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How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists
One time I had a psychopathic teacher, and she hated men, and PERSECUTED THEM….and her class was a REQUIRED CLASS for nursing. I actually changed schools to get away from this woman. I took one class with her and managed to BROWN NOSE her enough to get through that one semester, but I knew I am too upity to keep on doing it for another 2 years so I switched schools to get away from her. Anyway, before a test one guy in her class was STRESSED OUT to the point of babbling, and several of his study buddies and I literally RAN him to exhaustion to calm him down. It worked and he made it through that school and didn’t change schools, but she sure had him and every other guy stressed out. I also saw her send a female student into “la la” land. That was when I realized I HAD to get away from this woman. I don’t regret it at all, and knowing what I know now, I would do the same thing. I just knew she was “screwy” but looking back I can see that she hated men and that she was personality disordered. Her husband had killed himself as well. He was a psych patient and she was at the time a psych nurse and she married him, then he killed himself. First off, a nurse marrying a psych patient is pretty much NOT a good idea, and secondly I can imagine that anyone married to her would have been a suicide risk, much less a man with serious mental health issues.
Elizabeth….
First of all, thank you for your support. It means so much to me; you have no idea. I have faith that Darla will thrive now.
I bought this vitamin “fat burner” called “Quick Slim”. It claimed to help with metabolism and other problems all women have.
I can’t tell you how great I feel. I hardly smoke…(which I only do out on my deck…never anywhere else!) ..I hardly eat…but I eat whatever I want, whenever …(No “dieting”)…
I lost ten lbs on it the first two weeks and overall have SO much energy, no pains…and feel great!
Try it. It has lots of D and B vitamins and I swear its stopped cravings for food and smoking!
I only take two a day even though it says to increase the dosage.
The bottle is only 20 dollars in Walmart. Its lasted me over a month now and I’m losing every week and feel great.
I don’t eat meat or chicken…or fish. Only once in awhile.
My one daughter is a strict vegan and the other a vegetarian and the third is like me.
Their chorus teacher…phenomenal woman …got sick last year and decided to go vegan. I didn’t know this. But, when I saw her last week, I asked my daughter if she had a face lift.
She said, “No, but everyone is asking her that! She became a vegan!!!”
Wow, I swear she looks 20 yrs younger!!!
So, take the quick slim, forget dieting…( I finally decided I was just who I was…and THATS when I started losing. I stopped dieting!) and I cut down my smoking to a few a day, out on the deck only!
I must have been deficient in certain vitamins and since I’m post menopausal…I figured I’d give the quick slim a shot.
MY g/f lost 20 lbs on it in six weeks too!
Thanks for caring about me, Darla, and my girls! HUGS
Wanted to say I’m a teacher and although theres been a lot written here about catching the spath early and how it seems futile, I’m not going to give up encouraging children that i teach to empathise with others. And yes maybe we are just teaching them skills of masking in some cases. Some of these people will slip through the net. But it’s our job as educators to do more than teach our pupils their abc etc! Bullying others will not be tolerated as long as I have breath in my body. No! I will challenge that behaviour……and I do. Every day. Don’t get me started. I’m passionate about this and it’s ironic that although I encourage my pupils to embrace differences, I sadly found myself a victim of a bully, at manipulator, a vile spath. Sometimes the shame I feel at allowing myself to be used this way is overwhelming. Have had a bad day….grumble grumble Grr
Star…
OMG, what a story!
I don’t like killing or hurting anything…even spiders…unless they are going to poison and kill me.
I watch ants work…omg…they are amazing. I don’t even like to kill them! Even when they come into my kitchen in the summer! My little one is just like me. Her email is “fritoants” and her name with it! lol…
Darla is HER cat. Can you imagine? She is 13 and highly sensitive. She even talks to her pumpkin plants!
How people like us end up attracted to monsters, sociopaths…is beyond me! I imagine that they can smell us miles away…and zoom right in and manipulate us and brainwash us. OMG…I know one thing….my daughter will NEVER be conned. She uses the word “sociopath” to describe bullies and anyone cruel…already, at age 13. She’s me…but a TOUGH and wiser me! lol
We are taking turns sleeping to be able to care for Darla. Crazy, but I always loved her long “arms”…She would hang them over the chair she sat on, and tap your nose with them when you came near her. At 6 weeks old, she would sit on my daughters shoulder, like a bird…while she sat at the table doing homework online. We have such priceless photos of her.
So, thank the dear Lord above that Darla is alive and getting well.
Thanx for your caring spirit and support!
2bhappy, congratulations on feeling good about yourself, and in your skin. Nice to lose weight like that.
I lost 12-13 kilos in the first 3 months of my NC. And I did absolutely NOTHING for it! But those were the kilos I gained too in the last half year of my relationship with the spath. It’s like the stress melted off.
Problem though is that with the loss, I also lost whatever muscle power I had built up before my knee injury (I was operated on it the same week that we broke up), with the weight loss. Fast weight loss, always involves losing muscle. I love surfing, but for the moment am totally not in shape for it, neither power nor stamina. I also need more aero-stamina and muscle for the tourleading. And there is but one way to get toned and have some muscle to actually peddle for waves and such: exercise.
I just hate the gym, weight lifting routines at the gym, threadmills and all that stuff. And heck it does not have much effect at all, unless you do it for hours, for which I have no time. Swimming of course is good, but I can’t go off swimming an hour each day either. And then those aerobic type classes: hate those too. The trainer tortures you by showing all these moves without any issue, barely not a sweat on there body, and I end up feeling like a loser. I always liked the main host of those bodyrock videos, because a) she’s adorably sweet b) motivating c) and she does not hide suffering for those 15 mins either. She’s totally human, so when I give it my all and wonder “oh dear, are those 50 seconds over yet?”, or “What? 2 more rounds like this. Are you nuts?!”, I know I’m only following her example, rather than be the seemingly only one who has a hard time with the workout. And at the end, I don’t care about having done beginner versions, or lighter weight, or the reps… I just am so damn proud of myself I worked my ass off and squeezed every bit of energy into it. It becomes a little victory over myself. Gosh, but on some of those moves, I truly hope to be able to do one day… like lifting my bodyweight from a squatting position on just one leg (I have to do that by sitting on a chair, and a little assist with the hands), or jumping high in the air in a squat position, without stretching your legs (it looks like a frog jump or something).
My knee is good enough again (if I tape it up) and I’ve established routines each day for 38 days now, so it was time to start to exercise again each day for 15 mins. I could of course just dance on some music for 15 minutes, but the bodyrock workouts will have far more impact, more result and would be a great stress relief whenever I come home stressed by traffic or whatever may have occurred during the day.
And so I started those again this week. And then two days ago, I remembered ElizabethBenneth mentioning her need to get in shape for being allowed back into the police force. I understand that involves muscle power build up and stamina. So, I thought this might just be ideal for her.
I never dieted in my life, but I do intend to follow the food regime to fit the exercising when I feel ready for it in my day planning. Eating 5 small meals a day ups the metabolism, more muscles ups the metabolism (they just need more energy than fat, so you burn more calories) and muscle build up needs proteins. I was vegetarian for a decade, but when I tried this 5 meals a day approach, there was no way I could get enough protein variation with only vegetarian protein sources.
The bodyrock eating habbits makes one meal being: 1 cup of carbs, 2 cups of vegetables/fruits, what you can hold in your palm for protein. Those are easy measurements… LOL.
At the moment I’m happy that I’m eating 3 times a day already… a breakfast, a lunch and a dinner.
Thanks Darwin…
I just reached a point in my life where I decided that I am tired of the dieting/exercise stuff~
And, since I reached that point, I have been doing much better.
I hate gyms too. I joined one in the summer and my sister and I had fun, swimming, sauna…etc.I just got sick of it. To me, an hour on the treadmill is torture and feels like seven hours!
So, I just walk, walk, walk…everyday. And I love it. And I eat what I want, when I want. And I am losing.
Life is too short to place stress on myself. I want inner peace and I feel this because I finally feel safe and secure with myself and I love my life and I’m grateful for what I have.
You must do what makes you happy, 2bhappy! And it sounds like you’re doing it. And in general I’d say: eat whatever you want to eat, but slowly and listen to whether you are truly hungry, and stop eating when you’re not hungry anymore. Our body knows what it needs. I made a burger with fries and salad yesterday. Just made sure I had two cups of salad and a self made low fat sauce, one cup of fries, and the burger was no bigger than my palm. LOL. And I had a full, satisfied feeling. Tonight, I made a guacamole with shrimps and a bit of rice. And walking is very healthy!
I love to do long mountain hikes, rock climbing, rafting, surfing, and the adventure tourleading. I need my body to be in shape for that. I could still do it all without it, but then it wears me out at this age (yeah, I’m young, but I’m not 27 anymore either) so that I have no energy to give attention to other people while on the job or deal with their antics. Those activities make me happy, so I want to still be able to do them, and so I must work for it. But I prefer to work for it in a way that I enjoy the working out as well, instead of experiencing it as a mental torture that stresses me out.
It’s all very personal. Bodyrock might not appeal to Elizabethbennet at all. I just know I’m curious each day what the workout of the day will be, watch the video of that day in the morning, think “oh my, that looks hard, brutal” and yet in the course of the day am eager to get home and just do it. And I can already feel the first effect on my upper abs and in my thighs, after 4 days.
2bhappy, keep on doing what feels right for you! Stay healthy! And give Darla another hug and kiss from me 🙂
2bhappy, darwinsmom, and oxy-thanks for the support. I may check out the quickslim. I have heard of it and I do have lots of hormonal problems. I am in early menopause and that’s one of the reasons it’s hard for me to take weight off. I’m going to be full blown pretty soon. I think it will be easier now that the stress is almost totally gone.
I am going to look into the workout that you posted for me. Last year I bought p90x but it is too much for me to do right now-until I lose some weight first and I also can’t run yet because of my weight. When I try I get injured. The exercise can’t be too hardcore for me in the beginning. I am going to follow Jackie Warner’s clean eating program. She is my favorite trainer and is into the whole balancing hormones thing. I am just trying to relax right now and deal with the fact that the stress is gone. My cat Remy is the biggest blessing to me. I never knew that getting a cat would turn my life around the way it has. He is my baby boy, my whole life! I love him so much!
I only do the beginner version at the moment, especially for my knee, which I injured last year… cartiledge issues. I only use very light weight (2 bottles of 1.5l of water) at the moment on any exercise that might add too much stress on my knee. I don’t jump, but step, except for the high knees, but then I tape my knee. The main host Zuzana always repeats: even if you can only do just part of the exercise, that’s enough… as long as you go for max reps and keep the right form, you’re adding strength and progressing, in a couple of months you’ll find you’ll be stronger already.
I was always weak in my biceps. Could hardly lift my own weight with my arms. But last year I managed to get beyond push ups on my knees. Surprisingly, I can still do normal push ups (without any extra fantasies though). I was stunned!
In 2009 when I got in the police academy the first time, I could do 45 boy pushups. Now I can’t do any and I’m on my knees again. My weight is too much to lift my own weight and I have lost all my upper body strength. I’m about to join the hospital fitness center. I get a huge discount there and it’s paid out on payroll deduction-like $20 per pay period. Every month you go at least 9 times, you get a month free.