizures can be complex, did he stop having these, or have they continued?
If they have continued, did they change?
Does he seem to be aware of what he is saying/doing?
Is he sleepy afterwards?
Does he have a memory of what just happened?
Does he strike himself? Others? Objects?
Has he seen a neurolopgist about these? Been tested for seizures?
Temper tantrums or just “tangrums” are more or less common in children at young ages, and even in some teenagers, but at the same time “rages” can be somewhat like temper tantrums.
My Non-P son had one or two temper tantrums (crying, screaming and stomping because he didn’t get something he watned when he was 2-3, but my P son never had a temper tantrum.
As an adolescent and young adult though, his RAGES at being confronted by his unacceptable behavior were awesome!
Rosa, with your niece, I would advise just pretending that she is NOT even there when she acts out like this—let her throw her fit and “don’t notice” it. If she sees it doesn’t get attention, she will eventually stop. Kids do WHATEVER GETS THEM ATTENTION (doesn’t matter positive or negative, just attention) She may also be acting like her mother does.
Tilly
Yes! Acting like her mother does definitely! And she also wants attention but has no “valid” reason to get it so throws a fit. She is reflecting to everyone what is going on in the household..the underlying anxt of it all.
Rune
This mimicking behavior is part of why it is so dangerous (for the future) for psychopathic parents to have custody or extended visitation with their children.
I’ve also watched a psychopath deliberately train his child to behave in a psychopathic fashion — lying, carrying a sense of entitlement, closing off emotions.,
Rosa
Tilly/Rune:
You are both right on.
Rosa
Oxy:
You are right on.
Right on ladies!!
Rosa
Rune:
You might appreciate this. Got a call 45 minutes ago to babysit at 4:00. That’s about as much notice as we get.
I just say, “Yeah, no problem, drop her off.” (Being careful not to act too eager, of course)
If I would have called her this morning and asked if she needed me today, the answer would have been “NO”.
It is a pathetic game, and a pathetic way to live. I don’t recommend it to anyone.
If there is no child involved, cut your losses and GET OUT!
Tilly
Rosa:
I know it still hurts when you see it, but at least you know EXACTLY what it is ! And you can start to do what OXY says to do (But I can’t do this YET) and that is… ACCEPT IT !! PHEW!!
Now thats a hard one!