The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Rosa,
I don’t know if we do have behavioral therapist in my area…Will have to look into that?
I do NOT have alot of options with therapy though as my son has medicaide and I have been VERY frustrated with the doors that medicaide closes as far as having choices/options all along.
I was on a waiting list (for a long time) for therapy as I have no insurance.
I am going to the library to see about that book that Rune has suggested.
Thanks everyone for going into the other thread to talk to jillsmith. I didn’t want her post to get missed.
Rune, what did you learn about cognative behavioral therapy?
Witsend: CBT is a therapy that teaches us to recognize emotions that come up and choose to acknowledge them, but not be ruled by them. That’s a simplistic description. But this is a technique that is also taught through several popular courses, including “The Sedona Method.”
For me, this allowed me to recognize the overwhelming feelings of despair or grief or rage in the moment, and then “address them.” Rather than be swept away, thinking that the emotion of the moment was THE WHOLE TRUTH IN MY LIFE, I could acknowledge the information they brought but also realize that the emotions are not the entire story.
This has been a very helpful tactic for me in dealing with PTSD. However, you might note that it just strengthens and validates a sociopath’s tendency to dismiss emotions and compartmentalize their actions.
Others may have more to add on this subject, but this is how I see it.
I have found CBT extremely useful in my situation, particularly with regard to the compulsion to ‘rake over’ what happend and ‘why’. But I completely agree that it could be a perfect tool for a sociopath to dismiss and compartmentalize poor behaviour.
NORMAL LPEOPLE can profit from CBT if they are motivated and supported.
PSYCHOPATHS become worse as they learn to manipulate better. My P son has had lots of therapy (After my divorce which was traumatic I put the three of us into CBT for 2 yrs) Boy, did that HELP HIM! NOT!!!! He has the lingo down pat!
Well, Oxy, you’ve supported what I heard about CBT and psychopaths.
I know, though, that for me CBT was the right thing at the right time to help me not drown in the flooding emotions that were part of my trauma.
Witsend:
I am not talking about sending your son to therapy.
I am talking about therapy that will give YOU the verbiage/techniques that you need to address your son at home on a day to day basis, especially when you see the troubling behavior.
You would DEFINITELY NOT TELL your son you are receiving this type of therapy.
And you would DEFINITELY NOT TELL him when you are using the techniques you learned at therapy on him.
I am no expert on this, and I have only just started researching.
But, there are techniques that you can use to intervene when you see the troubling behavior.
I am seeing behavior in my 5-yr-old niece that I don’t like, and she does not always respond well to conventional methods of discipline.
So, I am looking for ways to intervene when I see behaviors that could escalate and become problematic later.
The key is to intervene without telegraphing it in advance and coming in with all “guns blazing”, if you know what I mean.
The method is a little sneaky and stealthy, but when you are dealing with at-risk children or a teen showing psychopathic tendecies, conventional methods sort of go out the window.
I don’t know, maybe it is as simple as reading one of the books that have already been recommended to you.
Maybe you have already tried these tactics.
But, I am going to continue researching on my niece’s behalf. I will let you know if I find anything that would be beneficial to you.
I used to be afraid that the s would kill me. It was this really deep down, low laying feeling within myself, that almost seemed like a paranoid shadow. I would dismiss this feeling almost immediately as it would come up. I would rationalize it.
But now I think that it would have been possible. He read about killings and serial killers obsessively, he was very conning in his ways. He would set up elaborate traps for people and had a year or two criminal science major under his belt. He also had all the tools and physical strenght for killing.
I think he would have staged my death as an accident; in particular as such as a very degrading accident. For instance such as me drowning in my own vomit from drinking or commiting suicide.
I do not think that these were paranoid thoughts. I think it was a serious warning from the primal-self protection center of my brain trying to tell me to run…
It is no surprise though, every week we see a case of a s killing someone close to him/her on the news.
Rosa,
thanks for clarifing! I’m sorry sometimes I have so many ideas coming at me I am slow reording them in my brain. Lol
I NEED ideas so I want them to keep coming!
I am NOT familiar with it. The only door open to me for therapy right now is I am going to a college and seeing a student. I will ask him what he knows about this.
AS that is EXACTLY what I need. TOOLS to use with him on a daily basis.
This is where I feel I am loosing the battle and contributing to his disorder because I DON’T know what I am doing right or wrong anymore. Regular parenting doesn’t work.
I will definitely keep you posted on anything I find out.