The beautiful young woman in the photo above is dead. On October 7, 2008, in Odessa, Texas, Kelsi Miller was murdered by her husband, Jarrett Weaver, a young man who fit the profile of a sociopath. He, too, is dead. Lovefraud just published their tragic story: Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
It’s heart-wrenching, worst-case scenario of what happens when people don’t understand the evil of a sociopath.
Kelsi Miller had everything going for her. Besides her obvious beauty, she was accomplished and caring. She was studying to be a nurse. Jarrett Weaver, however, was a manipulative drug addict who couldn’t hold a job. He was violent on the eve of their wedding, and the violence escalated to the unthinkable.
All the warning signs were there, if Kelsi had known what they meant. Jarrett rushed her into marriage. At age 22, he already had terrible credit, and all the bills were in Kelsi’s name. He erupted into rage many times. When his rage turned into assault and he was arrested, he pleaded for Kelsi to take him back, promising he would change and dedicate his life to God. He isolated her from family and friends. He threatened to kill her tiny pet Chihuahuas.
But Kelsi behaved as many women caught in domestic violence situations behave. Wanting to believe Jarrett’s promises and not his actions, she took him back. She didn’t tell her parents, who were justifiably concerned, what was really going on. She believed her husband, who so often proclaimed his love, would never harm her.
Kelsi Miller was wrong.
This case also shows what happens when sociopathy mixes with drugs. Sociopaths live to exert power and control over others. This makes them aggressive. Sociopaths also lives for thrills, which often makes them drug abusers. Jarrett Weaver was using alcohol, marijuana and Xanax. He was also abusing steroids, which probably made him even more aggressive—to the point where he lost control.
Or maybe he wanted to go out in a blaze of glory. We’ll never know.
This tragic story illustrates why the world needs to understand sociopaths. The messages we all hear about “there’s good in everyone” are false. In fact, those messages are dangerous. And to whom are they dangerous? To the people who truly are filled with good.
Read Jarrett Weaver shoots his wife, then he shoots himself.
Hey I just remembered “Bookmark it” right next to LF!!!!!!!
James: Thank you for the link! I’m going to read it, and I believe I am aware enough now for the information to sink in through the fog I walked around in most of my life!
learnthelesson
Been reading some of the blog replies on his site. Sounds like another lovefraud group there. Strange how all these stories sound the same just with different names and places. I hope Kelsis Mom checks it out, I believe she said something about having another daughter. I can understand how she would feel the need to protect this one even more. I will never know how deep the pain is of losing her daughter this way and can only keep her in my prays. God bless you kelsis mom for sharing your story with us and know it took courage to do so…
Why do bad things happen to good people? God if only I knew the answer to that question?
shabbychic2
So glad I would be of some help. I know I can be a dumb ass sometimes but hey, sometimes even I get lucky. 🙂
Well my eyes are red from reading and then there work tomorrow sooooo…
Hope all of you have a good night!
James… The million dollar question huh…
…it is my hope that one day “there will be answer” when we reconnect with all the good and wonderful angelic souls in the world whose lives were taken away so young and wrongfully….
Goodnight…
Witsend said:
“Suicide is a complex act. The truth is everyone that completes suicide is not of the same mind set.”
You’re right, of course. I suppose I was thinking of Herve Cleckly’s comments about psychopathy and suicide not going hand in hand. But I’ve since read some other stuff that relates their suicide risks to which “factors” of traits are involved.
To Kelsi’s Mom,
Yes his manipulativeness comes across loud and clear and is very apparent in that letter he wrote to her. Even his choice of the song he mentioned IMO was calculated to pull at her heart strings to make her think she was the one who could “help” him. I’m so sorry for your loss of such a beautiful and kind hearted daughter. Thank you for sharing and helping others.
To Rosa,
I think just the fact that the socio who came on board to flame Donna and to tell us some socios are “good” or at least not “bad”, proved he is NOT one of the “good” ones by his choice of posting those comments on this particularly thread where the topic is of unimaginable horror and violence.
Jen2008:
You are so right!
It never occurred to me that they chose this particular thread to post.
Maybe Donna could move that post and my responses over to the “Ticks and Parasites” thread.
Kelsi’s Mom:
My brother is married to a psychopath. She is a nurse and has access to any drug you can imagine.
I have said many times on this site that I believe she is capable of killing him or at least “arranging an accident.”
My family and I are doing everything we can to stay close to my brother and maintain contact with my beautiful niece.
My brother has said VERBATUM the exact same things that your daughter said to you.
He will say, “I can handle her,” or “she would never do that.”
It is the most helpless feeling in the world to stand by and watch your loved one in a situation like this.
I can relate to your story on so many levels.
Jen 2008:
Wow!! Thanks for that comment about Jarrett’s letter to Kelsi—you make an excellent point there—I have never thought about the significance of him mentioning that song—I have sit and tried to analyze that letter over and over and over—I noticed that he always referred to it as “this disaster” and I am heartbroken over “what happened”—but NEVER did he ever apologize nor admit he had hit her—-we found a bunch of letters from him to Kelsi—but in a fit of anger after her death—her Daddy destroyed them and I never got a chance to read them–another thing I noticed about his letter is that he mentions the song he heard on the radio–then says Christian radio—-also he refers to scriptures and God—which I always felt was another manipulation tactic—
Also–last June–when he and Kelsi split up—he called me and was ordering me around saying “You WILL meet face to face with me” in which I responded “I don’t take orders from YOU!” Which angered him—he went on to tell me how much my kids hated me–he said it over and over–they hate you they hate you–I remained calm and just told him that ALL kids at one time or another get mad and say they hate their parents–so that didn’t bother me—-his voice it didn’t sound human—-he sounded sooooo evil—he was screeching and hissing at me—and I told our preacher–that I told Jarrett he sounded demonic—-when I hung up on him—I turned to my daughter and I said “Kelsi, he sounded like the devil on the phone—he is EVIL” —the next day is when we went to Safe Place and she filled out the abuser checklist and told the advocate some things and that is when the advocate told her he was beyond the typical abuser and was at high risk for comitting a homicide—I really think he wanted to kill me because he kept insisting that he and I meet face to face—well I hadn’t spoken to him since Thanksgiving—because when he assaulted her in Dec. that is when I told Kelsi I didn’t want anything else to do with him and he was no longer welcome at our house or any family gatherings—we had a zero tolerance policy at our house for his behavior—-
Nevertheless—we did visit the police station one day 3 times trying to get them to pick him up for a mental evaluation–or even pick him up for drugs —-he assaulted several people— was kicked out of 2 or 3 restaurants for destroying property—had numerous arrests–but I was at the police station everyday for a week trying to get them to throw him in jail for that June assault on Andrew—and in the story it tells about her never receiving her subpoena to testify—so much for the legal system—I wish I would have lured him over to our house and shot him!!!!!! It would be better than what we are dealing with now!!!! He stole my daughter’s life/and future—because he had no future—he was starting to realize that Kelsi was getting ready to leave him—-apparently he knew he had an outstanding warrant for his arrest for the assault on a person the week before—-he knew it was all over for him—he ruined our lives—we will never be the same again
Kelsi’s Mom:
The legal/judicial system is completely useless in situations like this. That’s what is so frustrating!
It seems like the good cops are completely uneducated about personality disorders, and the bad cops are sociopaths themselves (example: Drew Peterson)!