The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released new results yesterday from telephone surveys of about 9,000 women and 7,400 men. One in four women reported being violently attacked by their husbands or boyfriends. One in five women said they were victims of rape or attempted rape.
Read Survey: 1 in 4 women attacked by intimate partner on NPR.org.
Read Survey: 1 in 3 women affected by partner’s violent behavior on CNN.com, which also includes data about violence to men.
National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, on the CDC.gov.
Yes, but you wouldn’t like the devalue at the end! lol
bumpity bump bumpity bump…
*sound of Skylar tumbling down the pyramid steps after Star rips her heart out*
Yes, but that short ride to the top of the pyramid would be so sweet…….LOL
It’s EXHILARATING! and the view from the top is simply DIVINE!
Have you two bin out on your Xmas do? lmao x
ha ha ha
I just got a bit of good news. I never know what to do with my snakes skins when they shed. They shed every 6 weeks. I have a rather large shed sitting on my countertop right now.
It just so happens that salons are now doing nails with snake sheds – it’s all the rage! I called a local salon and asked if they do the snakeskin nails. They said yes but they are currently out of snake shed skins right now……..
How convenient for me! I knew those lazy good-for-nothing snakes would help me pay the rent somehow…….LOL (This is really true. I’m planning to sell their shed skins to salons.)
Oxy, you’re dead right about “statistics”! As Mark Twain famously said, “There are lies, damned lies… and statistics!”
Unfortunately, pedophilia is another topic where I would advise caution and skepticism about what some people claim. I must admit I haven’t dug into the topic in much detail (as I have with other areas like domestic violence), but some numbers I see being quoted do cause me to question whether they’re even possible.
The trouble is that there seem to be some topics that set certain people off into paroxysms of screaming hysteria and shrieking emotionalism, so much so that they take leave of ordinary common sense. Unfortunately, pedophilia can be one of them. We only have to look at the unbelievable outbreak of hysteria that happened in the 1980s over the imagined “mass molestation” of children in day care to see how a whole multitude of people—including some of those we depend on in the “justice” system!—can take leave of their senses altogether, believe things that are virtually impossible—and perpetrate the most shocking injustices as a result. Those dreadful “day care” witch hunts alone inflicted outrageous injustices on innocent people that have never been remedied to this day: innocent people who were sent to prison, had their lives wrecked, and never had one penny of compensation from those responsible for doing this to them.
In my experience this kind of irrational mentality often goes hand in hand with a total disregard of the meaning of numbers. Numbers of course are a precision tool intended to measure something in reality! But some people don’t seem to use numbers that way at all. If they’re horrified, say, or enraged about something, they seem to use numbers as a kind of emotional scream! I suppose we all do this in limited contexts by way of metaphor (“If I’ve heard that once I’ve heard it a million times” is not literally true), but some people do it in non-metaphorical contexts where they shouldn’t. They’ll start off by shouting (for instance) that there are such-and-such a number of victims of whatever “evil” it is they’re campaigning against. Then if they’re not getting the result they want, and if the “evil” is still there—which it invariably is of course, because many evils can never be eradicated altogether—their reaction is to “scream louder”—by cranking the numbers up!
That doesn’t mean a darn thing about reality, and their numbers are totally untrue. So on some occasions it pays to remember that what a “large number” is really measuring is how shrill and hysterical some “activist” is getting! The appropriate response might be to tell the “activist” to “chill out, the sky is not falling!” Unfortunately what often happens instead is that some people accept the numbers without questioning them and spread them around further. Then others believe they’re “facts” when they’re not.
The reason I brought this up in the context of pedophilia concerns that infamous predator, Charles “Jackie” Walls III. One item I came across some time ago was this story, The Scoutmaster’s Secret, by Valerie Ferrari. (Other people here might like to read that story too.) The writer mentions that Walls had “some 30 years of molesting over 50 children.” Now fifty children is a shockingly high number of lives to be damaged in this way, quite apart from the Heath Stocks affair. Also, since this happened in a small town with a population of only four and a half thousand, Walls inflicted this damage on a substantial proportion of the population. If there were 900 families, say—and I’m sure this is the kind of town where “everyone knows everyone else”—it must have seemed to anyone as if Walls had been molesting many of the kids they knew. Nevertheless, fifty children over thirty years is a perfectly credible number the way Walls was operating.
Now I’m positive I’ve also seen, in some other news article, a statement to the effect that over his career, Walls “approached” (or words to that effect) a hundred and fifty more children—or perhaps a hundred and fifty altogether. (This is annoying me because I can’t find the original source right now, but I’m sure it had “a hundred and fifty” in it.) Presumably what that meant was that Walls “made advances” of some kind to these hundred and fifty boys, but they managed to avoid being actually victimized by him. That also seems perfectly credible. Obviously Walls must have made a number of tentative but unsuccessful “approaches” in order to end up with the fifty victims quoted by Valerie Ferrari. Though the man seems to have had a diabolical “nose” not only for which boys would succumb to his advances, but which boys would keep their mouths shut and go along with the whole unsavory business, even to the extent of defending him in court!
The trouble is that I’ve also seen an allegation that Walls had fifteen hundred victims! A number as high as that would be enough to make me raise my eyebrows just on general principles. In light of the other more credible numbers I mentioned above that conflict with it, I’m all the more inclined to be skeptical about these fifteen hundred. Just by way of a reality check, there weren’t that many boys in the whole town of Lonoke, even taking into account the thirty-year period when Walls was operating. Even if I cast the net wider, there are barely enough boys of the right age range in the whole of Lonoke County! So where would Walls have gotten all these victims from? Then another way to look at it is that if he took thirty years to perpetrate all this abuse, he would have had to molest a new boy every single week to achieve this staggering total. That seems very unlikely to me.
That’s why I’d urge anyone to question numbers like this that seem to be “out of the box.” But I also wonder what else, if anything, that “fifteen hundred” number might possibly represent. Even if it’s incorrect, it might correspond to something in the real world. For instance:
I can see how it must seem to the residents of Lonoke as if this man Walls had been molesting just about every boy they knew! So I can see how, subjectively at least, they’d be inclined to accept a very high victim count for the world at large, even if it was unrealistic.
Then somebody might have taken the number of boys Walls victimized in the town of Lonoke itself and extrapolated it to a larger area (such as the county) to get this huge number, even if that wasn’t a valid thing to do.
Or somebody might have counted the number of boys Walls had simply been in contact with over the years, by way of regional Scouting activities—the pool of potential victims, in other words—and presented that erroneously as the number of actual victims. Sometimes an error of that kind can result from hysterical overreaction. That’s to say, someone out there went shrieking up the wall in horror at the thought of any child even being near this man—as if one glance from this monster could itself “contaminate” the poor child in some way, or as if he must automatically have molested every child he ever laid eyes on. Luckily that’s nowhere near true.
However, that “hundred and fifty” I mentioned earlier could also be highly significant. Did somebody take that number, the boys that Walls allegedly “made advances” to, and carelessly stick another zero on the end, making “fifteen hundred” out of it?
I wonder. Anyway I do urge caution in examining the numbers that get tossed around in fields like this. Even if Walls did “only” molest fifty boys, that’s still fifty too many!
Skylar- “The idea that a woman should be fooled, played and conquered is not just from spaths, it’s part of our culture.”
This is the exact reason why it was so difficult for me to determine if my ex was indeed a spath. To many mutual friends, he was just a “typical” guy doing what most guys in their early twenties do. It was crazy making from many sides.
Believe it or not, I still struggle with what to think even though I have been reassured time and time again that my ex is a spath. It has taken me 16 years to really believe “My Truth”…and I still have moments of doubt.
Redwald,
my exspath is also a pedophile and over our 25 years together, there is no way I can believe that he had only 2 victims per year.
This may sound surprising since I didn’t even know that he WAS a pedophile until after I found out he was a spath.
When I did find out he was a spath, memories flooded my brain of young girls he had contact with which he passed off as innocent and I believed. Here’s the sad part: one that I know of was a prostitute. And I know that most of his victims are prostitutes and drug addicts. So you see, the pedophiles appetite for sex isn’t like a normal person’s. They will troll for innocent victims 24/7 because they need it. Sandusky even bought a house adjacent to a school yard and lived there 30 years.
As you suggested, most of their attempts with innocent victims will fail. But in those instances, they will go to young prostitutes – WHO ARE STILL CHILDREN. These crimes never go reported because both parties have broken the law and the child is in a situation where she/he must continue to ply their trade to survive. Sex with a minor prostitute is still pedophelia and it’s easy to acquire. The pedophile prefers a more innocent victim so he never stops looking for fresh meat, but I would venture to guess that for every victim from a good family, you will find 20 more street kid – victims who will have sex for money because of circumstances.
In retrospect, I can see so much of my spaths behavior was just a way of setting himself up to have contact with street kids so he could use them for sex. BTW, he was a street kid from age 12 and lived with a prostitute, so you can imagine what he did for money…
Sisterhood,
This is where Star and I have always had our differences.
Generally I say, call them spaths. And Star says, no they are just toxic. I hope one day Star and I can meet somewhere in the middle.
🙂
My spath surrounded himself with men who liked to use women for sex and money. This was so that he could “blend” in and also so that they wouldn’t know that he was actually a bi-sexual and a pedophile. Another thing that he enjoyed was using these stupid men to do harm to other women. He enjoyed their pain and the fact that he could entice others to cause it. Finally, he used a bunch of these misogynist cops to chase me around and harrass me at his command.
Of the two of these men that I spoke with, neither ever imagined that he murdered MEN!!! That’s outrageous. But I’m not sure what either of them think of killing women. Probably not as bad. Still, these men don’t wear masks like he does. They don’t hide their misogynist views. So it’s hard to call them psychopaths because in my mind, a psychopath is the last person you’d ever suspect of evil. Psychopaths seem so nice….until they kill you.