The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Hey guys, just went out to grocery store and met the s on the road and he waved. Im still thinking at times that he’s the illusion but i know better, it’s just that you want to beleive so badly that he cares. My father is very ill right now and it’s hard to beleive that i spent 6 years addicted to a man that gave nothing. I’ve been a while in the no contact and busy with my son who was home for a visit an d now back out west and it’s starting to sink in that i have nobody other than my children etc. The 6 years i spent with the s , i feel as though i was lovestarved and it would be so nice to have a man who cared and i know i’ve proven that i can take care of myself but at times i think, “gosh wouldn’t it be nice to have a sleepover with some man who truly cares about me” . The s never spent 1 neight in 6 years at my home . I’ve got lots to keep me occupied it’s just that i feel like i’ve been so deprived and the truth is , i have been. I know when the time is right it will happen but it seems like it’s been a long time coming. I look around me and it seems as if most of my gf’s will settle for someone here and there but i kept hanging on to the s. the old devil you know is better but i know it’s just fear and i have a good reason to be fearful. Im hoping that in the near future i’ll at least be will ing to date but for now im so dam lonely at times. love kindheart
kindheart48:
I was wondering how it was going for you and your father. I’ve had about 6 hours of sleep since I rushed my mother to the hospital last Friday night and have been pretty much up at the ICU ever since.
One thing I realized about staying with the devil you know — you can only do that if you’re getting something worthwhile from him. At least that way you can justify the tradeoffs ie good sex even though he’s an asshole. However, when you are getting zip in return and putting up with an asshole, what’s the point?
That’s what I did with S, and never again. At the moment I’ve got somebody in my life — nice guy, great sex, but I’ve got zero interest in him outside the bedroom. So, while it works for the moment, I realize I need more. Which I guess is a sign how far I’ve come that I miss the S less and less each day and can actually contemplate not only being in a relationship which is based just on sex, but that I — that’s right — me, myself and I actually deserve to have my needs met — both emotionally and sexually — as opposed to what I had with S — which was none of the above.
Matt, unfortunately the asshole was impotent almost from the getgo so it’s no wonder i feel a little shorted(pardon the pun) and i was insanely loyal(stupid stockholm syndrome) the whole 6 years. Hopefully i get a real stud next time and i wish i could do the casual sex thing but im too dam afraid to even venture into that realm. I think i need to have feelings for someone before i get myself into trouble again. Sorry to hear about your mom. My stepmom just left, i fed her dinner and made a plate up for her and i was a lttle down about my Dad but she’s pretty optimisti c tonight as he had all the tubes etc. take n out and he said not to ocount him out yet and he did eat a little solid food today so although the longterm prognosis isn’t very good , he’s anxious to get home to the farm. Im staying out of contact with my brother for the time being but im not letting it affect me visiting my father. I wish things were different and we were closer my brother and i but i understand with the alcoholism etc. that he’s not going to be the best person he can be and that’s ok but i’m going to do what i feel is best regardless of what he thinks. It’s all about control and im so done with having people control me. When i saw the s today i went into the magical thinking but i can’t go back as i get shaky and anxious just thinking or seeing him and i know that’s a sign i ignored for way too long. When someone makes you feel edgy , go the other way. I read somewhere , that it’s a paradoxical response to trauma and it sure has been my experience . Crazy how i would go right to something that made me feel so horrible, but it’s the little bit of comfort and i mean Little that kept me going back. I will just suffer through the loneliness and hope that it pays off some day and i find that special someone and same for you. It’s good that at least you are realizing you want more, you are knowing more of yourself. I know i’m still trying to figure out what the heck it is that i want. love kindheart.
Hi Kindheart,
I only read the last couple comments on this post, I plan on reading more later. I hope your father improves soon.
I was insanely loyal to my S, as well, even though he couldn’t get it up sometimes, and always used sex for power. We’d go weeks w/o having sex, it was awful. I’m not comfortable having casual sex either, so I hope that someday we can meet good men who meet all of our needs. I hope that someday is soon! I did not have sex with anyone but the S for TEN years, even when we were separated–so I feel your pain! Your mention Stockholm syndrome made me laugh, bc I’d wondered if I had it myself in the past. There really is no other option aside from waiting for that right person–someone that will make us forget the S ever even existed.
Matt,
“One thing I realized about staying with the devil you know you can only do that if you’re getting something worthwhile from him. At least that way you can justify the tradeoffs ie good sex even though he’s an asshole. ***However, when you are getting zip in return and putting up with an asshole, what’s the point?***”
***AMEN!***
If I were to make a list of pros/cons of the S, I think the only pro would be “sense of humor” which looking back, wasn’t all that funny since most of it was hidden truths/clues to who he really was!
Done and Matt, about the only pro i can come up with is my s was extreemely sarcastic which is a humour im ashamed to admit to enjoying and i do think that at some level i identified with his pain , it’s hard to explain but as much as i am emotionally a total 180 fro m him there was something i identified with him. Still not quite sure what it was , i was at the lowest point of my life when i met him and i think when im extremely down and lonely i always knew that i could count on him to take advantage, wow i just answered my own question. What a revelation, kind of come and kick me when im down . He definately was not the person you wanted to jump for joy with , more of a spoiler of fun.
Done and kindheart48:
At least you both have one pro you can come up with. I can’t even come up with one. 15 months I put up with him and what did I get? Lousy sex, endless agita and a person who wasn’t even a good date since he wasn’t all that bright and a lousy conversationalist.
What the hell was I thinking? Oh. That’s right. I wasn’t.
i hate to sound like a broken record with this same issue over and over but it drives me nuts because i know how stupid my thinking is, i get this thinking that he’s going to be better with the next person, his new biker chick. I know on one hand how stupid it is, what is he going to not be a sociopath with her? Do you guys ever think that way. Hope for the day when i don;t give a dam how he’s treating anyone . It’s prob because i get infuriated when i think of how shitty he was with me and how i allowed it. Hit me with that dam frying pan will you guys. Hahah
Kindheart – We will both get a fryin pan and take turns boinking each other. I am afraid to even mention that I still feel that way cause Oxy will get me good. Been well over a year now and I still have those thoughts. But then I think OK he was in HOW MANY bad relationships before me? And he met the new guy and in a matter of a few weeks moved in with him? Duh – do the math HENRY – he found somebody new that he can con and manipulate and play his power games…yeah I am sure it was all hunky dory at first – and if he found true love and happiness and is better off with out me than so be it – I sure as hell dont want to ever live the nitemare I lived with him again. I think what makes us think that way is because overtime they destroy who we were and we are left with this big mess (us) too fix so it doesnt happen again and they just get to go on being assholes…and I know with out a doubt he is a sociopath – at least I have stopped questioning myself about that – I know I did alot of bad things but I know why – so in time I wont wonder if he is happier without me cause in reality he never knew me to begin with – it was not his desire to get to know me but to get what he could – knowing the whole time it was a tempory thing for him
kindheart: He is not going to be better with the next person (the biker chick). He’s a impotent asshole, he hasn’t changed, he never will, there is no miracle here that he is suddenly a loving & caring person, a fantastic lover. He’s still an impotent asshole. I was with a N/S for years who suffered from PE, he would only last about 30 seconds! He was an asshole too. Now I just pity anybody he’s with. I might be alone and lonely sometimes, but I’m not with that jerk. Oh, and the first time I had sex with somebody after I broke up with him, well, um, it lasted for quite a while, and, um, well, I couldn’t believe I put up with the other crap!!! What was I thinking? (as Matt said “I wasn’t”). So if I am ever in a relationship again the sex will have to be good and the relationship will have to be good. At least that is something to look forward to instead of something limp, if you catch my drift.