A new study by the Columbia Business School is titled, People with power are better liars.
The average liar experiences negative emotions, physiological stress and fear of getting caught. Power, however, enhances the same emotional, cognitive and physiological systems that lying depletes. So holding power over others makes it easier to lie.
Read People in power make better liars, study shows on Msnbc.com.
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I’m reminded of George Orwells, “Animal Farm,” when we talk about power structures and how they’re set in place and reiforced. I read it when I was 12. I think I might go back and read it again.
Yeah, Ox. I went yesterday, but had time constraints. I was told it was important to have an on-line resume….So I dilegently started to fill in the blanks, but ended up feeling sooo frustrated, my time was up, and I hadn’t accomplished anything. I find technology sooo confusing and it frustrates me, makes me feel stupid…..when I got back to the car I was in tears.
So, I took a look at myself, and realized I needed to change my attitude, be willing to do the foot work, and excercise humility….All good stuff.
I know the lady I spoke to today quite well. She knew what I was dealing with in the past and was as supportive as she could be. I don’t think she would tell me she would call me if she didn’t intend to… So, I am hopeful… And even taking that tiny step out on a limb, makes me feel good.
How you doin’ today?
Kim, that’s awesome! yay!
i had a job interview yesterday. someone called me who had heard about me through the grapevine.
i liked him, but i used to work for one of the board members – one of three employers in my life time who i ran away from like my hair was on fire. so, i have asked to meet with the board first, and see how she is when she isn’t my boss. she can make me feel like crap in a bout 5 minutes. that’s a heavy skill. not many peole can do that.
then this am they set up a meeting….and i say great, as long as it isn’t at the scary person’ business as they have a dog. i get a message back saying, no it’s somewhere else, and their dog doesn’t cause allergic reactions……………….
there is NO sucj thing for me. just going into an old house in that part of town means there might be mold and i can’t do dog and mold.
i was very up front about my allergies and enviro sensitivities with this guy. but i don’t think he really understands yet.
and he can learn…but
it made me very sad – hurdle after hurdle. i am going to go for a walk in the rain – my form of prayer, and see what i can figure out.
hope this isn’t a downer…don’t mean it to be. i am chuffed for you. i know how hard it is to make the steps and i am so happy for you.
Yeah, One, I get it. He just brushed you aside and assumed you didn’t know what you were talking about. That is hard to take.
He might just be ignorant, though, and ignorance can be taught….so maybe it’s worth taking a chance on…
kim – i think he is just unaware. and my impression of him is that he is a compassionate person. i think he just didn’t understand what it would ‘mean’ when i told him about my allergies. i need accommodations.
for me – there is anxiety. it’s hard to have that attention on me, when people have to make accommodations for me, or if it singles me out as a target (oh, she’s making it up) in a group.
this is all new to me, so i am pretty raw about it. i was injured at my last 2 jobs – through mold and chemical exposures. i have wicked skills – but if i can’t go in to the room….well, it makes a difficult job market worse.
but i see i have to stand for myself. i can’t work in certain environments, and that’s just the way it is. and i can’t be certain about any environment on any given day. this is the worse part. if i get a chemical exposure one day, then i can’t go some places the next day. i never know. and the uncertainty means i cannot be dependable in the way i truly am.
so, i need to let people know i need accommodations. and the less anxious i am about that reality, the more st8t i can be about what it ‘means’ when i say i have bad allergies.
i am just learning. but i am learning.
One Step,
If your impression of him is that he is a compassionate person than that is good. Most people who do not suffer from severe allergies to smells and enviornments really just DON’T understand. But maybe he can if he is open minded. And if you patiently try to explain it to him. Sometimes this is a lost cause explaining this to someone, but sometimes it can be done.
I have major issues with mold, but I also have some strange allergic type reactions to certain strong smells and this is difficult for people to understand. Gas, kerosene heaters, burning leaves, to name a few. And these can just trigger me to start a wheeezing and I can’t breath. My sinuses also just clog right up. I am a smoker and so this makes it even more difficult for even me to understand. Why I can’t tolerate certain smells. I know many can’t tolerate cigarette smoke.
There is nothing like struggling to breath and feeling like you are being strangled.
And sometimes the best way to explain it to those that don’t understand it is to put it in straight, simple terms.
It is difficult enough, to be out there looking for a job and feeling like you have to “sell” yourself for the position and yet at the same time have to ask for certain accomodations in order to be able to work. But many people in this world are accomodated for, for different reasons in the work place.
Believe in yourself one, your worth it.
xxxx
thanks for the support witty!
i am learning.
i am the same way with petroleum products. the bus goes right past my place (didn’t know that when i moved in cause they were rerouted for construction) and it makes me sick. they are all the rage here in businesses and restuarants. i do a little education about them. i also sabotage a fair number. 😉
the new ‘electronic air fresheners’ with petroleum based scents make my face and lips go numb immediately.
but, i have to just stand up for myself. and believe that kind people will hire me.
x one step
This is fascinating. I had often wondered why certain relatively successful people seemed to lie compulsively, without any compunction whatsoever, and without any meaningful consequences. Now I think I get it.
This study provides the missing link I needed in order to understand why “leaders” seemed to lie so often, and so effectively.
Thanks
Physicians are masters at lying. They have the power and the money. Smart enough to stay under the radar and be secretic. They don’t get caught easily. My podiatrist sociopath was so skillful at lying. Most spouses of sociopaths don’t last as long as I did. I chalk it up to the power and status that my husband had to get away with gambling, cheating and medicating himself. After 17 years, I learned enough of the truth to divorce him. Yet, the community and our family will never know the truth. It was nearly impossible to expose him. AFter the divorce I found out he had friends who were friends with my attorney. He managed to manipulate him and the agreement was in his favor, not mine and my 3 sons. The attorney made it sound like I hit the lottery. My ex was paying his fees instead of the attorney taking it out of the settlement. I got alimony and basically house arrest. I can’t move, I can’t rent, I cant’ sell my house, I can’t get married, I didnt’ get colleg for my kids or health care for me. Never worked and he walked with all the retirement, social security and right to both his practice and a shoe store that I helped open. Meanwhile, his drug use, illegal purchases of narcotics, affairs and gambling away the equity in house and retirement in penny stocks remain only known to me. He even got a drug charge expunged so there is no record of his arrest, jail or prosecution agreement on public record.
I won’t go near a man who has power. If they have power they more than likely are fantastic liars. Even knowing what i know now -I don’t think I would be able to recognize the lies he told me for so many years. He was too good, too convincing, too logical and managed to erase all evidence.