Like us, Claudia Moscovici had her run-in with a psychopath, one that almost destroyed her marriage. Since then, like many of us, she has thoroughly researched this destructive personality disorder. She started a blog called “Psychopathy Awareness,” and wrote two books: a novel called The Seducer, and an upcoming nonfiction book called Dangerous Liaisons.
In her review of my book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, Claudia writes, “I didn’t think I could learn much more about the subject, but Donna’s book proved me wrong.”
Read the entire review on Psychopathy Awareness.
Love Fraud is available in the Lovefraud Store.
lesson learned
Hens,
I SO GET THAT….
I’m in crisis/self protective mode right now.
Going to the store is no big deal for most people. To me, going BY MYSELF knowing I could see him is HUGE for me!!!
HOw STUPID does that sound Hens?? HOW STUPID???
I feel like a fucking idiot right now.
ONe, I’m remembering all the SHITTY things he did to me and perhaps his motives for contact..
BASTARD!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHY?? WHY IS HE DOING THIS?
Ya know, I just have this feeling….it’s GUT, like I’ve never had before………
My daughter is PISSED OFF right now. She keeps telling me this is no big deal “so you’re stressin over an email he sent with a bunch of question marks, Ma? HE KNOWS THAT WILL GET TO YOU SO HE SITS BACK AND WAITS FOR THE SHOW TO START!”
I felt invalidated. IT IS a BIG DEAL TO ME!!!
THIS IS A BIG DEAL…I”M COMING UP ON A CRUCIAL MARK HERE!!!
One, my son heard me playing the song and he waved his hand in the air and said, “Uh, yea, Ma, we’ve heard that song OVER AND OVER…….”
REALLY?
PLease help me. I’m in such a bad place right now. I’m making a big deal over nothing………but in my heart it’s not…
These VERY subtleties are what created contact when he wanted contact.
This is NOT a big deal if one were to be on the outside looking in……….
I feel so defeated and invalidated right now………..
When I KNOW what my gut is.
I’m so upset!!!
LL
Stargazer
LL,
I’m sending you big hugs. I’ve been there. I know all about guys who don’t give a rat’s ass about you but they want to have power over you, and they want you to chase them. Yet, it does hurt, in the beginning. You WILL get over him. You WILL! Stay strong, honey. I know you are hurting.
(((((hugs)))))
ClaudiaMoscovici
LL, I’m so sorry you feel so bad, but stay courageous, because it’s normal. You’re going through the mourning process that so many of us have been through. And you’re not mourning the loss of that man, but the loss of the fantasy he created through his luring and lies. The real psychopath is always a Loser, at least as a human being. Each day you’ll grow stronger. Definitely don’t give in and don’t have contact with him, because then the whole process of mourning will restart from square one.
lesson learned
I WANT this to STOP…… S-T-O-P!!!!!!!!
Star, yes….you’re right. He expects contact from me, because that’s how it’s always been. Just a seed planted and I’m off and running…..
It HURTS not to respond. I still haven’t. Just staying in the now like I’ve never done before. BUT IT HURTS SO EFFING BADLY!!!
Claudia…
I’m trying to be courageous. Everyday………in some small way, even through so much depression and pain…I seem to walk through it…in the tiniest bit of steps………..I don’t wish ill will on anyone….and I feel so much GUILT for wishing it on him…but in my heart, I love him…the image, so I don’t wish that…I can’t. It’s not me……..
ANd it does that he wishes that upon me…
I just want to heal………….and this just hurts so so so so much!!
NC. I’m trying SO HARD to stay NC………..SO SO SO HARD!!!
I’m TRYING SO HARD……and hanging on here……it’s a battle of the wills here………a fight between hell and heaven.
I want God to win……praying hard right now for strength……
Please help me stay focused. Just for RIGHT NOw….just help me stay focused in reality…….
Thank you so much for your willingness to see through what is a MAJOR crisis for me…….I’ve never gone beyond three months NC.
I want so badlly to contact………
So badly…….and that’s my heart…fighting with my logic……….
HELP ME GOD!!!
HELP ME TO BE THERE FOR ME!! AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LL
struggling
LL
If I may cut in, I’ve always felt like I could be your ex’s exwife. So much of your story. Sometimes I get so mad at him when I read your posts.
I know he would target me and finally I was going ‘crazy’ for hours and others would say, he is ringing his phone out to show someone how crazy YOU are.
I’m so sorry that this has happened.
It is a big deal on the inside, it turns all our anger and fear loose, it seems. Our wants and desires.
(((LL)))
struggling
Oxy,
I do feel more validated and I’ve been flipping through the Bible, I keep getting side tract with other stories… but I’m getting there.
I just want to make sure you knew I only meant run you away from me not LF! It’s nice to hear it’s ok to be needy sometimes.
I have been reading here not quite two years and I love each and every one of you. I have been carried through so much through each story and event
struggling
Henry,
I would love to talk to you and talk to the ex. Maybe get answers in ways that would give me a form of closure that he will never give..
It’s a great idea, is all I’m saying!
lesson learned
Hens,
Okay where the hell is my wiener???
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hang on tight to my little bugger and he makes the world alright….
Don’t know what I would do without him…………
LL
lesson learned
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struggling
Skylar
Thank you for saying that… I feel God has spoke to me and used you to do it.
I don’t know why but they never find a thyroid problem… so far that is. My mom has thyroid problems… The dr and everyone else always brings it up, every year but they never find anything.
I am a sensitive person. Extremely passionate, which is as big a curse as a gift. Love passionately, want passionately, and fight passionately. It’s exhausting.