The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Rosa
Tilly:
Thanks. I guess that is all I can do.
“Cutting out the cancer” is not really an option right now.
Because I really want to “cut out the cancer”.
But if I “cut out the cancer” the way I want to, I will be in prison. 🙁
Rune
Rosa: You might try saying, “Oh, dear. I was going to go out at 4:00. (Sigh.) Well, maybe I can rearrange . . . ”
If she knows she’s creating inconvenience for you, she may ask you to babysit MORE often!
Tilly
I had a shocker of a day today! Can’t begin to tell you how bad it was! I feel like my life is over. NO-ONE OUT THERE UNDERSTANDS ME!!
But guess what Rosa???
WE ARE NOT IN PRISON!!!
Now THATS SOMETHING!!
Talking on LF anytime we want to, sure beats sitting in a cell 24×7 with a bigger percentage of psychopaths than there are out here ( I think)….
Rosa
Tlly:
You are right!!
witsend
Hi everyone,
Not having a computer really stinks! Its one of those things that you don’t realize how much you appreciate until your without.
Oxy the seizure/tantrums/melt downs “whatever” you want to call them that my son had were for a period right after the suicide and didn’t happen for very long.
They had nothing to do with getting his way and happened out of the blue. I would say thay had nothing to do with what was going on at the “moment”. No triggers. I concluded long ago that my sons “whatever” it was had to do with flash backs or memories of that day.
The reason I had asked about Rosa niece was because I wondered if this was something similar that she was going through.
However it sunds like her niece is having good old fashioned tantrums.
I am going to read some as I only have about a half hour or so to be on here.
Ox Drover
Dear Witsend,
Glad to know you are okay, at least you are keeping my blood pressure down when you check in even for one post to say “I’m OK” (((Hugs))))
It really doesn’t sound like a “seizure” per se, but some emotional reaction and not understanding what all was going on. children at that age don’t really grasp what death is so it is difficult for them to understand. In a way not understanding may be beneficial and in other ways it may be more traumatic for him.
From what you said about your MIL being in TOTAL DENIAL about your husband’s drinking even in the face of 50 empty vocka bottles in his room after he was dead, etc. it is obvious that your husband did not grow up in a “functional” and healthy environment. What was his father like? Did your MIL swear he didn’t drink EITHER?
Just gut reaction I would say that your MIL had denied your husband’s problems for his entire life, and sometimes disordered people ALSO have other problems like addictions, depression, bi-polar, and personality disorders.
I would be willing to guess with your huband drinking that much there were “problems” in your marriage and/or relationship, and also problems with your in-laws as well. So there is a whole raft of things here that could environmentally as well as GENETICALLY effect your son’s behavior.
Plus there is NO telling what your husband may have said to the kid before he killed himself. If he did say something to your son, blaming you for example, or blaming your son, your son may not remember or have blocked it out.
As long as your son, though, has this feeling of being ENTITLED to what he wants without reciprocity or cooperating with you (and society) and as long as he has this RAGE against authority, and the other TRAITS and BEHAVIORS associate with psychopathy, it doesn’t in my opinion, matter WHAT made him think that way, whether it is genetic or enviornmental or a combination of both, the point is that he will NOT ALLOW YOU, OR ANYONE ELSE, to “help” him.
Psychopathic traits and behaviors can be displayed in many ways, at the Columbine school shooting, the “nice kid” was the psychopath, but the rebellious kid ALSO was a participitant in the murders. Teenagers are well known to listen to their peers and be invluenced (for better or worse) by their peers and not their parents, and if there is some really off the wall ANGER, or distorted thinking, and the inability or refusal to delay adult priviledges until adult responsibilities are also included, kids can “step over the edge.”
I know you want to help your son, find out what is wrong, and I definitely know that feeling, but my concern is that you CONTINE to couple it with SAFETY for yourself. My prayers are with you and your son as well. (((hugs))))
Stargazer
I am so saddened by Kelsi’s story. What a tragic loss of a young life. I can only surmise that she was an exceptionally caring and compassionate person, and her S played the sympathy card to the nth degree and brainwashed her. To Kelsi’s mom, my heart goes out to your family. I know other’s lives will be spared by reading her story, which is probably little consolation to you.
hens
here in oklahoma we have a law that was passed called ‘Kelsi’s Law’ it is about a little 2 year old toddler, she was adorable, blonde hair blues – was in a body cast from multiple beating’s from her stepfather, child welfare kept sending her back home to the abuser despite the real fathers plea’s for help – after he killed her they discovered a history of physical and sexual abuse – the step father is doing life in the pen and kelsi’s mother got 20 years for allowing it to happen – I think the case worker and the judge should do time as well….
witsend
Oxy,
Yeah when my son had those melt downs or whatever you choose to call them the doctor felt it was reaction to the trama. He was young enough to not even realize what “DEAD” even was exactly. However he spent hours with him alone and frustrated and scared as no one met any of his “needs” that day. For a small child an entire day might have felt like an eternity…..
I never really thought them to be actual “seizures” per say….The melt downs had a combination of things going on to describe what actually happened during the time he was experiencing them. And some were “seizure” like, some were like “melt down” or emotional break down, and some were tantrum like with the arms and legs in motion. ALL AT the SAME time.
My husband, my sons father was ADOPTED. My MIL could never have children and she NEVER should have had children. But she adopted him. Very messed up woman. By far the most self centered/MEAN awful woman I have ever met in my life. If she isn’t an N, she is the closest to thing I have ever encountered.
My father in law by comparison is a pretty nice guy. However he “allowed” alot of stuff to go on when my husband was growing up in this household as he is a “door mat” kind of personality when it comes to his wife.
Right now I am doing ok. The program that I spoke of started on Tuesday. School is out.
My older son is getting married in a week. So I might be busy next week but will try to check in.
I hope to get my computer fixed soon because now that school is out is it hard to get computer time at the library!
Ox Drover
Dear Witsend,
Glad to know what is going on so won’t “worry” if I don’t hear from yo0u for a couple of days! Hope your older son’s wedding is wonderful and for a little while you can have some happiness and joy with your other son and his bride.
I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts, Witsend. It sounds like your late husband had the “worst of both worlds genetic and environmental ” probably a dysfunctional (psychopathic ()? set of biological parent(s)?) AND a Narcissistic and/or psychopathic adoptive mom with a passive milktoast adoptive dad.
Your son has reaped the “harvest” of this mess another generation down the line. It is the “family gift” that KEEPS ON GIVING, generation after generation.
Keep your chin up and have a good time at the wedding!@ (((Hugs))))