Like us, Claudia Moscovici had her run-in with a psychopath, one that almost destroyed her marriage. Since then, like many of us, she has thoroughly researched this destructive personality disorder. She started a blog called “Psychopathy Awareness,” and wrote two books: a novel called The Seducer, and an upcoming nonfiction book called Dangerous Liaisons.
In her review of my book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, Claudia writes, “I didn’t think I could learn much more about the subject, but Donna’s book proved me wrong.”
Read the entire review on Psychopathy Awareness.
Love Fraud is available in the Lovefraud Store.
LL, I know all about the predatory stare:). Not to speak of the psychopath posting on all sorts of dating websites, with different profiles targeting different types of women!
Thanks, LL and Claudia. I may always second guess myself on this decision. I am not the most trusting of therapists anyway. I have a real basic mistrust of them from having had so many bad and corrupt ones. I have even been a grad student in counseling myself and didn’t think any of my fellow classmates were particularly healthy enough or gifted enough to be good therapists. It probably would have taken me a long time to overcome that mistrust, and I don’t know if I would have stuck it out all the way through.
LL, I SO look forward to this trip to Costa Rica. It’s my second time there. The last time I went alone and met a guy and had a whirlwind romance. This time I’m going with a group of snake enthusiasts. We will be looking for snakes in the jungles. I cannot tell you how excited I am about it. But I’m really scared. I’m scared my insecurities will pop up and I will shut down emotionally around the people, rather than having a good time with them. My biggest insecurity is about my age. At 50, I’m now older than most people in the groups I would hang out with. I imagine watching the guys in their 40’s chasing the younger women in their 30’s and 20’s, and feeling jealous. I know I need to work on this, cause it’s not gonna get any better as I get older. Those of you who know me know this is my big issue – the fear of aging. I’m trying to visualize a happy time. But I’m not used to “living” with a group of people. I know I have a very strong mind, and I will MAKE it be okay and make myself have fun!
The more I think about it, I think I made the right decision – to live my life. Thanks for the support!
Star;
I know nothing of the therapy program you speak of…..so my comment may be off base….
I question going in for ‘analysis’ with an educational program…..as being their ‘guinne pig’….AND being charged for it?
It’s a LONG commitment financially and time wise……and I believe you can get more out of living life and learning along the way.
Your gut spoke to you….follow it and don’t look back.
Just my 2 cents……. 🙂
Thanks EB! Your pearls of wisdom are always well received here. How are you doing?
This analyst was unusual because she is a full-fledged analyst and not a student. But still. I was kind of put on the spot and would have liked to have more time to decide.
The thought of being in therapy 5 days a week for 5 years gave me that old familiar feeling of being “screwed up”. I generally don’t feel that way too much these days, so I hope my intuition is right about that. 🙂
Star! I think you made a good decision too. And your “fear of aging” is something you are going to have to DEAL WITH—because there is nothing you can do to stop it! It is going to happen.
And you know, the thing is that we all get older, our “status in life” changes from being a toddler to a kid, to a teenager to a young adult to a middle aged adult to an old fart! I remember when I was 7 or so and my BIGGEST DESIRE WAS TO BE 10 YEARS OLD—well, that was 54 years ago that I turned 10. WOW!!! Where’d time go? The last time I looked I was 7 or 8 and wanted to be 10 now I am 64, remembering my 50th birthday which was 14 years ago! WOW!!! Time flies and I’m not a hottsy totsy young woman any more but I AM still Oxy, and I am still what I am and that’s okay with me. If I could go back to being the hottsy totsy sweet young thing I’m not sure I would any more unless I could keep what I have learned in the meantime—cause I realize that while I might have looked a whole lot cuter then, I didn’t know jack schidt about anything!
Every one of us that live long enough will one day be “older” and even if we have a great relationship right now, with the best guy/gal in the world—either they will die and leave us or we will die and leave them…and in the end, we are all ALONE inside our skin. Our skulls are really solitary confinement cells and we reach out through the bars to touch someone else, but in the end, we are still ALONE INSIDE OUR CELLS so we better start to like ourselves!
Well….those pearls may be black pearls if My cash out of my airline miles goes through……we may be off to Tahiti.
It’ll be the last gift from the spath using my CC….and racking up all those points.
🙂
Had a fun week…..with friends in town. It’s recoup time……
I know you’re right, Oxy. And I certainly wouldn’t have been any younger after 5 years of psychoanalysis. It would be horrible to spend 5 years in therapy because of a mid-life crisis that therapy can’t fix.
Glad you’re having fun, EB!!!! I still never figured out where Tahiti is. LOL For someone who has gone through so much hell, you certainly do have a good time. (((hugs)))
P.S. Who is the “we”? I hope it’s not the spath.
Star,
You go and enjoy the heck outta Costa Rica! It will be warm and beautiful and I bet you see some exotic snakes. That has got to be better than therapy. Therapy serves a purpose but your therapy sounds waaayy more exciting.
EB,
Tahiti?! I have been telling my daughter (jokingly) that I’m going to go to Tahiti and get a tatoo! Your actually going, are you going to get a tatoo? Have a blast! Is JR. going along?
I’ll be thinking of you while we get another foot of snow on Monday! EB, you have paid enough gas money for that snow blower this year, you deserve a break. TOWANDA to both of you!!!!
LL, what are your wildest dreams for the future? Do they involve any travel?