The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
The last time I spoke to him a few years ago he said he had a file on me to prove I’m insane should he need it. I believe him.
LifesOutcastofDeath:
“not all sociopaths are evil.”
Could you please elaborate on your above statement and be a little more specific??
Broad generalizations and blanket statements don’t really work here.
Don’t be shy, and please provide examples to back up your statements like the rest of us.
I AM ALL EARS!!!
Dear Tilly,
My sperm donor treated me the same way though I was his daughter not his wife, and I KNOW HE HAS KILLED at least twice, though he actually claims 70 deaths to his “credit”–he lies about so much there is no way to know the real number of people he has killed. I am very fortunate he did not kill me as well.
Leaving with nothing but the clothes on my back was my only option, and his last wife (the mother of his children) before I went to live with him, left with her life, the clothes on her back adn didn’t even get her own children. so you are fortunate in that aspect, you at least got your kids. He had hit that wife (3rd of 7 that I know of) on the BACK of the head so hard he bounced her brain off her skull inside and blacked both eyes. Apparently only one of his 4 known kids turned out to be a P as far as I am able to find out. I have not had contact with my half sibs since I left in 1966 except one call from the one I think is a psychopath. What makes me think he is a P? He IDOLIZES the sperm donor who was admittedly violent and whose violence my half bro SAW.
Even after my P told me he was going to kill someone (me) I still ignored the warning! He was forever (saying he was sorry) ! Alcohol was the key that unlocked the devil! Each time I gave in , the cycle would shorten! The last time within 24 hrs.
We are taught or I was taught that Love conquers all things that love will turn the tide!
I continued to disregard the signs because I was in love with the potential and I believed the Lies. It was not until I connected the Name to the undeniable behavior, (Sociopathy) That I began to realize That No amount of Love was going to cure/fix/help/save a person who can’t feel it or comprehend it!
Kelsi’s Mom
Kelsi is in a place where there is no pain or sarrow ! Where she is safe from evil! Paradice! Where Love does rule!
Thanks for sharing Your love with us!
Oxy:
OMG! You are the only person I know (apart from me), who knows killers who are not in prison.( I don’t mean the killers in the public eye).
It is only now, since I’ve been on LF that I realise I lost my two children to the psychopath too. I.E. My daughter IS A PSYCHOPATH, (and a daddy’s girl to boot) .
I don’t know what goes on inside of my 27 year old son’s mind . I have no idea. His mannerisms/sayings are like his P fathers but he has never displayed violence or any psychopathic behaviour..to my knowledge.
He is the one that rings me three times a year from another state. I wouldn’t have a clue if he is a P or not! (Although my guess is, if he was a psychopath he would have tried to bleed me for everything I’ve ever owned by now). He is probably just severely damaged from his father P. ( I hope so, rather than BE A P!)
That is truly amazing progress for me! Before i came to LF I was GUILTRIDDEN and secretly inner tortured that I had sent my son, (when he was 11 to his Biological P father). I sent him to get him away from the father of my youngest son. When I lived with my youngest son’s father he had a personal vendetta against my middle son. He was INSANELY jealous of my middle son. (My middle son lived with him and me from five yrs old to 11yrs). The P used to flick him in the face and say “you big girl” everyday. I caught him doing it behind my back and I went beserk at him for doing it. ( At the time I didn’t know that was one of the reasons he would do it more).
The abuse to the middle one by the p escalated when my youngest was born. Thats why i sent him away. I though I was saving him. HUH!! Out of the frying pan into the fire!
All this has emotionally tortured me for years. I so want my little boy back. He was the apple of my eye. I feel like I sent him to the wolves/ Hitlers camp and I never saw him again.
I have such grief Oxy…I loved him more than life itself and he is gone.
Sh*t.
I just opened something too big for me to handle. Wish you were her. Darn,Flood gates, havn’t seen them for a long time…I think this is the biggest regret of my entire life.
Rosa! I need your humour where are you?
wish you were here.
Hey Rosa!
(through my downpour of tears),
We are skinless cats covered with ears searching for the one psychopath who is not evil, lol! ( and to prove to the world what?)haha yu gotta laugh or you will cry forever….
Now everyone at work will know I’ve been cryin. Can’t have that or the P’s will zoom in!!
Dear Tilly,
Sweetie, It was NOT anything that YOU did that caused all the things that happened. We do the best we can for our children, and when it finally turns out that we were not able to make our DREAMS come true, good dreams, noble dreams, it is not our fault. Chit happens! Life is NOT fair! I know you are grieving, and it is well past time for you to stop doubting yourself and to get on with feeling the grief and let the tears flow.
Google Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, she is a wonderful woman who has studied and written about GRIEF and the stages of it. We go through them all,but not in any ORDER, they go and come and change and change back and then go and come again.
They are our response to loss—-the morning my husband jtook off in the plane I had a “feeling” that something might happen. It DID HAPPEN, and it took me a long time to quit saying “why didn’t I try to stop him?” There were so many “what ifs” but we have to in the end stop blaming ourselves, and ACCEPT WHAT IS the truth. Your son is what he is and your daughter is what she is. It is OUT OF YOUR CONTROL, and there is NO magic wand that can change the truth, the reality of what IS.
Oh sweet Tilly, I wish I icould take you in my arms and let you rest your head on my shoulder and cry and cry all the sorrow out of your wonderful soul. I can’t do that though, so I am telling you now that I am this very minute praying for your peace, your recovery. Turn it all over to God as you perceive him.
Dear Tilly: I have also lost my family to my psychopathic ex-husband. When he left us to starve for lack of any child support, when he returned to wage war to “reclaim his property,” and then when he alienated them against me.
I feel your pain. I have cried those same tears. No one knows except those of us who have survived this unspeakable trauma.
I can only say that I understand because I have lived this. I know you did the best you could, with what you knew at the time. I know that because I know how I made hard, hard decisions from the information I had at the time.
We are loving mothers. It is clear from your words that you are a loving, generous soul, willing to sacrifice your eldest son’s presence to save him from the immediate harm, not knowing the danger you were sending him into.
You did the best you could at the time with what you knew then.
I have made those words a “mantra” for me to say at times when I think I also cannot forgive myself for those choices.
I embrace you in your tears. Forgive yourself. You are a loving, gracious soul, and you have profound courage to have survived.