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Reflections on antisocial behavior (Part 3): Is that person a sociopath/psychopath?

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September 19, 2008 //  by Liane Leedom, M.D.//  160 Comments

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Five and a half years ago I started a quest to understand sociopathy/psychopathy and antisocial behavior. Long before that, in 1981, I attended a lecture by Dr. Sarnoff Medick at USC. During that lecture, he presented the results of his research. His research on adopted children indicates that antisocial behavior has a strong measurable genetic basis. His studies did not single out anyone “diagnosed” a sociopath/psychopath they only examined antisocial behavior in parents and their biologic and adopted offspring.

Remembering these studies, I read them again and found many others demonstrating the genetic basis for antisocial behavior and sociopathy/psychopathy. Also at the beginning of my quest, I read Without Conscience by Dr. Robert Hare. (If you have not read it, I strongly recommend you do so.) That book teaches us about a category of people “psychopaths” who are without conscience and are antisocial. According to Without Conscience, psychopathy can only be diagnosed by professionals who using the PCL-R find a person scores over a certain cut-off. That book also makes reference to the genetic basis for “psychopathy.”

Questions about antisocial behavior, sociopaths and psychopaths

Reading all this material, I immediately questioned if psychopaths are a separate category of antisocial people. Many experts say “psychopaths” represent 1% of the general population and 25% of the prison population. I also wondered what the other 75% of the prison population would be considered. To my dismay I found several studies showing that many maximum security, very antisocial and violent criminals would not be considered “psychopaths” according to the PCL-R.

Three things about the research reports troubled me then, and also now. First of all what good is it to tell people there are a category of dangerous “psychopaths” out there and then in the next sentence to say that only trained professionals can tell who “they” are? Second of all, there are many very antisocial and violent individuals who “professionals” say are not “psychopaths.” In fact, studies of pedophiles indicate they are less likely to be “psychopaths” than other sexual offenders. What? Excuse me? Thirdly, while saying psychopathy is genetic, scientists imply that it is 100% genetic and that is simply not true. No study has found the disorder is 100% genetic.

These 3 issues lead me to focus on antisocial behavior again as opposed to a specific category of people, psychopaths or sociopaths. If we focus on antisocial behavior we can clearly identify people who commit a large number of antisocial acts. For these people harming others has become a way of life and is not something they do only occasionally. It does not take a professional to identify antisocial behavior or harm.

The focus should be first on antisocial behavior, then the personality traits of those who show a lot of it

Many experts agree with the idea that our focus should be on antisocial behavior first, then we should try to understand what characteristics very antisocial people have in common. In their book The Psychology of Criminal Conduct, Drs. Andrews and Bonta state, “A general Antisocial Personality Pattern may be more relevant than psychopathological models of antisocial personality. If we limit ourselves to the personality traits and behavioral patterns of highly antisocial persons, then we have little need for concepts such as APD (sociopathy) and Psychopathy.”

Dr. Hare also states in a recent paper, “In any case, the use of a threshold or cut score for “diagnosing” psychopathy is problematical, given recent taxometric evidence that the PCL-R (Guay, Ruscio, Knight, & Hare, 2007) and its derivatives (Edens, Marcus, Lilienfeld, & Poythress, 2006; Walters et al., 2007) measure a dimensional construct. Cut scores are useful for communication among researchers, but of necessity are somewhat arbitrary when used for diagnostic purposes. The real issue is not how difficult it may be to reach a given “threshold” but how variations in the psychopathy dimensions relate to variables of interest, including normal range personality processes (Hare & Neumann, 2008; Lynam & Widiger, 2007).

In other words, in his scientific writings, Dr. Hare says that the best use of the PCL-R is to describe the personality traits of people we have otherwise categorized. Using it to “diagnose” psychopathy is “problematical.”

Where do we go from here and is sociopathy/psychopathy still a relevant concept?

Sociopathy (antisocial behavior) and psychopathy, or the cluster of personality traits that those with antisocial behavior have, are still very important to understand. First most people do not habitually engage in harmful antisocial behavior. It is important for us to understand all the factors, from personality to social circumstance that contribute to habitual antisocial behavior, or sociopathy.

Psychopathy represents a cluster of personality traits that are commonly found in very antisocial people (sociopaths). There is no cut-off score for determining “a psychopath.” It is more correct to say that high scores on measures of psychopathy indicate the presence of psychopathic personality traits to an extreme degree.

Let’s go ahead and call a spade a spade and categorize sociopaths

Is there any way to categorize sociopaths? Yes I say there is. There are distinct categories that people who are very psychopathic fall into, obvious examples include: con artists, rapists, child molesters and career criminals. Less obvious examples include: pathologic liars, unscrupulous sales people, and the perpetrators of domestic violence.

Your basic bad relationship choice

I also want to point out that most individuals who are your basic “bad relationship choice” are more psychopathic than the average person. So it is OK to call them psychopaths for the sake of convenience. The category, “bad relationship choice” includes people who repeatedly cheat on their mates, lie to them, and manipulate them. Hear me if your lover cheats on you, lies to you all the time, tries to destroy your reputation, takes your money, manipulates you and/or tries to control you, he or she is very psychopathic. That is not normal behavior. People who love one another are supposed to take special care of each other. Get away from that psychopath now before you are destroyed!

The good news

Did you make a “bad relationship choice”? Do you know a pathological liar? If you answer yes to these questions you do not need me or any specially trained expert to tell you the person you know is very psychopathic- a psychopath and a sociopath. If you want to review the set of personality traits that pathological liars, “bad relationship choices,” con artists, rapists, pedophiles, and career criminals have in common, see What is a sociopath? and Dr. Robert Hare’s symptoms of psychopaths. Use the list of personality traits to decide for yourself just how psychopathic that person you know is.

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  1. stormee

    September 21, 2008 at 8:38 pm

    Thanks wini,
    that helps… And it helps so much to read everyone’s stories and comments… A sociopath is an incomplete human according to the Dali Lama, I beleive that means they lack a soul….

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  2. Iwonder

    September 21, 2008 at 8:45 pm

    OMG Wini and Swivelchair! My Ex-P couldn’t sleep for more than a few hours either! What’s up with that. I can’t believe that connection. It as draining. Him not sleeping kept me up. I was so tired. I need a good 8 hours. I don’t know how he could do that. Sometimes, he’d be up until 5 am and then call work around 6 to call out sick and then sleep a little while. Totally nuts.

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  3. stormee

    September 21, 2008 at 8:50 pm

    That’s creepy…Mine was the same way…He would only sleep a few hours and be “up and at ’em” bright and early… I always thought it was odd…

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  4. stormee

    September 21, 2008 at 9:01 pm

    Plus he was a liar,totally arrogant ,egotistical and an “expert” on so many subjects. He bragged, acted weird (“eccentric”) in public, and had tons of energy! It’s really bizarre how they all have so much in common…

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  5. Iwonder

    September 21, 2008 at 9:02 pm

    Also, my x had to have a standing fan in the room at night. He needed the noise. It was really disruptive and I couldn’t figure out how he could sleep through the noise…for the few hours he got.
    He could sit in front of the TV and stare til dawn but I don’t think he absorbed anything he was watching.

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  6. Ox Drover

    September 21, 2008 at 9:08 pm

    Guys, you are pretty much describing a bi-polar person in a manic phase. They sleep very little, it is almost like they are on speed, either that or your P’s were on speed.

    There is a high coorelation between bi-polar and psychopathic personality disorder—Dr. Leedom did a thread on that. Something like 1/3 (more or less) of Bi-polars are also Psychopathic if I remember correctly. (CRS)

    Google Bi-polar disorder and read about it, that might give you a better idea if it describes your guys.

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  7. stormee

    September 21, 2008 at 9:25 pm

    I’ve read that Sociopaths can have several mental disorders along with anti social disorder.

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  8. stormee

    September 21, 2008 at 9:36 pm

    The difference between being an individual with bipolar disorder and being a sociopath with bipolar disorder is that the sociopath with bipolar disorder will also posses a huge EGO…

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  9. Iwonder

    September 21, 2008 at 9:54 pm

    What do you think my x was…bi-polar, sociopath, psychopath or ASD?
    1. Contant lying.
    2. Controlling
    3. Maniuplative
    4. Con artist – Workers comp fraud, tax fraud, conned me into putting his name on my deed.
    5. Lazy – Can’t keep job. Calls out sick and goes to e/r to get doctors note so he doesn’t get fired.
    6. Parasitic lifestyle
    7. Short-lived relationships.
    8. Risky behaviour – was involved with thugs being a lookout for quick cash.
    9. Cheater – several women going at one time.
    10. Not much sleep.
    11. Always working out..his arms are never big enough.
    12. No friends.
    13. Not close with family…other than a few phone calls a year to his mom and sister.
    14. Angry all the time…uncontrollable outbursts of rage. Breaking things, walking out of the house.
    15. Paranoid – trusts no one and feels people looking at him don’t trust him.
    16. Abandoned 5 out of 7 of his kids.
    17. Doesn’t sleep much.
    18. Feels he is entitled to my things.
    19. Fake crying.
    20. Runs away from the people he hurts rather than trying to make amends. He said he can never say “I’m sorry.” To him this doesn’t matter. It can’t take back things he’s done.
    21. No eye contact when he sees me now. Guilt?
    22. Always looking for some “true love.”

    I can’t figure out which mental illness he has.

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  10. Ox Drover

    September 21, 2008 at 10:26 pm

    One idndividual can have MORE THAN ONE CONDITION/ILLNESS. He definitely sounds like a psychopath/sociopath/Antisocial personality disorder,. he could ALSO be bi-polar,. the Not sleeping much sounds like it could be a manic phase, but he also might be “hyperactive” as there is apparently a relationship between ADHD and PPD.

    So, in theory he COULD be Bi-polar, PPD and ADHD, all 3.

    It SEEMS to me that people who are PPD and “something else” as well seem to be “more” P than those with only one diagnosiable condition. Just my personal assessment though.

    It does sound like your guy is a “full blooded, pedigreed PPD” though, he sure has the “signs”–especially the 7 kids that he has abandoned 5 of and I bet he is no “prize father” to the other two.

    As for your question about “guilt?”—nahhhh, NOT guilt, whatever it is, it isn’t guilt. Paranoia maybe but not guilt! lol

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