By Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)
I recently bought a book, Violence Risk and Threat Assessment: A Practical Guide for Mental Health and Criminal Justice Professionals, by J. Reid Meloy, Ph.D. I actually bought it to give some “credence” to the statistics I put into my letter to the parole board protesting the release on parole of the Trojan Horse-Psychopath that attacked our family,
Of course this book is directed, as the title says, to professionals, and to assess risk of violence. But since we are dealing with psychopaths, it is, I think, a good idea for us to be able also to look at the assessment for possible violence in our own psychopaths when we thwart their desires, or kick them to the curb. We need to answer the questions, “Is my psychopath likely to respond with violence? If so, how?”
Most violent individuals are not violent all the time. In the introduction, the author illustrates that “just because an abnormality (in behavior) ”¦ only shows on occasion, does not mean it has gone away.” (My emphasis.)
A “false negative” is when you decide that your individual will not be violent, and you are wrong. You may pay for this decision with your life. A “false positive” is when you think your individual will be prone to violence, and they are not. Being prepared for violence, even if your individual psychopath does not turn out to be physically violent is, of course, the safest way to play it. If you are going to err, erring on the side of caution is the best course. False positives are less damaging to us than false negatives.
There are also different kinds of “violence.” Not all violence that does damage to us is physical. Psychopaths can become financially violent and deprive us of our income, our estate, and a hundred other violations that we can all imagine.
Contributors to violence
Dr. Meloy uses what he calls a bio-psycho-social model for Violence Risk Assessment to assess an individual’s risk for violence. This consists of the biological aspects, the psychological aspects and the social aspects of the individual in question.
The first, the psychological domain, contains such things as gender, age, past history of violence, frequency of violence, how recent have they been violent, and severity of past violence, paranoia, intelligence, anger, fear problems, and the frequency and intensity of them, as well as control of impulses. Of course, the psychopathy and other attachment problems will weigh in heavily on this.
The second, the social or environmental domain, looks at the family of origin violence, economic instability and poverty, WEAPONS HISTORY, weapon skill, interest and approach behavior, as well as alcohol and or psycho-stimulant use.
The third domain is the biological one. Is there a history of head trauma, or major mental disorder (like untreated bi-polar disorder).
Dr. Meloy also emphasizes that the MOST IMPORTANT factor in his judgment is the history of past violence. The best predictor of future violence is a history of past violence.
Questions to ask yourself in doing your own “risk assessment for violence” in your psychopath are: How “provoked” is your psychopath by losing you? Do they have the paranoid personality disorder, in which they feel “that everyone is out to get them,” with a long memory for imagined slights or wounds from those people “out to get them”? Are they chronically angry, fearful and jealous? Some forms of illegal drugs will also contribute to paranoia, and as the use of drugs and the interest and reliance on weapons goes up, so does the risk of violence. Dr. Maloy mentions the killing of Nichole Brown Simpson, where she was not only killed, but after death her body almost beheaded. He says that drugs, along with the rage, could have easily lowered the threshold for the abandonment rage which probably motivated the killer.
Fear and stalking
Dr. Meloy also goes into the lack of difference between biochemical reactions to both fear and anger. Both cause the same reaction within the body. How intense is the anger response in the person you are evaluating? How does the person handle anger?
Dr. Meloy differentiates between two different kinds of violence by illustrating his text with a story about a cat.
We have all seen a cat, cornered by a dog, with its hackles raised, its tail up, hissing and spitting. That cat is emotionally reacting in a violent way to the fear inside it that it is going to be attacked by the dog. (This is called “affective” or emotional violence in reaction to a perceived threat.) Once the perceived threat is gone, the cat will quickly return to a state of calm. The purpose of this kind of violence is “threat reduction.”
The second type of violence illustrated with another story of a cat is the predatory violence, which is planned and purposeful and goal directed.
The planned and purposeful (or predatory) violence has a minimal or absent autonomic arousal, (which is the hair standing on end, the hissing and spitting etc.). As you observe the cat in predatory violence—such as stalking a mouse or bird—the cat is calm, cool and collected. It is focused on a goal as it stalks the prey. It tries to keep its purpose (violence) hidden and it tries to keep the prey from realizing that it is prey.
The brain chemicals released in each of these states of violence are completely different. The emotionally generated fear induced violence is a defense mechanism. It can still be a threat to anyone who is the perceived enemy, but it quickly subsides once the threat is gone.
With predatory violence, the predator is goal directed to do violence to the prey. They may plot and plan and take quite some time to stalk and corner the prey. The predator may strike without warning. Unlike emotionally (fear) induced violence, predatory violence is not time limited and the stalking may go on for days, weeks, months or years.
Knowing which type of violence your psychopathic adversary is involved with at any given moment can help you assess what your course of action should be. If the Psychopath is showing the “cornered cat” response, for example for being confronted in a lie, your best response is to just “back off” and let them calm down when the perceived threat is removed. If the psychopath is stalking you; emotionally, financially, or physically, they will not be so obvious to spot as the enraged cat. Once you have determined that the person you are dealing with is a psychopath, or likely one, you must assume that the person will engage in predatory violence on some level. The fact that this stalking and predatory violence may be very subtle does not make it any less dangerous.
In the short term, cornering one in a threatening manner (confrontation of any kind) can produce an emotionally violent response or even physical attack, but in the long term, the predatory violence can do more damage to us, body and soul. We need, I think, to assess the state our psychopath is operating in, and learn when to back off with confrontations, and when to prepare ourselves for “out of the blue” attacks when they are in a predatory state.
OxD
I think most of the time the person under the influance of the N/S/P cannot make that distinction! I know I did not ! Only after discovery , was I able to see how bad things where and how much worse they could get if things stayed the same! The Repeat Cycle!
One of the VALUES in this information about them is the recuring patern! It helps in not making excuses for them ! It helps you and me FACE FACT! LOVE JJ
Yes, Indi, when you are “in the fog” you can’t see the danger or you rationalize it away. I did that in the past, I have done it with the cow, but next week, (my boys are gone for the weekend) it is “off with her head” and no more risk from this “emotionally dysfunctional” COW! LOL
YUMMMMM! Tenderloin on the grill!!! Ya’lll come to my house!
Oxy – You made dog food out of a dead horse – your going to OFF the cow when the boy’s are gone – ever see the movie fried green tomatos? It’s in the Sauce!!!! Maybe we should all go to Oxy’s and invite our X’s and have a Bar-B-Que
An Acquaintance saw the evil one earlier,she hardly knows him other than via me and only to say hello to, I know her from the school gates, she yold me the evil one spoke to her a couple of days before, he had three teenage girls with him about 18 – 20 yrs old, rough as sin, typical chavs…trailer trash if you arent familiar with chav..he told her I was evil, same old same old ..but he told her the girls were hoping to bump in to me and he was going to watch them beat the hell out of me. I asked where she had seen them and the place and time was a place I would normally have been but I was at the solicitors that days..fate?
It was a shock to her because previously she only has ever said hello to him and him to her.
She wont go to police, she told me and asked it didnt egt out that she told me.
The worst part of this I felt a pang of something twist in me when she said he was with the girls…and not from fear of the assault, like a jealousy…I also feel tonight I would like to see the nice man I thought he was one more time..I know, just being honest..i wont act on my longing, but taht doesnt stop the feeling. I have like a heartache for him now.
muldoon – your above post should make you feel elated that he is out of your life!!!! He want’s too watch 3 bitch’s beat you up and you have pang’s of jealousy? Re think this muldoon. All the same I am sorry for your pain. and btw I live in a trailor..
Dear Muldoon,
Keep a note about date and time your friend saw the EX and what he told her, even though she might not want to come to court, she can be MADE TO.
GET YOU A TAPE RECORDER, a small digital one and keep it in your pocket ALL THE TIME. that way if he comes around, you get a call, or bump into anyone, and they tell you anything. YOU CAN RECORD WHAT THEY SAY. You really NEED TO GET DOCUMENTATION on all this crap. While I understand people not wanting to “get involved” in some cases they MUST GET INVOLVED and can be compelled to do so. This is your life and your bones we are talking about woman! Vary your schedule too, don’t be WHERE he thinks you will be at any given time, and keep someone with you, a police whistle and a CAN OF OVEN SPRAY as well. Don’t let them catch you off guard! What a jerk. I am so glad you are getting this guy out of your life!!!! ((((hugs))))
I am so sorry that you are going through all this drama and terror! It is so UNnecessary. Yet, in a way, him acting like this MAKES YOU KNOW WHAT A DANGEROUS GUY HE IS, and that you HAVE TO get away. No looking back. I know that you feel you would like to see the FANTASY man once again, but darling, he is DEAD.
Henry, there is a difference between a “trailer” and a “mobile home”—one is a home and the other one is a CRASH PAD! Big difference. Nice people live in mobile homes, and PSYCHOPOATHS and other TRASH live in “Trailers” LOL
Even “poor white trash” can have lots of money!! LOL My son says I am not a RED NECK, but that we are “HILL BILLIES” cause Red Necks are “trash” and “hill billies” are not. I don’t get his drift, but that’s what he says! LOL In any case, a working stiff has a RED NECK from working out in the sun, and trash usually are pale from being out all night and sleeping all day! LOL I have a “red necK” from working so I think that qualifies me as a Red Neck—we argue about it all the time! LOL I AM “bi-linguial” though, I can speak and write English and I can speak “red neck” as well. Complete with the “ya’ll come back now” and “bless her heart!” LOL ROTFLMAO And, I swing a MEAN SKILLET!
Nah, I’m not going to kill the cow til the boys get back, with both of them here I can SUPERVISE and don’t have to skin the darned thing or do the gutting. I am “management” not labor now that I have TWO men taking orders! LOL Next week the renters are sending their hired hand to help fix fences. Gosh if I was only 30 years younger I’d be all over him. CUTE guy, but he’s 30 and an honest to gosh cowboy (his grandfather is a close friend of mine) While he was here today he trimmed the donkeys feet. He doesn’t “do” donkeys or mules just horses (smart man) but he did it for me for a favor and Fat and Hairy were sooooo good, he said they were better than 99% of the horses he has done! I told him they would be! THEY KNOW THE RULE!!!! This was only the second time they had been trimmed and they acted like old hands at it.
Henry…I am not on about people in general that live in Trailers..I am on about the chavs we have here and the only way I can explain chav to you is to use a phrase that in America means this..
I know he is dead if ever he existed at all….perhaps I am meant to feel down somewhat as the end of an era looms and I face the prospect of being a single mother.
Muldoon it’s Ok I know what you meant and I should not have said anything as I also use the term trailor trash as i have plenty of it around me. I don’t know too much about your story but give yourself some time and follow Oxy’s advice. Your aquiantance friend sounds to me like you need to go NC with her also. Yearning for that man that never was, oh how I can relate too that and I am so glad I am past that. I bet you will be a wonderful single parent – there is much good awaiting you once you get past this terrible pain – dig in and live the life you want to live. And sorry about my tacky comment.
Henry, BOINK!!! for the tacky comment, Hugs for the apology (((Henry)))) Love Oxy
oxy thanx for the boink and the hug, it was just my insecurity showing.