Like us, Claudia Moscovici had her run-in with a psychopath, one that almost destroyed her marriage. Since then, like many of us, she has thoroughly researched this destructive personality disorder. She started a blog called “Psychopathy Awareness,” and wrote two books: a novel called The Seducer, and an upcoming nonfiction book called Dangerous Liaisons.
In her review of my book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, Claudia writes, “I didn’t think I could learn much more about the subject, but Donna’s book proved me wrong.”
Read the entire review on Psychopathy Awareness.
Love Fraud is available in the Lovefraud Store.
skylar
LOL just me!
I’m on my phone right now So I can’t respond at length But I wanted to tell you that you cracked me up looking under the barrel. RITCLOL. That’s rolling in the car laughing out loud.
hens
dear itjustme – i can feel your hurt in your above post, I am so happy your better and healing. Yes when I looked under a rock for love I got slime, I mean what did I expect? he was under a rock….But what you describe about your X being sent to destroy you give’s me chill’s and I do believe you..
struggling
🙂 Seriously!!! LOL!!
Thanky you guys!!
struggling
Thank you Henry for believing me, for saying that..
I know,, what did I expect? Right?
Ox Drover
Dear Me,
Sugar, you are not alone….I too dug under the rock which was under the barrel! And I got a BUNCH OF SLIME!!!! Thank you and Hens for your visuals! It is amazing what the evil ones will do to hook us into their webs.
Besides, I’ll see your under a barrel, and raise you an under a rock! LOL hee hee
lesson learned
justme
It’s very frustrating. The triggers and my reactions to them. I keep telling myself that it’s gonna be okay, it’s just one major thing i need to learn how to deal with. I worry A LOT that I’m spath with my anger. I’ve been thinking a lot today about how I reacted to spath. It is AMAZING how LITTLE it takes to set me off. One of the things I’ve discovered with my reactions is that I was CONSTANTLY on the defensive/hypervigilant mode with him. I had no idea, day to day, sometimes hour to hour, what he would say or do that would completely send me into a tailspin. It’s so evil to think about now, that his intent WAS for me to react. I would yell and scream and text and email for HOURS at him. What I didn’t understand was not only that he wanted me to do that, and provoked it, but he would be PERFECTLY CALM the entire time and would continue to say and do the meanest things. He would provoke those reactions and then BLAME me for having been provoked. I have to be VERY careful with what I read here too and integrate (somehow) into my psyche that people that care for you can be HONEST with you and call you out. That’s okay too. I have to change my perspective of what he was doing and FLIP it so that I see that not EVERYONE is trying to provoke me or wants to hurt me in that way. I have to be very MINDFUL of how I”m reacting and that the intent is not to hurt here or to provoke. That is REALLY hard for me to admit too, but it’s also really hard for me NOT to be even angrier that this was what he was doing to me. My perceptions are off and so are my reactions to those perceptions. Leftover spathy slime. It’s going to take awhile to learn OVER AGAIN that not everyone out there is not a spath.
It’sme, yes, I”m sure he is. Probably pisses him off more that I’m not responding. NOT chasing. Good 🙂
Hens, I don’t think you’re spath. You have great humor that lightens the load here sometimes, as well as the being the owner of a FEW wieners. A spath couldn’t do that as well and with as much love as you do.
LL
struggling
LL
“It is AMAZING how LITTLE it takes to set me off. One of the things I’ve discovered with my reactions is that I was CONSTANTLY on the defensive/hypervigilant mode with him. I had no idea, day to day, sometimes hour to hour, what he would say or do that would completely send me into a tailspin. It’s so evil to think about now, that his intent WAS for me to react. I would yell and scream and text and email for HOURS at him. What I didn’t understand was not only that he wanted me to do that, and provoked it, but he would be PERFECTLY CALM the entire time and would continue to say and do the meanest things. He would provoke those reactions and then BLAME me for having been provoked. ”
It’s stuff like this that makes me say I am the wife of your ex. I know I’m not REALLY but… exactly, and I still struggle and have for years now with feeling like people couldn’t see what he was doing. He would be doing or saying something so mean and when I responded with hurt he would do something else because well look at how I was acting (a tear or two in my eyes or streaming down my face, depended on the size of the knife he was twisting at the time). It would end up me screaming and saying awful things and he was calm and still twisting, witnesses were always on his side it seemed.
Truth is though I don’t know a single person that will say they ever liked him. Not even the pcousin! Go figure.
struggling
You got me there Oxy!! Thank You guys so much, I needed to laugh and it’s nice that I can make you guys laugh to!!
Feels good to smile and … to hear laughter coming out of me? miss it
I love you all here at LF!!
hens
justme – we have got to stop looking under thing’s ~!
struggling
Agreed!! No more! From now on they earn us!! We are worth it!