Never too young to learn about sociopaths

A Lovefraud reader found the recent article about me and my new book, Red Flags of Love Fraud, in a Michigan newspaper. This was a surprise to me, because the article was originally published by a New Jersey newspaper, the Camden Courier Post. It turns out that the story was picked up around the country, which is good—it means word about these disordered individuals is getting out.

This particular Lovefraud reader had her own run-in with a sociopath. She is teaching her children about them, which she related to me in a postscript of her email:

P.S. My 12-year-old daughter and I were just discussing the article being in the paper she is very aware of sociopaths having been on the receiving end of one his abusive tirades when he was still a fringe factor in our world before we went NC. I actually used the rabid dog and potted plant analogies to teach all my kids about sociopaths. Anyway her exact words were “Yeah so what ”¦ wait. You mean in OUR LOCAL Paper?  Wow! [silent pause and she continued] “You gotta wonder who triggered that article!” 🙂

I have to add a quick anecdote: Three years ago my twins were starting kindergarten just as I was regrouping from the sociopath’s devalue and discard and his later verbal attack/abuse of my older daughter – the final catalyst for NC even though I didn’t know it as such then. (I found your blog shortly thereafter.) Anyway I tried to keep these issues from my twins at the time but at some point they overheard the word sociopath and asked what it meant. I explained in 5-year-old terms that it was a person who doesn’t  just make “bad choices” they make HORRIBLE choices and they don’t ever feel bad about it and we must always stay away from such people.

Fast forward to their kindergarten fairy tale unit  — one day the teacher pulled me aside and said, “I have to tell you what happened in class today. We read the story of the gingerbread man and the children were asked what things would make them ‘Run! Run! As fast as you can!’  Several children said snakes, spiders, etc. but, as the teacher told me in a shocked voice, my daughter raised her hand and said, “A sociopath!”  The teacher proceeded to say she had no idea where my daughter got such an idea, and I said “Well, I do ”¦ unfortunately we know of one and we stay clear of him!” Maybe that teacher will see the article in the paper and realize they’re not just ax wielding  movie psychopaths ”¦ 🙂

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Kim, hugs to you…..big, strong, firm hugs. Yeah, the cog/diss is almost mystical to me – how to “rationalize” cruelties and abuses.

Often, I’ve tried to talk myself into the pat response to trauma, “It wasn’t THAT bad, was it?” Oh, yes….it was “that bad,” and then some.

It takes time, but it takes, eventually. Hugs, hugs, and hugs


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