The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Done, i can so relate to being wary with other men. My gf last night was commenting on being in the grocery store and she said she looks leary at all men. My s was over the tope OCD, HENCe living in the garage with tv and cooking facilites just not to mess up his house and never used any of his things just uses people. My point is im now able to pick up on anal and obsessive men very quickly and it’s amazing how many are. You are right about how we prob wouldn’t know a decent guy but we sure know the ones that aren’t and to be honest i think it’s like finding a needle in a haystack. I’ve had enough no contact now that i can see the downside more easily. Example is if he had let me spend the night at his house instead of the biker chick last night i would a. not had awink of sleep due to his snoring and overall anxiety,b. not even be offered breakfast but sent on my way pronto,and c. i would be obsessing about a piece of garbage all over again. Im able to see the negatives more by just staying in no contact. Im in the processs of changing phone companies so now even the s daughter can’t call me and when i woke up this morn i thought because of no contact, why the hell was i involved with those losers in the first place. No contact is better than any pill or program or shrink or therapist, gives you clarity, the old Forest for the Tress. love kindheart
‘No contact is better than any pill or program or shrink or therapist, gives you clarity, the old Forest for the Tress. love kindheart’
Way to go Kindheart!:)xx What a positive post! Its wonderful (in a way) when that ‘OMG WTF was I doing with this disgusting loser’ penny drops:)x
Thanks everyone!
Tilly,
I def. didn’t mean to come off as seeming like I need a man to be happy. I definitely DONT. I just meant that sometimes, when I’m overwhelmed, I wonder if I’ll ever meet a decent man. While I don’t need a man to make me happy, sometimes I feel impatient to meet someone to share my life with. I feel like I put up with so much grief and BS that I deserve to meet a man that “makes me happy” by complimenting my happiness, not being the source of it.
I’m probably not ready to enter a new relationship right now as it’s only been five weeks NC tomorrow. A co-worker introduced me to a friend last weekend, who seems very decent. I’m just not attracted to him and I’ve been wondering if it’s as simple as “He’s just not the one” or if maybe I’m just not giving him a chance, which led to the thinking-“what if I am never able to give a nice guy a chance?” My S left me very damaged and I sometimes wonder if I’ll ever fully recover, but even if I never do meet a decent guy-I know that I’d be better off alone than with a S.
I’m hopeful that I will heal, meet someone and love & trust again. I was just trying to say to Kindheart that I think it’s normal to have those doubts sometimes. She said she sometimes has a “hard time even picturing herself in a normal relationship” and I can relate.
Erin,
Good point about boundaries. That’s something I am starting to realize…that I had few to none! I’m going to work on setting some boundaries that apply to everyone in my life, not just the S or any future S’s I may encounter. I’m reevaluating ALL of my relationships now and getting rid of the ones that waste my time/energy. Spring cleaning for my life!
Internal weeding:)
Done:
Oh, I think we all had boundries…..they just applied to hurt caused us. We never knew how to enforce them to avoid the hurt.
We became the ‘buffer zone’ and absorbed the pain rather than confronting the person mistreating us or stepping on our ‘loosley set boundry’.
It takes some time and practice to learn about yourself and your boundries…….but when you start enforcing them, you will realize, it’s really not a hard spot to be in and it doesn’t have to be negative.
Good for you…..get that ‘house’ cleaned up and it will be a new ‘freeing’ start for ya!
It’s all about our evolution!!!!
🙂
hey guys, yes my boundaries suck too and my physicatrist has been enforcing them . Nothing was about me with the s, it was all me me me. Talked to the one woman from years before me and she said in the end everything was about him so they never change but i guess it’s normal to think we may have exaggerated. Im glad we are all in the same boat so to speak and i hope all of us meet great people and i like many of you feel as though i’ve certainly paid my dues but i’ll have to settle for being on my own for the time being. Im trying not to focus on all that i’ve wasted and the years i’ve lost focusing on the moron. When i first me t the s and called his ex wife when the true him was emmerging i’ll never forget what she said ” i’ve wasted 5 years” and she’s alot younger, now i’m saying the same so they just keep repeating aimlessly the same shit over and over, nothing , meaningless time. We on the other hand have substance and compared to them we are so blessed , they on the other hand are shallow empty shells with no souls. We all deserve to have decent people in our lives and i find myself in aw e when i see any normal man and woman together as it’s a reminder of what little i received. I owe him nothing, not even an acknolgement(bad spelling) . My dad is home from hospital zumming around on a golf cart out to the shop even though the prognosis isn’t good but he’s a survivor and i am going to concentrate on people who have true meaning in my life, not bloodsuckers like the s and his daughter. love kindheart
I’m glad to hear your dad is out and feeling better!
im sitting here wondering what it is in me that made me so suceptible to the sociopath as i know there has to be a reason for this empty wound that i tried to fill with him. I guess i will never know the answer but i do think there is a vulerability factor to the victims as i feel that i wanted approval from someone who could reject me over and over. I read somewhere that at some point in our lives we can meet someone who triggers in us something that makes us try and recreate our past and i feel as though this is def what happened in my case. Recreate trying to get my dad’s approval from someone similar. At any rate it sucks to say the least and i still feel suceptible even though i know all that i know. That little girl in me is still wanting to be loved and accepted so badly. love kindheart
Kindheart48:
You have to be your “own prince”. e.g. for the last five years I have always bought myself a rose on valentines day and gone to a restaurant (on my own or with girlfriends) and had a yummy meal. You have to do all those things for yourself that you “need” from “your prince”. Try it, it works!