Like us, Claudia Moscovici had her run-in with a psychopath, one that almost destroyed her marriage. Since then, like many of us, she has thoroughly researched this destructive personality disorder. She started a blog called “Psychopathy Awareness,” and wrote two books: a novel called The Seducer, and an upcoming nonfiction book called Dangerous Liaisons.
In her review of my book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, Claudia writes, “I didn’t think I could learn much more about the subject, but Donna’s book proved me wrong.”
Read the entire review on Psychopathy Awareness.
Love Fraud is available in the Lovefraud Store.
I don’t like it when someone implys some of us might be a spath. I figure they are talkin about me. I have pondered alot about that, even asked if I was. I am the first to admit I have issue’s and some dysfunction’s. But a real spath (my X) wouldnt care if he was or not, he thinks he is fine the way he is and everybody else has a problem. Just like he would always tell me ‘ i dont give a f–k what you think’ and he really didnt, that was the only true thing he prolly ever said. I see alot of peeps here that are hurting real bad, I see alot of progress ( over time). The real healing is when we stop focusing on them and focus on healing ourselves.
Hello,
I feel the same way Hens. I don’t comment much because I am new and I also feel my run in with the psycho wasn’t as “severe” as so many people here. The torture didn’t last as long, etc.
Not that it didn’t mess me up bad, it did. I’m still working on myself. I find just reading and reading helps me. I read here everyday to keep myself on track.
Someday I’ll be able to post something that will help someone else, to return the kindness thats been shown to me.
Henry,
That’s funny that you say that… I have really worried in the recent past about slipping into ‘the dark side’ but some of you pointed out the normality of where I was or am. You are no p
I like your vibe Hens!
Hello Ana – What a very kind thing to say. It’s good to know you are reading and learning……
Ox,
Yes, I think it helps a lot. I was already thinking as such, but just wanted a validation I think.
I DO care for her. But….I know this will sound VERY strange, but there is apart of me attracted to the drama it would provide as well as distraction, BUT on the other hand, I”m ENJOYING the time I’m having in learning NOT to be involved. I know what you’re saying is true, but excuse me if it sounds like a cold approach lol! I guess what I”m trying to say is that I don’t want to swing too much to the other side either to where I don’t care for people or try to help, it’s just that right now, I just can’t do it.
I don’ twant to make apologies for that.
Well, off to meet the potential landlady. Write more later.
Thanks a bunch OX!
LL
Skylar,
Thank you about the thyroid info. I will.
I liked that ‘ just maybe they will slither away’.
Aussie,
Thank you for your gentleness and validation.
“I, too, prayed and prayed, on my knees and flat out on the ground when I could not stand and curled into a ball when my stomach pained and churned and I thought I was dying on the spot. I asked for my spath to “see the light”, “get the help he needs to change”, “make amends” ”“ and on and on and on”.”
Me exactly!
“He didn’t do any of those things because he is a spath and he thinks he is special and clever and right and he thinks that I am evil and stupid and dirt. That will never change. He will never change. So ”“ in the end, I had to do the changing. Your grief process will change you and you will find the strength you didn’t know you had (just like I did) and it will pass and one day you will look in the mirror and you will be there. You will be back.”
I’ve been trying to work on me and I have really frozen up lately with the things I’ve been realizing and facing. It’s amazing to me how helpful with it is that you say what you say. I am more hopeful that I will be back. I know I’ll struggle believing that one min. and not believing it the next… but I get strength from your sure words, thank you!
“Honey, PTSD ”“ which you SURELY have (hell ”“ why should YOU be the only one on here who HASN’T had it???) ”“ amongst other things, affects your spiritual beliefs and relationships. It is very, very common to feel a disconnect and a disinterest in those areas, whilst in the throes of PTSD. It’s part of the shock and the dissociative state that occurs with trauma.”
lol! yeah, I’m not THAT special!! Thank you! : )
I am dealing with ptsd, I’m sure, but I am doing it alone here. BAD idea, I know.. : ( I guess I really hadn’t thought about the affects it all has on my spiritual beliefs and relationships. You’re right. It is a dissociative wall in me and affecting my relationship with the Lord. I don’t think I’ve realized that before. (although, I have to realize a lot of stuff over and over, my memory is shot) My focus GONE.
“When you grow back, so will your spirituality. Take it from someone who has been exactly where you are now. xxxx”
Thanky you so much Aussie!
Skylar,
You said something once before about the p sending someone into your family by way of a marriage and the worst realization sunk into my soul… again at first I ran from the computer and refuse to think on it until it just took me to my knees and I cried for days…
A p family member sent the phub into my life to take me to my all time low… He found his own purpose to drag it on so long, but to add that realization,,, and I always really knew, but… it’s all a lie, years, the pain and the humiliation that he and I put me through and just using me, … throw on I had only been a ‘favor’ for some two faced, lieing, cheating, sleazing,,,, My cousin and I were never friends, she had always work against me showing her true nature and intent towards me… Jealousies from small children… of my life,,,, hahaha which was hell, and abuse everyday. I just don’t get them… Thank God!!
You said too about happiness in the middle of the spectrum, Yeah, I believe that!
Thank you Skylar, your story has sure brought alot out for me in my own life, your dealing with it helping me to accept a few facts in my own life and family and experience.
Oh, you or someone mentioned something that reminded me…. When I chose to let this p into my life (cause I did know inside), my family had always been bad to point out my choices as, where do you find these people, the bottom of the barrel?… Well , NO, I already got the one from the bottom a few times, not this time, I had an IDEA! So I looked UNDER the barrel… and THERE HE WAS
Thanky You
LL
I just wanted to let you know I have triggers that are cocked and ready to go alot so I can loose it in monument proportions. I’ve been there so many times. I’m sorry for what he has done. He can’t stand that you might be done with him. The gall of you that you might not be thinking about him while he is doing what he does best (himself)
UNDER THE BARREL, AND THERE HE WAS…..ROTFLMAO….LOL…GREAT!!!!!!