Many people commenting on this blog have expressed the hope that sociopaths/psychopaths will pay in this lifetime for their evil deeds. Well, I am writing to tell you that if this is your wish, statistics are in your favor. You likely just need to wait it out because psychopathy is associated with life failure, as I will explain.
In a recent study, Psychopathic personality traits and life-success, Dr. Simone Ullrich and colleagues examined relationship success and life success in more than 300 men, they have followed for many years, these men are now 48 years old. In their study, psychopathy was not associated with success in any of life’s domains. When they examined symptoms of psychopathy the interpersonal domain (being charming and manipulative) was not related to ”˜”˜status and wealth” or ”˜”˜successful intimate relationships”. Impulsiveness and antisocial behavior reduced ”˜”˜status and wealth.” The authors state “ It is concluded that psychopathic traits do not contribute to a successful life and that the findings cast doubt on the existence of the successful psychopath.”
You may be asking, What about all the “successful psychopaths” we hear about? First of all, I believe that these are a very tiny minority. Remember that the disorder sociopathy or psychopathy is a group of impairments that I relate to an inability to love, poor impulse control and deficient moral reasoning. Confusion arises because some narcissistic individuals have impaired ability to love accompanied by grandiosity, but their impulse control and moral reasoning are not as impaired. These individuals may achieve some life success (Journal of Personality Disorders, Vol 21(6), Dec 2007. pp. 657-663). So if a person is unable to love and grandiose but not excessively impulsive or immoral, that individual may achieve some career success. But still an inability to love prevents any real relationship success.
So now you can move on. Fate and Karma will get that psychopath/sociopath. You can go about your life working as I do, on trying to love more and live better.
Stargazer
Okay. How about this. Is there anything I could pare out of this?
Re: Army Fraud Investigation Failure to Notify Witness
Dear Congressman XXX:
I was told by the Army that I would be kept apprised about a complaint I filed against X. The Army was supposed to keep me apprised of the status of my complaint; to date not only has the Army not kept me apprised, but has rebuffed my efforts to find out the status of the case by blocking my email inquiries, etc.
In August 2008, I contacted Captain X to file a complaint of adultery against X. Based on the facts I presented, the Army indicated they wanted to investigate him for malingering. They asked me for my sworn statement and the statements of friends of mine who were acquainted with X, which we all supplied on September 26. I was told by the Captain and Platoon Sergeant that I would be kept updated on the status of the investigation. In October, I also provided as evidence in their investigation 25 voice messages, as well as numerous emails from X. The other witnesses and I cooperated which an in-person investigation conducted by Lieutenant X, for which we also gave statements. He told me at that time he would let me know the outcome of the investigation. I emailed him twice over the course of December and January asking for updates. I was told in January that the investigation was complete, but that the Army was busy dealing with other soldiers. Again, he told me he would let me know the outcome. I note that during the investigation when I was sending evidence, the Army contacts were very polite, and always responded within minutes to my emails.
On February 11th, X appeared on an internet forum I frequent, claiming that he had had some troubles but that they were all behind him now and that everything was “back to normal”. I immediately contacted the three army personnel to get an update on X’s situation. The Captain and Lieutenant were both vague, saying “it has gone to legal” and “he has received administrative punishment, and I will forward your question to his chain of command.” The Captain did tell me that X was still living on base and had not been discharged. One of the other witnesses also emailed the Captain. The Captain then emailed me, berating me for giving out his Army email address, which I believe to be publicly available. I wrote him back asking him (again) what the outcome was to the investigation. My email was returned; it had been blocked. I emailed the lieutenant and platoon sergeant again asking to know the outcome of the investigation. I have received no replies to date. I believe that, for whatever reason, the army has swept the fraud investigation under the rug, after they were so eager to solicit my statement and those of my friends.
As a tax payer and a key witness in their investigation, I would be grateful if you could please look into this. I believe the army must be held accountable for handling this case in a timely and appropriate manner. I also request to be updated, as promised, for my own safety.
Please do not hesitate to contact me for additional details or documentation, including copies of sworn statements.
Stargazer
Thank you, Oxy. I am strong and I CAN do this. I love that skillet.
Ox Drover
Star,
If you get that creep on the hot seat with your letter and get his butt kicked out of the military with a dishonorable discharge, I will BUY YOU YOUR VERY OWN SKILLET AND GOLD PLATE IT! LOL
I have also had some success with the parole board and their cover up crap by threatening to go to the MEDIA. I got the Trojan horse’s first parole attempt canceled and spoke with the supervisor for the parole officer and made sure she knew that there was a restraining order and he had violated it already….and that I WOULD go to the media if he was again arrested for child molestation because they had not supervised him as they should. I have a feeling his PO will be on his butt pretty well. He won’t be off parole until August 2010 so he has a while to go before he is off the hook. I also requested that he be reassessed for his “violence level” but I am pretty sure that will not happen.
Right now the state sexual offender check and assessment board is over 5,000 assessments BEHIND and don’t have enough personnel to even think about playing catch up with another new 5,000 offenders convicted each year. I did get him moved to the top of the list though after he had been in the state 10 months and still hadn’t been assessed by threatening to go to the media.
I think I will also call the sheriff and the chief of police in the area in which he lives and give them a heads up as well, just in case it might make them also keep a closer eye on him. Won’t hurt a thing to do so. Might help.
On your letter, I would include in the original letter to the congress copies of the sworn statements. See what Matt thinks about that. good luck.
Stargazer
Wow, it took me a LONG time to find this thread. I will save it to my favorites.
Questions: Should I let the army know I have contacted congress? That might light a fire under their butts in case congress doesn’t do anything.
The sworn statements don’t say much about his malingering, just events and what happened. They also discuss our sexual relationship. Do you really think I should include them?
Should I shorten the letter? Let me know what you all think.
Thanks again for the support. I am totally heartbroken over having to leave my reptile site.
Matt
Stargazer:
Excellent letter. I wouldn’t change a thing.
I wouldn’t contact the Army. The Congressman’s office is the one who has the clout. Also, you put the ball in his court, so let him do his job .
I’d include whatever you’ve got in your possession. The less the Congressman’s office as to work up front, the happier they’ll be. Also, when they see what you’ve got, it gives them leverage in case the Army starts playing hide te ball.
Stargazer
Thank you so much, Matt. Would you believe, I also had to write a hardship letter to CitiMortgage today and now also have to help my plumber write a letter to sue my HOA in a plumbing dispute? Last week I had to write a letter to my credit card company disputing a fraudulent charge on my credit card. I’m kind of wishing I’d gone to law school way back when. Would have really come in handy right now. I cannot believe how everything hit at once. I think I need an armor made of Oxy’s skillets to protect me from all the evil that is wafting my way.
I really cannot thank you guys enough for helping me with this. I have decided if I don’t get a response from Congress, I will contact the media.
Stargazer
Last question: Should I send the letter certified?
Stargazer
Or marked as “urgent” or “reply requested” or something like that?
Matt
Stargazer:
Send it certified, return receipt requested. That way you’ll be certain his office got it.
Stargazer
Oh..one more little glitch. The statements I have (I think I still have them) are handwritten. The army investigator typed them up and had us re-sign them. Those are the ones he submitted. I don’t have copies of those. Should I send the handwritten ones?