The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
James
Sometimes it can be hard to come to LoveFraud because I know I will read and see something posted like this story. So many of us wonder why did it have to happen? Did it have to end this way? Well, those are often my questions to myself. Two young life’s ending this way is sad and painful to their families and those who knew them well.
I came across this site and wonder just maybe this applied to these two young people. This struggle between her abuser and the controller.. Not sure if it will help but it did allow me to see Kelsi Miller in a different light. My prays and my support goes out to the family the survivors of this story. If just one person can learn from this then Kelsi’s senseless death wouldn’t be in vain…
http://drjoecarver.makeswebsites.com/clients/49355/File/love_and_stockholm_syndrome.html
James
Looks like this “awesometakular charity workers” is looking for supply
sooooo glad to disappoint him/her 🙂
learnthelesson
James at the bottom of your link above it says:
“Signs you are dating a loser”…. but when i click on it, it wont connect…wondering if you are able to post get into it and post that link as well…if not…no worries…
James
Yes, will give you the link asap. Interesting but that was the 1st writing I read when I started researching personality disorders. Truly for me Dr. Joseph M. Carver was my personal life saver. After reading this list I just drop my jar and say over and over again OMG OMG OMG!!! Anyway here is the link..
http://counsellingresource.com/quizzes/loser/index.html
This should work and if not just let me know! 🙂
Rune
Sister Tilly: We would never have chosen the education we’ve gotten, but by golly since we’ve got our Ph.D.s in real-life experience with disordered nutcases, we should put it to good use, eh?
I didn’t know that anyone else could have as many stories as me about dealing with the severely and dangerously disordered. I think, though, that between us we could write an encyclopedia!
Yes, I see you stepping up to care about others, even though you are still in the middle of your trauma. You show your hero’s spirit. Hold your head high.
James
learnthelesson
Thanks for asking for the list, had to reread it myself.. God, how I love that list and only wish I had it 17 yrs ago!!!
learnthelesson
JAMES… WOW!!!!! THANK YOU FOR THAT LINK!!!! PRINTING AND SHARING THAT ONE FOR A LONG TIME TO COME…WITH FRIENDS, DAUGHTERS, SONS AND THEIR FRIENDS….CAN WE GET DR. JOSEPH CARVER TO BE A SPEAKER AT HIGHSCHOOLS NATIONWIDE???? 🙂 Thanks.
learnthelesson
WOW…posted at the same time….WHAT A GREAT LIST…share the same wish!!!
James
“JAMES” WOW!!!!! THANK YOU FOR THAT LINK!!!! PRINTING AND SHARING THAT ONE FOR A LONG TIME TO COME”WITH FRIENDS, DAUGHTERS, SONS AND THEIR FRIENDS”.CAN WE GET DR. JOSEPH CARVER TO BE A SPEAKER AT HIGHSCHOOLS NATIONWIDE???”
Yes! wouldn’t that be great to have someone like to talk to our children (dating children) about this subject. We need to reach/teach our children the danger of meeting losers and then learn how to avoid them. Or even visit us on lovefraud would be nice as well. Just found a blog site on his site and posted a thank you. Really this man save me soooo much of my sanity it’s impossible to list..
http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50031
learnthelesson
James… Cant thank you enough for the links to Counselling Resource.com and Dr. Carver…. I think all of us should have it in that area on top of our computer where we can go right to it (pardon me…not computer savvy in the least bit…can find my way and navigate…but terminology..fuhget about it!!! 🙂 I just ask my daughter to make this or that appear at the top of my computer so I can get to it quickly 🙂 Thanks again James….