Like us, Claudia Moscovici had her run-in with a psychopath, one that almost destroyed her marriage. Since then, like many of us, she has thoroughly researched this destructive personality disorder. She started a blog called “Psychopathy Awareness,” and wrote two books: a novel called The Seducer, and an upcoming nonfiction book called Dangerous Liaisons.
In her review of my book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, Claudia writes, “I didn’t think I could learn much more about the subject, but Donna’s book proved me wrong.”
Read the entire review on Psychopathy Awareness.
Love Fraud is available in the Lovefraud Store.
HENS!! I LOVE YOU DON”T GET IT HERE!!
HE HAS A GF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW MUCH MORE DRAMA DOES ONE NEED NEWLY DIVORCED?? cOME ONE HERE!!
what would you say if you called him? tell me instead of him..
Okay, LL, settle down now! Don’t get your panties in yer crack and get yer-self all worked up and hyperventilating…..CALM, and be in the NOW! He can’t control you unless you allow it! TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FEELINGS—he can’t talk your calm away unless you ALLOW IT!!!! (((hugs))))
**ON**
It is SO hard to keep my NC. I’m STRUGGLING!!
I went to the grocery store today. I did it BY MYSELF…..I talked myself all the way through it!! I didn’t have to have one of my kids go with me!! I SELF TALKED THE WHOLE WAY IN CASE I RAN INTO HIM!!! I GOT DONE WHAT NEEDED TO BE DONE!!
Little by FUCKING little step I’m taking………
DAMMIT!
I”M SO ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I FEEL VIOLATED!! ONE of the things that use to hurt me SO BADLY was the STEALTHNESS of his BEHAVIOR…he’s such a mind FUCKER!!! I’m sorry if my language is offensive. I don’t mean to be, but I DO…..
I’m in tears. I’m so frustrated. I still love what I thought he was…
I’m VERY VERY vulnerable right now, but also VERY VERY strong………for ME. This is FOR ME……
Please help me. I won’t get off this blog, I’ll keep reading or whatever it is I have to do right now to stay NC. I’m so VERY VERY upset!!
That’s all I can focus on right now, just NC. OMG………
LL
LL – first, here’s a time honoured song on LF for dealing with frustration – miss lilly allen:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEXEKT1HNM4
Ox,
I’m in tears…..what he’s doing hurts.
I’m working SO HARD to maintain my NC….
I had a feeling today……a GUT feeling that it would be soon, even though I denied it……..
It hurts SO BAD. I DO want to respond, but I can’t. I can’t because my sanity is at stake………..
Why do they want to make it SO HARD when they know you want NOTHING to do with them? He has a gf, Ox, ……
Maybe I don’t get it enough. But this HURTS SO BAD!!
What I’m seeing is that I’m making strides……..okay, well baby steps………right now, it’s about NC. I’m trying to move too…….he WORKS in the governmental venue that could open me up like a Christmas TURKEY if he finds out where I’m at.
I JUST WANT PEACE……….what I’ve realized with NC is that even though it is SO UTTERLY PAINFUL, it is PEACEFUL too………I”ve misplaced peaceful for BOREDOM….until he comes back into my life this way.
Please help me. I know he doesn’t give a rats ass. This may be nothing more than to get a rise out of me……
That “invite” was dated MONTHS ago……….he uses this email everyday…
He WANTS me to beg for him…even if it’s just to show new gf what a “psycho” I am, if he’s even TOLD her about me, because I’m the “nine year affair” he had while married to his ex.
Please help me. Please PLEASE help me here!!!
LL
Ox,
BTW, my panties are ON but DEF in my crack and with genital warts that HE gave me……..all the more painful.
Just sayin………..
LL
second – dismantle the connection between the fantasy and the truth.
1. write down his bs traits, and whenever you feel like this read the list – over and over and over again.
2. one thing that REALLY worked for me was to write down the most shaming despicable thing the spath did – and whenever i had the fantasy i reminded myself of that one deeply painful thing.
3. and perhaps write an honest assesment of what you would TRULY get if you ‘got him back’.
xo one joy
you are strong LL – going to the store was a big thing for me back then – Hell going anywhere was tuff – your getting there. My X contacted me a few times afterwards and I remained no contact….I mean what in the world did he want anyway? Sex I am sure, but what turned him on the most was making me crazy, that was better than sex for him. That would make him feel wanted, needed and maybe loved. It would let him forget who he really is for a few hours, give him some power because he is so nothing without drama. I mean could we just act like he had never lied and cheated? Yes he could because he is an actor, but I couldnt and will not ever forget. You have nothing to gain but more pain. This is a test of your strength.
‘That would make him feel wanted, needed and maybe loved. ‘= stimulated.