The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Tilly:
I feel like I have hit the Jackpot here at LF.
Not only did I find a sociopath who will actually ADMIT he is one, he also claims that he is NOT EVIL!!!!
I want to hook this person up to electrodes, and examine him/her under a white light.
Dear Rosa,
From time to time we have psychopaths who come on LF to taunt us or to volunteer to educate us about how they are not all that bad, or not all are very bad, etc. It is nothing but a way for them to poke fun at us and get us into a dialog.
They will get pretty annoying if you NOTICE THEM or give them attention so most of us just IGNORE them and they usually get bored and go away. If you notice them or reply to them it is always an exercise in futility. WE KNOW what they are, so I find it best just to not interact with them. Save irritation by “feeding them attention” which is what they crave.
Rosa, sweetheart, no you don’t. They ALL will say they’re not evil, or they ARE evil, or anything they feel like saying, just so they can GET you!
Remember NC? If we play games with this one, he’ll waste our energy, just like they all do.
P.S. Tilly:
I have days when I cry, too. You are not alone.
Oxy & Rune: I know. But I couldn’t resist. I never get to poke fun at the S’s in my life.
Kelsi’s Mom: My heart and prayers go out to you. I know you will educate your younger daughter to recognize and pay attention to “red flags” and to get out of the relationship quickly… and if somebody tells her something about themselves, she should believe them!! I feel like calling my daughter right now and having this discussion with her. I can certainly understand why you want to know where she is every second. Nothing like this should ever happen to anyone. Why did she stay? I’m in my early 50’s and I’m just starting to figure out why I have stayed in bad relationships. A lot of times P’s target people who have compassion, understanding, love, tolerance. I never gave much thought to the fact that even the “guy next door” could be a P, I didn’t know what it was. I’m just learning now to run away from red flags. I don’t think she stayed because she was ashamed to admit to you that it her marriage wasn’t working, she didn’t know what she was dealing with. My daughter is 27 and married but I think I will start bringing up personalitiy disorders with her when I talk to her on the phone, it is something we never talked about because I didn’t really get it until now.
shabbychic2: I would urge you to do just that—even a background check these days wouldn’t be a bad idea—ya know???—-I don’t know if I will ever know why she stayed with him—this kind of stuff never EVEN crossed my mind–I didn’t realize how widespread this problem was—I was not brought up in an abusive home–nor were my children—so we really didn’t KNOW much about abuse at all—but just being a teacher around teenage kids—I have REALLY started to notice how awful some of the boys treat the girls—and they just “put up” with it—I think awareness needs to start at a young age—Junior high on up—these young girls need to learn to set boundaries for what they will and will not put up with—-and to recognize WHEN they are in an abusive relationship—-and that they don’t have to put up with it—there are so many “good” guys out there!!!! I have really really talked with my younger daughter—and I hope she continues to listen—-and learn!!!!! I don’t want her laying in a cemetery next to her sister—I have just become like SOOOOO over protective of her—I just can’t help it!!!!
kelsis mom: I know what you mean, teach them at a young age, I always tried to instill confidence into my daughter that I never got, but I didn’t know to teach her about relationships and people with personality disorders. But look at the abuse Nicole Brown Simpson put up with for years. I put up with crap myself for years (but no one ever hit me). In fact I was with one guy for 14 years and I waited the entire 14 years for him to change (and I was in my 40’s). Am I making any sense, I feel like I am rambling. I think you becoming so protective of your younger daughter is a NATURAL reaction!! We all would do the exact same thing!
SoChic: Isn’t it painful when we see from a distance what we wish we could have seen when we were up-close-and-personal in our own lives when this was happening?
I am continually amazed and encouraged by the outpouring of love from people on this site to people whose lives are in immediate distress.
You have moved from an incredibly needy person to an incredibly giving person in the currency we use on this site — our hearts and our time.
This is the backbone of this community, and the hope for those who show up here in tatters.
Rune: Thank you, I guess you see something in me I don’t even see in myself. I have learned a lot from you and everyone here at LF and I’m just thrilled that maybe I’m not so needy anymore (although I certainly have my moments!!!). Yes, I see many things from a distance now, almost like Dickens “A Christmas Carol” or the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life” but it is painful because I can’t go back and change it and I’m not just talking about myself. I hope you hear from JillSmith soon, we’re all praying for her.
Thankyou thankyou thankyou!!!
Oxdrover, Rune and Rosa! God sent you to get me through this and I am soo grateful!!! Whenever I go through the crying part I feel like I am back at the start. When I was a child I was bashed (the most) for crying, so i learned really young not to cry. I have never been able to cry without a whole bunch of fear (triggers PTSD). I know crying is just a release and so is laughing, so I used that more when I was growing up as it was safer. Looking back I am proud to say, by the time I was eight, that when I was bashed I would poke my tongue out at the perpetrator,(just when they thought they had broken me! ). How they HATED that! Of course I got more bashing but it was worth every bit. Thankyou Oxy for your prayers and hugs too.
And thankyou Rune for identifying and helping me feel OK about my “sophies choice”.
And Rosa! I love the mischievousness in you…your right, we know we shouldn’t but this is the only safe place we can have a dig at the P’s!! It IS a waste of breath but its not really them we are talking to..its like “check this one out guys, a real fair dinkum, ” good non violent sociopath “!! HA HA! Now thats FUNNY!!