Many people commenting on this blog have expressed the hope that sociopaths/psychopaths will pay in this lifetime for their evil deeds. Well, I am writing to tell you that if this is your wish, statistics are in your favor. You likely just need to wait it out because psychopathy is associated with life failure, as I will explain.
In a recent study, Psychopathic personality traits and life-success, Dr. Simone Ullrich and colleagues examined relationship success and life success in more than 300 men, they have followed for many years, these men are now 48 years old. In their study, psychopathy was not associated with success in any of life’s domains. When they examined symptoms of psychopathy the interpersonal domain (being charming and manipulative) was not related to ”˜”˜status and wealth” or ”˜”˜successful intimate relationships”. Impulsiveness and antisocial behavior reduced ”˜”˜status and wealth.” The authors state “ It is concluded that psychopathic traits do not contribute to a successful life and that the findings cast doubt on the existence of the successful psychopath.”
You may be asking, What about all the “successful psychopaths” we hear about? First of all, I believe that these are a very tiny minority. Remember that the disorder sociopathy or psychopathy is a group of impairments that I relate to an inability to love, poor impulse control and deficient moral reasoning. Confusion arises because some narcissistic individuals have impaired ability to love accompanied by grandiosity, but their impulse control and moral reasoning are not as impaired. These individuals may achieve some life success (Journal of Personality Disorders, Vol 21(6), Dec 2007. pp. 657-663). So if a person is unable to love and grandiose but not excessively impulsive or immoral, that individual may achieve some career success. But still an inability to love prevents any real relationship success.
So now you can move on. Fate and Karma will get that psychopath/sociopath. You can go about your life working as I do, on trying to love more and live better.
Star: I’d contact both.
Star: I don’t know how you feel about this, but perhaps you should post you draft here before you send it.
Maybe some input from some folks outside of it (us) would be a help, before you send it.
Just a thought.
PB: There are issues of confidentiality, since this is a site open to the public. But Star could carefully block the details, I would think.
That’s what I was thinking.
Thank you, everyone. I will draft a letter and post it here with names bleeped out. Watch for it. I will try to do it today before my massage client comes over.
Jeezus, I certainly have enough on my plate. I’m also taking my HOA to court, applying for a loan modification from my mortgage company, and disputing a fraudulent charge on my credit card. What a lovely weekend!!! I wish that bleepity bleepin’ ^&%&*^*(&(ing sociopath would just get his lying ass off my reptile forum!!!!!!!!! That is my ONLY outlet.
Dear Star,
I am in agreement with the contacting your congressperson, AND I also agree with the angle of the army has been disrespectful to you. You ARE a tax payer and you were a witness and YOU HAVE I THINK A RIGHT TO BE NOTIFIED of the results of the “trial” or whatever they call it.
I also agree that you need to “depersonalize” it and I would focus onjust the illegal things and the immoral things he did rather than your own emotional injuries. Be outraged! (nicely of course) that he was trying to scam a pension and behaving in an immoral way and as far as you know, suffered no consequences for this. You go girl friend! TOWANDA!!!!! I’ll be looking for your letter. I bett’ya Matt can help you edit it for max effect! ((((hugs)))))
Dear Stargazer,
Sounds like you’re on the right track. I’m sorry I was gone for a while. Go for it. Congressional investigations put deadbeat military personnel and organizations in the spotlight. Sometimes it’s the only thing that gets their attention.
My son had another surgery to repair his middle ear and protect his hearing in the wake of a serious illness. This is a long, boring story, but it pretty much rules my world. The kid’s been very sick, but he’s getting the best of care. We’re blessed beyond measure.
Here is the draft. Please help me edit:
Dear Congressman XXX:
Last summer I was a key witness in a fraud investigation against a junior lieutenant in the army named X based at X army base. The army solicited my sworn statement, along with the sworn statements of 3 of my friends who knew and spent time with X. They believed at the time that X was faking a severe disability to get a medical discharge from the army, where he and his wife have been living on a substantial salary for over a year while his alleged disability was being investigated. The four of our sworn statements confirmed that, in fact, X showed no medical disability during the time we spent with him. I also supplied the contact information of other acquaintances of X who could also give a sworn statement to the same effect. During this time, I spoke with his captain, XYZ, platoon sergeant, XYZ, and investigator, XYZ. All three of them promised to keep me informed of the outcome. They said they take this type of issue very seriously. X was also under investigation for adultery. During this time X had a “no contact” order against contacting me. I did not hear from X or army personnel for 4 months. I was never updated on the case.
Then last week, X appeared on an internet forum I frequent, claiming that he had had some troubles but that they were all behind him now. I immediately contacted the three army personnel to get an update on X’s situation. Of the two who responded, they were evasive and gave me no information. The investigator said he had received “administrative punishment” and that he would forward my request to the chain of command (the captain). The captain said X is still living on the base and has not been discharged. One of the other witnesses emailed Captain X. Captain X then blocked my emails after expressing his upset that I shared his (public) email address with the other witness. (I do believe army email addresses are public informatin). It seems the fraud case the army was initially so interested in went nowhere. X was also under investigation for adultery. I am not sure this ever went anywhere either.
The army has behaved disrespectfully toward me now that my services are no longer required. As a tax payer and a key witness in their investigation, I have a right to be notified of the results of the investigation, as promised! If there is any way you can investigate this, I would be grateful.
I would be happy to provide any additional details, if you require.
Sincerely,
Stargazer’s real name
I’m thinking it’s not outraged enough. What do you think?
Okay, here is an alternate ending:
I am outraged that someone committing fraud so blatantly is living on a grand pension for over a year on my tax dollars! I am also outraged that the army deliberately disrespected me by cutting off all contact after they got my statement. I feel as a tax payer AND as a key witness in their fraud investigation, I have a right to know what happened.