By Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)
I recently bought a book, Violence Risk and Threat Assessment: A Practical Guide for Mental Health and Criminal Justice Professionals, by J. Reid Meloy, Ph.D. I actually bought it to give some “credence” to the statistics I put into my letter to the parole board protesting the release on parole of the Trojan Horse-Psychopath that attacked our family,
Of course this book is directed, as the title says, to professionals, and to assess risk of violence. But since we are dealing with psychopaths, it is, I think, a good idea for us to be able also to look at the assessment for possible violence in our own psychopaths when we thwart their desires, or kick them to the curb. We need to answer the questions, “Is my psychopath likely to respond with violence? If so, how?”
Most violent individuals are not violent all the time. In the introduction, the author illustrates that “just because an abnormality (in behavior) ”¦ only shows on occasion, does not mean it has gone away.” (My emphasis.)
A “false negative” is when you decide that your individual will not be violent, and you are wrong. You may pay for this decision with your life. A “false positive” is when you think your individual will be prone to violence, and they are not. Being prepared for violence, even if your individual psychopath does not turn out to be physically violent is, of course, the safest way to play it. If you are going to err, erring on the side of caution is the best course. False positives are less damaging to us than false negatives.
There are also different kinds of “violence.” Not all violence that does damage to us is physical. Psychopaths can become financially violent and deprive us of our income, our estate, and a hundred other violations that we can all imagine.
Contributors to violence
Dr. Meloy uses what he calls a bio-psycho-social model for Violence Risk Assessment to assess an individual’s risk for violence. This consists of the biological aspects, the psychological aspects and the social aspects of the individual in question.
The first, the psychological domain, contains such things as gender, age, past history of violence, frequency of violence, how recent have they been violent, and severity of past violence, paranoia, intelligence, anger, fear problems, and the frequency and intensity of them, as well as control of impulses. Of course, the psychopathy and other attachment problems will weigh in heavily on this.
The second, the social or environmental domain, looks at the family of origin violence, economic instability and poverty, WEAPONS HISTORY, weapon skill, interest and approach behavior, as well as alcohol and or psycho-stimulant use.
The third domain is the biological one. Is there a history of head trauma, or major mental disorder (like untreated bi-polar disorder).
Dr. Meloy also emphasizes that the MOST IMPORTANT factor in his judgment is the history of past violence. The best predictor of future violence is a history of past violence.
Questions to ask yourself in doing your own “risk assessment for violence” in your psychopath are: How “provoked” is your psychopath by losing you? Do they have the paranoid personality disorder, in which they feel “that everyone is out to get them,” with a long memory for imagined slights or wounds from those people “out to get them”? Are they chronically angry, fearful and jealous? Some forms of illegal drugs will also contribute to paranoia, and as the use of drugs and the interest and reliance on weapons goes up, so does the risk of violence. Dr. Maloy mentions the killing of Nichole Brown Simpson, where she was not only killed, but after death her body almost beheaded. He says that drugs, along with the rage, could have easily lowered the threshold for the abandonment rage which probably motivated the killer.
Fear and stalking
Dr. Meloy also goes into the lack of difference between biochemical reactions to both fear and anger. Both cause the same reaction within the body. How intense is the anger response in the person you are evaluating? How does the person handle anger?
Dr. Meloy differentiates between two different kinds of violence by illustrating his text with a story about a cat.
We have all seen a cat, cornered by a dog, with its hackles raised, its tail up, hissing and spitting. That cat is emotionally reacting in a violent way to the fear inside it that it is going to be attacked by the dog. (This is called “affective” or emotional violence in reaction to a perceived threat.) Once the perceived threat is gone, the cat will quickly return to a state of calm. The purpose of this kind of violence is “threat reduction.”
The second type of violence illustrated with another story of a cat is the predatory violence, which is planned and purposeful and goal directed.
The planned and purposeful (or predatory) violence has a minimal or absent autonomic arousal, (which is the hair standing on end, the hissing and spitting etc.). As you observe the cat in predatory violence—such as stalking a mouse or bird—the cat is calm, cool and collected. It is focused on a goal as it stalks the prey. It tries to keep its purpose (violence) hidden and it tries to keep the prey from realizing that it is prey.
The brain chemicals released in each of these states of violence are completely different. The emotionally generated fear induced violence is a defense mechanism. It can still be a threat to anyone who is the perceived enemy, but it quickly subsides once the threat is gone.
With predatory violence, the predator is goal directed to do violence to the prey. They may plot and plan and take quite some time to stalk and corner the prey. The predator may strike without warning. Unlike emotionally (fear) induced violence, predatory violence is not time limited and the stalking may go on for days, weeks, months or years.
Knowing which type of violence your psychopathic adversary is involved with at any given moment can help you assess what your course of action should be. If the Psychopath is showing the “cornered cat” response, for example for being confronted in a lie, your best response is to just “back off” and let them calm down when the perceived threat is removed. If the psychopath is stalking you; emotionally, financially, or physically, they will not be so obvious to spot as the enraged cat. Once you have determined that the person you are dealing with is a psychopath, or likely one, you must assume that the person will engage in predatory violence on some level. The fact that this stalking and predatory violence may be very subtle does not make it any less dangerous.
In the short term, cornering one in a threatening manner (confrontation of any kind) can produce an emotionally violent response or even physical attack, but in the long term, the predatory violence can do more damage to us, body and soul. We need, I think, to assess the state our psychopath is operating in, and learn when to back off with confrontations, and when to prepare ourselves for “out of the blue” attacks when they are in a predatory state.
I know it’s in our own Constitution but that is outdated too ! 🙁 buy one get one free at the dollar store or BIG LOTS
OxDrover,
That was REALLY good! I want to get that book after the holidays. The confrontational part was interesting in considering the recent behavior of my family member and would have been helpful having the knowledge to walk away from her and not engage in any conversation when she was in that violent mode but I didn’t see it until after I responded to her words and looked into her eyes, full of hatred and the smirk on her face of having done malice. Always creepy to see that even though it has been a rare occurrence to witness that in people. It throws you off balance like you have stepped into a different, confusing dimension.
This is a great topic OxDrover. I hope we can all stay on subject about it and share valuable experiences and input because there is a lot to be said and learned here.
I have to say it kind of peeves me to see people posting about (clipping their toenails), and I say this tongue in cheek not to hammer anyone; at least until we can get 100 or so blogs pertaining to the subjects before the jokes and side distractions come (which we all do need the humor). I just enjoy the information and experience people bring to the subjects because I seriously need this information exchange. The link Elizabeth posted was excellent too. Also, would like to buy the book on Emotional Vampirism. I’m sorry if I sound like a spoil sport because I have had some great titters and guffaws from reading some very funny posts of people on here. I just have a hard time scrolling through 20-30 one liners right when I am getting into the information exchange on serious subjects that will better our lives. Ok I’m sounding like a grouchy person who should stop there!
OxDrover and Indigo,
OxDrover, I got the psych reports back yesterday- after 6 months of hell and waiting. More to the point, it has really been about 9 years of him telling me he was going to prove to “everyone I was crazy because I see a therapist”, and he was going to take my son and prove me unfit. I WON!!! Meaning it was recommended I be given full custody and his visitation will be limited- decided and agreed upon after my son and I meet with the GAL next week. Thank you Ancient of Days!!!!! Thank you OxDrover, for your powerful prayers and all of you who took the time to pray for my little boy and I. I continue to keep all of you in my prayers too. Everyone here is so diverse, individual, outspoken and full of loving advice which has kept me here. We get 1 hour in therapy a week when and if we can afford it, but here it is that back up in our day or week when things go well or wrong and we can come here to share and help one another. My therapist (don’t get to go much these days) has kept me going for many years but she can’t be there every moment; even so a therapist is like a precious gift for your spirit. Second, my daughter is moving back home for 6 months because she is getting engaged and married. She needs to save money as does her fiance for their wedding. I can’t wait to have her home! Very excited! Yesterday was a pouring out of blessings for my family. I am in praise and awe.
Indigo, can you post some of or all of The Declaration on Human Rights. I would like to see them. Thanks if you can.
Blessings, Breach
This was a very interesting read and valuable. It dawned on me just how many P’s I have encountered in my life and how to me things seemed so normal. Right now I am having my life infected by a virus that seems to grow stronger with each breath it takes. This virus has set out on a path of not only self destruction but has tried to wipe out those that love them like Hurricane Katrina. I have installed a new software in my brain to keep the hacking and intrusions out, however this virus is going out of it’s way to seek and destroy. In some ways I have let society know what kind of person this sick individual is. The backlash has been mind blowing. I read on here way back the man posting about who he was and how he would do anyone in who let the “cat out of the bag” and this is what I am dealing with. HELP!! It just won’t go away. Since they have yet to physically attack me the police are of no help at all. It’s sick how our system allows these horrible disease infested people get away with anything. My virus always stays just with in the limits of the law. What can I do? I moved. Stopped all communication with them and they seem too thrive on trying to find ways to “finish me off” without actual contact with me. This is even affecting people not involved with them. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
~Shattered
shattered_sapphire: You said you moved. Did you also change jobs? If you are still working in the same location, they can follow you home any time they want … and then know where you live again.
Just know this fact.
Peace.
Thank you very much, Oxdrover. This is very helpful information. I really appreciate that you wrote this report.
My p/s has paranoia (big time), he thinks everyone is out to get him, fascination with guns, and HISTORY OF VIOLENCE. This article is a confirmation to me that it is OK to be concerned about the possibility of violence.
I am wondering about people on this blog, have they witnessed the kind of response you noted at the end of your comments. Can they give examples of confronting the p/s about something (lies, finances, other love interest, stealing, etc. ) and a violent response following? Does anyone remember “backing off” from the p/s when they noticed the “cornered cat response”? I think it would be interesting to hear any examples and see what we could learn from them.
How many ya want?
The last one. I wanted to sleep , I had to work the next day. I had put up with the rap crap music all evening so around 9:30pm I went to my room to sleep. He would not turn the music down! He Brought his boom box into my room so , I had had enough! I tried to explain! It is like talking to empty space! I pulled the plug on the boom box! So he wacked me in the head with the cord! I told him to leave my house and he punched me in the face!
I had to escape the house and then call Sherif!
Inthebreach
un.org/events/humanrights/2007
That should bring the whole Doc. up LOVE JJ
I put this in another post but since you are talking about it here I thought I could add it here also:
This December 10th is the 60th anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights ratified by the United Nations. It is only 1700 words long but it is a very thoughtful document that, to me, every group/organization should read and follow. Sadly not a lot of people have ever even heard about this document let alone read it. Here is a link to it for those who wish to read it:
http://www.un.org/events/human…..20_eng.pdf
Odd that link doesnt seem to work when its compressed like that. Here is a link that hopefully will http://www.un.org/events/humanrights/udhr60/