The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
shabby – nevermind……rotflmao
Kindheart:
I agree with ShabbyChic2.
He is not going to be better with the next person. He might try to make it “appear” like it’s better, because he wants to rub your face in it (if he’s anything like mine was). But it is all fake.
If your relationship with this guy was anything like mine was with my ex S boyfriend, the only thing real in this whole situation was YOUR LOVE FOR HIM. Everything else was an illusion that he created with lies.
Ladies, if you are lonely, you need to get a vibrator. Vibrators are wonderful. 🙂
At least until the right man comes along.
henry, Ha. I know. Me too. ROTFLMAO feels better than anything he ever did!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
ROSA – I was going to say that…but my x didnt have erectile dysfunction just a personality dysfunction……..
I dont think this was the kind of support Kindheart was needing. people dont change – we dont change – we learn about ourselves and about other’s and that is not always good – so we move on and try to do better and be better – I will never see my X again – that is comforting to me now….
Henry:
It is after midnight and I am obviously getting tired and loopy.
I need sleep.
Kindheart,
As long as you go back and back in your thinking, you will stay stuck.
No, Henry, I won’t BOINK you for that, I know a certain amount of this is natural and normal with us all. In fact, this past week I got an idea when I read this really great book on psychopathic kids that if I gave a copy to my egg donor she would see my P-son in it and SEE THE LIGHT. I even thought that I could have contact with her (not trusting her of course) but even after I had ordered an extra copy of teh book for her I still felt that way and then BOINK, my cast iron skillet flew jout of the oven ALL BY ITSELF and BOUINKED ME ON THE HEAD and I realized that ALL THE GOOD BOOKS IN THE WORLD aren’t going to change her IRON CLAD DENIAL.
Our minds will try to go back, but WE HAVE TO USE OUR BRAINS to take control of our thinking and WE CAN IF WE WORK AT IT.
Kindheart, do you really want to BE some “biker chick” so you could be “loved by” him with his limp willie? Get your chit together, all the advice and support from us isn’t going to do any good if you don’t put it into practice! NO MAN is going to make your life complete, you must do that for yourself, and THEN and only then can you have a good relationship with a GOOD MAN.
Until WE stop the MAGICAL THINKING that someone else is going to “make us happy” and “make me complete” we would just go round and round in a circle picking one broken Psychopath after another and trying to fix them or hold on to them. Been there and done that and I’m tired of being on a hamster wheel, it gets you no where! (((hugs))) and my prayers for all of us!
OxDrover:
How went the barn burning? That’s one way to drive the sociopaths off your land.
Dear Matt,
Well, actually it is not on fire yet! However, I have not heard one word from them about their stuff. It has actually been unsafe to torch it recently, HOWEVER, my sons went through the stuff left down there and saw several things that they wanted so they are hauling out what they want before we do torch it. Most of the stuff has been totally ruined by moisture, mice, and so on, but there are tools and other odds and ends that are still okay and would be useful so they are taking what of it that they want before the torching.
My son D who has actually known these people for longer than I have, and, at ONE TIME idolized them both (but fortunately now sees the light) said he predicts that we won’t hear from them for MONTHS as they have no problem “imposing” on us by keeping the place crammed to the rafters so that we can’t get in there to salvage the useful items from the structure before we burn it.
Copnsidering that she has stolen several thousand dollars worth of stuff from me, over the years (some of which I have actually found and retrieved) and many many “sentimental” items of little or no monetary value, I don’t have a problem with the boys getting whatever there is there that they can use or want. I know she has a couple of rented storage lockers elsewhere that she probably has most of MY stuff in so that I would not prowl around and accidently find it but there were a few things of mine I DID find.
The biggest BENEFIT to this whole thing was that my son D has FINALLY SEEN THE LIGHT about these people. the man was his scout master and later friend from the time he was a little kid. The wife puts on this “sweetness and light” act that is priceless. She knows I have seen through her entirely though, and now is BARELY able to stand to be around me the few times I have seen her. I’ve caught her violating boundaries so many times (like one of NOT coming here if she doesn’t call first or if I am not home or it is not convenient) I’ve caught her a couple of times trying to sneak in here to the farm….I’m not sure what she is after that doesn’t belong to her but there is SOMETHING. LOL
We have combination locks on all outbuildings and the gate which we lock when we leave so she would be unable to get into any building, or to actually drive on to the farm but doesn’t keep her jfrom TRYING. LOL The last time she showed up here (thinking I would be gone that day) and I caught her she was so tight-jawed I thought she would break her teeth. I just pretended like I swallowed her cover story and NEVER LET HER OUT OF MY SIGHT. At that time they still had a FEW items here that belonged to them. I just followed her around while she loaded up a few, keeping up a “polite chatter” all the time.
I actually would tell them to get F’d except I need his testimony in a law suit I have against a major aircraft manufacturer who stole the aviation equivalent of a “patent” for some equipment my husband invented and used it without payment to him. I have a good aviation specialist attorney AND an intellectual property attorney so there is a good chance I will eventually prevail for some settlement. But I have decided that WHATEVER happens about the testimony, it doesn’t matter to me—even if it means I lose the case.
I’m just tired of dealing with them. The fact that my son D finally sees the “light” about them is really all that matters to me. He is INTENSELY LOYAL to his friends and until he saw the light about what they ARE and waht they DO, that they are USERS and do NOT attempt to help themselves, but sponge off of others and use and abuse others, as well as out right theft of anything that they want that you have, they feel entitled to take for themselves. Even if it is something they actually have NO USE for, I could see that it hurt him very much for me to be “angry” at them.
He felt caught in the middle between two opposing groups that he loved both of. Now at this time, HIS pain about that is gone. He is saddened of course, but he realizes the TRUTH of what they ARE. What they have done. Sees that all the years that he did things for them were unappreciated.
My “diagnosis” on them has changed from when I first saw that they were dysfunctional and to teh extent. I think she is a very high level N, bordering on P, with ENTITLEMENT and a great deal of envy, but no remorse at all. The man of the couple is a dependent personality disorder who wants others to do for him, but narcissistic enough to feel entitled to people to do things for him, to take on his problems. He is physically disabled (broke his back at age 19, had many surgeries over theyears) but is now a “chronic pain patient” doing a huge amount of drugs (legall and illegal) and unwilling to take responsibility for his own life or do for himself what he CAN DO. he lives in a fantasy land financially and does not manage money well, so they are going deeper and deeper into poverty, ,and resent the hell out of the fact that I have what I have, and feel entitled to me helping them, providing for them, etc. Thank God I got on to that and put a stop to it a while back when I told them they must leave here about a year ago. I had allowed them to park their motor home here free, just pay their own utilities, and to use my facilities, etc. but they wanted me to give them a “deed” to the place and cow-tow to their wishes, desires, etc. and I was just getting to where I could start to see that I was WALKING ON EGG SHELLS around them so I wouldn’t offend them. LOL
That was about a year ago, and it seems a long time ago in some ways, but I actually cried for three days before I told them that they would have to LEAVE HERE “IT JUST WASN’T WORKING”….It was odd too, that they never even asked “Why” LOL On their way out, she took 2 plastic 5 gal water jugs I had for camping (just didn’t know what happened to them of course LOL)
I can sit here now, though, and look back and actually laugh at how I was afraid to confront either of them, how guilty I felt about “turning them out” of a place to stay. Gosh, I HAVE COME A LONG WAY in a year.
Learning to set firm and reasonable boundaries with people who are “close” to me has always been a problem, but now I am able to do that, so in the end, I got a good lesson and some practice in doing just that. My son finally saw the light, and there has been growth around it all. I also realize that though these people can be bright, funny, charming, etc. that they didn’t add anything to my life but chaos and problems.
I’m looking at things a great deal more logically and less emotionally than I did last year at this time.
Ox you are right with your advice. All i have to do is look at the losers track record and it speaks volumes. And the part about looking to someone else for happiness is definatley my weak spot. I did the same with my husband and iremember quite well when he left , i knew then and there that if he couldn’t make me happy, nobody could but i’ts just so natural for my thinking to go in that direction but i know that im responsible for my own happiness. I’ve always looked outside myself for happiness, be it in the booze, another person, anything but inward . It’s like rewiring my thinking and very hard to do but i know i’ve tried all the other ways and they didn’t work. Thanks for being straight with me . kh