There’s a little TV in the corner of my kitchen, and in the morning, as I make breakfast, I usually have it tuned to CNN. Today I was shocked to see Jim McGreevey, former governor of New Jersey, talking about his new involvement, an organization called “Faith in America.”
You remember Jimbo. He was the governor who, after someone threatened to expose his alleged affair with a male staffer, decided to spill the beans himself. On August 12, 2004, with his traumatized wife at his side, McGreevey announced to the world, “I am a gay American.”
I don’t believe it. McGreevey isn’t gay—he’s a sociopath.
Many sociopaths, if not most of them, are neither gay nor straight—they’re sexual opportunists. Sex is one of their main objectives in life, and any partner who can provide a thrill is fair game. My ex-husband told me he didn’t have “a gay bone in his body—”at the same time that he was soliciting male prostitutes. I’ve heard from many readers who were shocked to find that not only were their spouses cheating on them, but they were cheating with someone of the same sex. I’ve also asked several gay readers if they thought the sociopaths in their lives were actually gay. The answer is usually no.
Faith in America
Back to McGreevey. I last wrote about him when I reviewed his ex-wife’s book. (See BOOK REVIEW: Silent Partner, by the wife of former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey.) When he made his big announcement, things were not going well for him as governor. In my view, McGreevey played “the gay card” to distract from his political failures.
After being booted from the governor’s mansion, he moved in with a rich male financier and attended an Episcopal seminary. On TV this morning, McGreevey said he graduated from the seminary. But the reason he was on TV was to talk about his involvement with Faith in America.
McGreevey is on the board of directors. Faith in America is an organization dedicated to “ending religion-based bigotry toward LGBT people.” According to its website:
Faith In America was formed as a 501(c)(3) nonprofit educational organization in 2005 to effectively counter-message the bigotry, prejudice and hostility toward the LGBT community being sold to the public for several decades under the guise of religious belief and religious teaching.
I think this is an admirable mission. As McGreevey said on TV this morning, many religious organizations quote scripture to justify their condemnation of homosexuals. The organization hopes to promote tolerance, so that regardless of their sexual orientation, people can be their authentic selves.
McGreevey isn’t being authentic. He’s being expedient. He’s found a platform to put himself back in the limelight. A few weeks ago he was on the Joy Behar Show, and today he was on CNN.
In this interview this morning, McGreevey said, “I knew when I was six or seven years old that I was gay.” Really? Is that possible? Society may be moving faster now, but McGreevey is about the same age as me, and when I was six or seven years old, I was clueless about sex, let alone sexual orientation.
Oh well, for the sake of Faith in America, I hope that McGreevey can keep the act going. Time will tell.
Coming soon: The repackaging of Eliot Spitzer.
Nolife, I am sorry to hear you are so upset. It sounds like, of course, that he is still trying to control everything. I wish I had an answer for you… everything they do is so opposite of normal, none of it makes any sense. Hang in there! You’ll get what you want!! I think it’s pretty awesome that you are running a company and going through all of this at the same time! You are fabulous!
Nolife:
If I remember correctly, you are out of the country and hired a NV attorney to handle this divorce?
Who’s got the 6 week NV residencecy?
If he works at a large firm…..you should be able to track him down?
If not, in NV you can run an ad in the paper for some weeks to notify him of divorce proceedings.
It’s not too tough to do in NV.
As long as you have the residency issues out of the way.
Good luck!
Thanks shabbychic, I shouldn’t let him get to me. He told me that if I pissed him off, he wouldn’t give me what I want. That’s to be free of him.
Hi ErinBrock,
Yes, I am not living in NV, but because we are married at NV, thus we are able to process it there. I have spoken to the lawyer a few times over the phone. I had already made payment to them. I have all my paper signed and done, just waiting for his paper.
I know the address of his HK and LA office, and I even know some of his staff contact numbers, but I don’t want him to know that I know, just in case he starts disappearing from me again. Now, I am slowly monitoring his movements, without him knowing. But time is really not on my side. I have never spoken to so many lawyers in Asia and USA before.
I should start to blog about him soon. To stop him from scamming more people.
Dear Nolife,
For the time being I would suggest that you do not start a blog to warn others about him–for now at least.
Get what you want first, and I think he already knows what that is and is doing his best to NOT let you get what you want….and unfortunately he may be able to do that for quite some time.
Also, unfortunately, he will ENJOY the fight, the keeping you from getting what you want, the keeping you hopping and keeping you upset and spending money on trying to succeed. It is a big game to them…not to us, but to them it is FUN!
You are obviously a strong woman to be able to run your company and still be going through something this nasty, so I know you are coping, but their bullying will wear down the strongest person, it is like water wears down the mountain over time, slowly eroding the rock….they just keep on wearing our strength away. So focus on the most important parts and not on protecting others right now. Focus on YOU, and getting what YOU need FIRST!!! Good luck!
Nolife,
I agree with Oxy, I think would drop the effort on your part to expose your ex to others, instead concentrating on getting what you really want, to be permanently free of him via an annulment. Good luck.
Nolife:
I believe then what your seeking is an annulment?
(Nevada Revised Statute) NRS 125.360 Annulment of marriage contracted within State: No requirement of residence. Annulment of marriages contracted, performed or entered into within the State of Nevada may be obtained by complaint, under oath, to any district court of the State of Nevada for any cause provided by law for annulment of marriage.
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There are residencey laws in Nv 6weeks PRIOR to filing, with residencey affidavit, and you file for a DIVORCE in the county of your domocile.
See*NV NRS- pertaining to disolution of marriage
http://www.leg.state.nv.us/NRS/NRS-125.html#NRS125Sec360
Particularly note NRS 125.181
Summary proceeding for divorce: Conditions. A marriage may be dissolved by the summary procedure for divorce set forth in NRS 125.181 to 125.184, inclusive, when all of the following conditions exist at the time the proceeding is commenced:
1. Either party has met the jurisdictional requirements of NRS 125.020.
2. The husband and wife have lived separate and apart for 1 year without cohabitation or they are incompatible.
3. There are no minor children of the relationship of the parties born before or during the marriage or adopted by the parties during the marriage and the wife, to her knowledge, is not pregnant, or the parties have executed an agreement as to the custody of any children and setting forth the amount and manner of their support.
4. There is no community or joint property or the parties have executed an agreement setting forth the division of community property and the assumption of liabilities of the community, if any, and have executed any deeds, certificates of title, bills of sale or other evidence of transfer necessary to effectuate the agreement.
5. The parties waive any rights to spousal support or the parties have executed an agreement setting forth the amount and manner of spousal support.
6. The parties waive their respective rights to written notice of entry of the decree of divorce, to appeal, to request findings of fact and conclusions of law and to move for a new trial.
7. The parties desire that the court enter a decree of divorce.
I would hold off on ANY factors of alerting anyone else until you achieve what YOU want…..and that is legal divorce or whatnot.
Pick your battles girl……know what your playing with…..achieve what YOU want first…..then decide if it’s worth it.
Good luck!
Here’s an article by a sociopath saying that they don’t have real sexual orientations:
http://www.sociopathworld.com/2009/05/sexuality-and-sociopathy.html
Dear Eternal Student,
Just the name makes me laugh!lolololol
Eternal student,
Donna did an article a couple of years ago about how many psychopaths are neither straight nor gay…just hyper sexed it seems, but will have sex with anything that will hold still. YUK!
Eternal Student – that’s been my assertaion all along – they are just prdators.
went on to read a bit more on that blog – very interesting breezey tone. ick.
found this though: ;But with that said, I can predict situations in which you might want to beat a sociopath at his own game. What next? Well, as mentioned in earlier posts, one of the sociopath’s main tools is mimicking human emotions. How do they know what to mimic? By watching you. How do you trick them? By feeding them false information. A sociopath’s ability to act normal is only as good as the information he has available to him about what you expect. When you feed him false information, it ends up like one of those dry British farces where misunderstandings and confusions abound. But you’re not confused because you know what’s going on. And then you’ve beat him. That’s all there is to it. ;