By Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)
I recently bought a book, Violence Risk and Threat Assessment: A Practical Guide for Mental Health and Criminal Justice Professionals, by J. Reid Meloy, Ph.D. I actually bought it to give some “credence” to the statistics I put into my letter to the parole board protesting the release on parole of the Trojan Horse-Psychopath that attacked our family,
Of course this book is directed, as the title says, to professionals, and to assess risk of violence. But since we are dealing with psychopaths, it is, I think, a good idea for us to be able also to look at the assessment for possible violence in our own psychopaths when we thwart their desires, or kick them to the curb. We need to answer the questions, “Is my psychopath likely to respond with violence? If so, how?”
Most violent individuals are not violent all the time. In the introduction, the author illustrates that “just because an abnormality (in behavior) ”¦ only shows on occasion, does not mean it has gone away.” (My emphasis.)
A “false negative” is when you decide that your individual will not be violent, and you are wrong. You may pay for this decision with your life. A “false positive” is when you think your individual will be prone to violence, and they are not. Being prepared for violence, even if your individual psychopath does not turn out to be physically violent is, of course, the safest way to play it. If you are going to err, erring on the side of caution is the best course. False positives are less damaging to us than false negatives.
There are also different kinds of “violence.” Not all violence that does damage to us is physical. Psychopaths can become financially violent and deprive us of our income, our estate, and a hundred other violations that we can all imagine.
Contributors to violence
Dr. Meloy uses what he calls a bio-psycho-social model for Violence Risk Assessment to assess an individual’s risk for violence. This consists of the biological aspects, the psychological aspects and the social aspects of the individual in question.
The first, the psychological domain, contains such things as gender, age, past history of violence, frequency of violence, how recent have they been violent, and severity of past violence, paranoia, intelligence, anger, fear problems, and the frequency and intensity of them, as well as control of impulses. Of course, the psychopathy and other attachment problems will weigh in heavily on this.
The second, the social or environmental domain, looks at the family of origin violence, economic instability and poverty, WEAPONS HISTORY, weapon skill, interest and approach behavior, as well as alcohol and or psycho-stimulant use.
The third domain is the biological one. Is there a history of head trauma, or major mental disorder (like untreated bi-polar disorder).
Dr. Meloy also emphasizes that the MOST IMPORTANT factor in his judgment is the history of past violence. The best predictor of future violence is a history of past violence.
Questions to ask yourself in doing your own “risk assessment for violence” in your psychopath are: How “provoked” is your psychopath by losing you? Do they have the paranoid personality disorder, in which they feel “that everyone is out to get them,” with a long memory for imagined slights or wounds from those people “out to get them”? Are they chronically angry, fearful and jealous? Some forms of illegal drugs will also contribute to paranoia, and as the use of drugs and the interest and reliance on weapons goes up, so does the risk of violence. Dr. Maloy mentions the killing of Nichole Brown Simpson, where she was not only killed, but after death her body almost beheaded. He says that drugs, along with the rage, could have easily lowered the threshold for the abandonment rage which probably motivated the killer.
Fear and stalking
Dr. Meloy also goes into the lack of difference between biochemical reactions to both fear and anger. Both cause the same reaction within the body. How intense is the anger response in the person you are evaluating? How does the person handle anger?
Dr. Meloy differentiates between two different kinds of violence by illustrating his text with a story about a cat.
We have all seen a cat, cornered by a dog, with its hackles raised, its tail up, hissing and spitting. That cat is emotionally reacting in a violent way to the fear inside it that it is going to be attacked by the dog. (This is called “affective” or emotional violence in reaction to a perceived threat.) Once the perceived threat is gone, the cat will quickly return to a state of calm. The purpose of this kind of violence is “threat reduction.”
The second type of violence illustrated with another story of a cat is the predatory violence, which is planned and purposeful and goal directed.
The planned and purposeful (or predatory) violence has a minimal or absent autonomic arousal, (which is the hair standing on end, the hissing and spitting etc.). As you observe the cat in predatory violence—such as stalking a mouse or bird—the cat is calm, cool and collected. It is focused on a goal as it stalks the prey. It tries to keep its purpose (violence) hidden and it tries to keep the prey from realizing that it is prey.
The brain chemicals released in each of these states of violence are completely different. The emotionally generated fear induced violence is a defense mechanism. It can still be a threat to anyone who is the perceived enemy, but it quickly subsides once the threat is gone.
With predatory violence, the predator is goal directed to do violence to the prey. They may plot and plan and take quite some time to stalk and corner the prey. The predator may strike without warning. Unlike emotionally (fear) induced violence, predatory violence is not time limited and the stalking may go on for days, weeks, months or years.
Knowing which type of violence your psychopathic adversary is involved with at any given moment can help you assess what your course of action should be. If the Psychopath is showing the “cornered cat” response, for example for being confronted in a lie, your best response is to just “back off” and let them calm down when the perceived threat is removed. If the psychopath is stalking you; emotionally, financially, or physically, they will not be so obvious to spot as the enraged cat. Once you have determined that the person you are dealing with is a psychopath, or likely one, you must assume that the person will engage in predatory violence on some level. The fact that this stalking and predatory violence may be very subtle does not make it any less dangerous.
In the short term, cornering one in a threatening manner (confrontation of any kind) can produce an emotionally violent response or even physical attack, but in the long term, the predatory violence can do more damage to us, body and soul. We need, I think, to assess the state our psychopath is operating in, and learn when to back off with confrontations, and when to prepare ourselves for “out of the blue” attacks when they are in a predatory state.
Dear Escaped,
Good luck with your studying and your exams. I have vivid memories of that, believe me! LOL You just sparked another article in my mind. I’ll tell you about it later, get back to work studying! LOL
Hi s-sapphire
I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through, I have been through the same. In the UK you can get an alarm fitted by the Police that links directly to the nearest police station, in cases of serious threats of violence. Can you get anything similar?
It will only protect you at home, but it does help give you peace of mind.
Not that it helped in my case, as the P’s will bide their time (as mine warned). If you have been seriously threatened you must keep your guard up. It took my P six months before he followed through with his threat (by then I had thought he had given up) , but even then did not do it himself, he paid someone else.
Be careful when you get in and out of your car. Make sure no one is hanging around your home, have your keys ready and answer the door to no one unless you know for sure who it is.
If in real doubt call the Police and ask them to check it out.
Take care xx
Excellent article, Oxy. Sapphire, another book you might find helpful is The Psychology of Stalking: A Clinical and Forensic Perpective. It was edited by Meloy.
Wow, I only had time to scan this article, and it’s another good one. Thanks, OxD. I definitely have my guard up now that the investigation is finally happening with my ex in the army. When it’s over, I haven’t ruled out the possibility that he could come after me. He doesn’t have a history of violence I’m told, but he is probably on lots of meds for his alleged “head injury” that we don’t know if he really has or not. What is most likely is that he will return to my reptile forum where I so happily spend so much of my time. If he does, I won’t even question the decision–I’ll just leave, as much as it will be like ripping off my left arm. After all, the internet is MY addiction, so it can only be a good thing in the end. Wish me luck. My deposition is tomorrow am.
OxD, how are you doing with the Trojan Horse P being out on parole?
Star
Can’t you block a user on your site?
Does Levinworth have computers for inmates?
You Will Do Fine Star Trust the Force! Wear a Snake piece of Jewelry or a Snake Shirt . Take a piece of Skin with you to hold! :)~ Ssssssssss BIG SQUEEZE LOVE YA STAR JJ
Dear Star,
Thanks for asking, actually, Friday when I found out he was released, I sort of “freaked out” in a combination of frustration, suprise and anger at the system not doing what it was supposed to. However, now that the “suprise” is over I am coping okay again. We are continuing to keep our guard up, keep doors locked, and be cautious, keeping fire arms near, but not living in terror by any means.
I did have my son C warn my mother that he was out, but she was so hateful to him about her sending moneyto my P-son that he said “I’m done with her completely” and is total NC with her now as well.
In the meantime I am contacting the warden at my P-son’s prison to send her a copy of the letter he wrote my mom about”phone calls” which the ONLY way he could make would be on a smuggled contraband cell phone, which due to the recent event of a prisoner on DEATH ROW where security is supposed to be at its highest, a prisoner on a smuggled cell phone called a Texas official and cursed him out. LOL So I am hoping at least that my son will be transferred to another prison to get him away from the access he obviously has to a phone. He uses his not insignificant electronic skills and his ability to build a solder iron out of an electric cord and a pencil to solder the wires to hide a cell phone inside any electric appliance. I don’t doubt that he has used that ability to hide one for someone else who in exchange lets him use it once in a while. If he’s transferred, then he will have to make new connections in a new prison, though he has been moved around enough he usually has “old pals” just about anywhere they send him now.
Good luck on your deposition, Star!!! I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. TOWANDA!!!
Thank you, Indi and OxD. I will touch base some time afterward to let you all know how it went. Indi, I will wear my snake ring for good luck.
OxD, it just amazes me that we spend so much money to keep a murderer in prison, and yet the prison system is not smart enough to figure out how to keep cell phones out of the prison? I don’t get it. Sounds like you’re doing what you can behind the scenes. I’m certainly glad you’re feeling safer. I know when you’re relaxed and not in fight-or-flight reaction, you will probably make sounder decisions. Hopefully, the TH-P has better things to do this time around. I still think a tall chain link fence is not a bad idea……..
Oh, Indi, to answer your question, I can put a user on “ignore” but I still see their name when they post. I don’t even want to see or hear his name.
Dear Star,
An electronic security outfit and a gun is more effective than a chain link fence! He knows that we have both! Personally, I thik that is the only reason my X-BF-P didn’t try to burn MY house like he did the GF prior to me. LOL
Oh, I heard from my friend that the X-BF-P got married a couple of months ago. My reaction was to feel sorry for the woman, she just doesn’t know what she has gotten herself in for. He has NEVER been faithful to a single woman he has been with—he cheated on his first wife for 32 years, even on his GFs that he had during that time with other women…each on thinking she was the “special” one….LOL I am just glad that “happy bride” wasn’t me, because I know the pain she is in for down the road when she catches him, and she will.
OxD, I’m glad you have some safety precautions in place. I’m not sure what a security outfit is. Sounds attractive! lol Yes, these cheaters just carve a path of pain and destruction everywhere they go. Did you read that the army investigators came here this morning? I posted about it on two other threads here.