Like us, Claudia Moscovici had her run-in with a psychopath, one that almost destroyed her marriage. Since then, like many of us, she has thoroughly researched this destructive personality disorder. She started a blog called “Psychopathy Awareness,” and wrote two books: a novel called The Seducer, and an upcoming nonfiction book called Dangerous Liaisons.
In her review of my book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, Claudia writes, “I didn’t think I could learn much more about the subject, but Donna’s book proved me wrong.”
Read the entire review on Psychopathy Awareness.
Love Fraud is available in the Lovefraud Store.
ClaudiaMoscovici
Oxy, that’s incredible! I think many of us have the impulse to learn as much psychology as possible after being hurt by a psychopath and to try to help others. I’m so glad to hear that Aloha is doing so well and got a therapy license. Maybe since she works with adolescent girls, she’ll be one of the people who spreads this information early on, before any damage is done. Because if adolescent girls learn about personality disorders, they may avoid some of the trauma many of us have experienced later in life.
KatyDid
Lesson,
Can you share what your therapist advised about selecting a good therapist?
After FOUR bad ones, I was lucky to find a jewel where I used to live. The bad ones? Seems to be so many! – one didn’t remember anything including my name, one HATED men and at a time when I doubted my perceptions I needed someone who was at least fair towards decent men, one YELLED at me in the first session that I was “negative negative negative and no wonder my husband could barely put up with me” (I was severely DEPRESSED and couldn’t stop crying.)
My jewel? She was semi retired and chose her patients, which were highly movitated people who wanted to HEAL. But I lucked into her and I’d like to know HOW a therapist recommends finding one.
ClaudiaMoscovici
Everyone, like Oxy said, the axe is buried. Hens is certainly not a psychopath, he’s a wonderful and apparently much beloved member of lovefraud.
ErinBrock
Just to clarify……
I sometimes shorten a name and add an ‘s’ to the end.
It always reminded me of the English calling their vacation/holiday a Hols.
To me it’s an endearment.
Go figure…..
So to me when I ‘fell for’ Henry…..Henry turned to Hens…….
Same with my girl Holly she’s Hols……..
Witsend is Wits
My former pups was Allie…..she was Als…….
And EB is just Nuts!
OH MY~!!!!!
lesson learned
Katy,
First he didn’t provide any guarantees that any one particular therapist would be good or not. He was aware of many places that serve clients that have experienced trauma, and while he gave me an overview (which sounded a lot like ox’s advice while I was looking for a therapist initially), of what to look for, specific questions related to how the therapist perceives personality disorders, trauma bonding, should be asked THE FIRST SESSION.
He said he would go over this more with me next week to get a better picture of what to ask, how to ask it and what signals a level of comfort in the first meeting. I’m willing to therapist shop though. I’ve had a few that weren’t for me, but choosing one specifically that deals with trauma, ptsd, etc, is DEFINITELY a priority.
I cannot BELIEVE the audacity of a therapist who would YELL at you. I’m so sorry that happened to you!
But SO glad you got a good one. I hear you on being “lucked” into a therapist. That’s what this one was. I’m so sorry to be losing him, but I’m motivated enough to keep trying till I find the RIGHT one. I’m not so fragile now that I’m not willing to check one out, and move on if it doesn’t work.
I”ll let ya know next week more about what he shares with me in finding one. It’s neat that he’s willing to chat with a new therapist about what we’ve discussed (topic wise and with my permission) and get a feel for whether or not it’s a good fit if I feel an initial connection. Ultimately, it’s really up to me though.
LL
lesson learned
wits,
I like that take what you want/need, leave the rest. I think the point he was making was that I needed to explore more face to face human connections, rather than MOST of it online. To create a balance, but also to exercise more caution. I think that’s good advice overall.
LL
ClaudiaMoscovici
LL, I hope you’ll find a good, understanding therapist who knows about personality disorders and about post-traumatic stress disorder, as you say yourself.
lesson learned
Claudia
Amazingly, they are truly hard to find.
LL
ClaudiaMoscovici
LL, I know: because most therapy is not geared to dealing with personality disorders and their impact upon others but with “normal” people who have their share of problems, as most human beings do.
hens
I went to a physciatrist three years ago that i really liked, I told him my life story and the situation I was in with my Xbf…This physciatrist is the one that told me my X was a sociopath. well actualy he said he was a cluster B/sociopath. I asked if my xbf could be helped and he said ” well yes, but it would be like pissin on a forrest fire’..
But then abruptly this phys. left the practice, I was never given a clear answer as to why, so I saw another therapist a few more times, she was a good listener, but so am I, and I didnt feel she had much to offer..So most of my therapy has been reading here, sharing things, reading books etc. Telling people you go to a therapist get’s you some strange looks, so I dont talk about it..I think therapy is great ..if one can afford it…
There are some great therapist here on lovefraud…they have walked in our shoes kinda, hands on experience, they know what we are talkin about and what we are feeling…