By Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)
I recently bought a book, Violence Risk and Threat Assessment: A Practical Guide for Mental Health and Criminal Justice Professionals, by J. Reid Meloy, Ph.D. I actually bought it to give some “credence” to the statistics I put into my letter to the parole board protesting the release on parole of the Trojan Horse-Psychopath that attacked our family,
Of course this book is directed, as the title says, to professionals, and to assess risk of violence. But since we are dealing with psychopaths, it is, I think, a good idea for us to be able also to look at the assessment for possible violence in our own psychopaths when we thwart their desires, or kick them to the curb. We need to answer the questions, “Is my psychopath likely to respond with violence? If so, how?”
Most violent individuals are not violent all the time. In the introduction, the author illustrates that “just because an abnormality (in behavior) ”¦ only shows on occasion, does not mean it has gone away.” (My emphasis.)
A “false negative” is when you decide that your individual will not be violent, and you are wrong. You may pay for this decision with your life. A “false positive” is when you think your individual will be prone to violence, and they are not. Being prepared for violence, even if your individual psychopath does not turn out to be physically violent is, of course, the safest way to play it. If you are going to err, erring on the side of caution is the best course. False positives are less damaging to us than false negatives.
There are also different kinds of “violence.” Not all violence that does damage to us is physical. Psychopaths can become financially violent and deprive us of our income, our estate, and a hundred other violations that we can all imagine.
Contributors to violence
Dr. Meloy uses what he calls a bio-psycho-social model for Violence Risk Assessment to assess an individual’s risk for violence. This consists of the biological aspects, the psychological aspects and the social aspects of the individual in question.
The first, the psychological domain, contains such things as gender, age, past history of violence, frequency of violence, how recent have they been violent, and severity of past violence, paranoia, intelligence, anger, fear problems, and the frequency and intensity of them, as well as control of impulses. Of course, the psychopathy and other attachment problems will weigh in heavily on this.
The second, the social or environmental domain, looks at the family of origin violence, economic instability and poverty, WEAPONS HISTORY, weapon skill, interest and approach behavior, as well as alcohol and or psycho-stimulant use.
The third domain is the biological one. Is there a history of head trauma, or major mental disorder (like untreated bi-polar disorder).
Dr. Meloy also emphasizes that the MOST IMPORTANT factor in his judgment is the history of past violence. The best predictor of future violence is a history of past violence.
Questions to ask yourself in doing your own “risk assessment for violence” in your psychopath are: How “provoked” is your psychopath by losing you? Do they have the paranoid personality disorder, in which they feel “that everyone is out to get them,” with a long memory for imagined slights or wounds from those people “out to get them”? Are they chronically angry, fearful and jealous? Some forms of illegal drugs will also contribute to paranoia, and as the use of drugs and the interest and reliance on weapons goes up, so does the risk of violence. Dr. Maloy mentions the killing of Nichole Brown Simpson, where she was not only killed, but after death her body almost beheaded. He says that drugs, along with the rage, could have easily lowered the threshold for the abandonment rage which probably motivated the killer.
Fear and stalking
Dr. Meloy also goes into the lack of difference between biochemical reactions to both fear and anger. Both cause the same reaction within the body. How intense is the anger response in the person you are evaluating? How does the person handle anger?
Dr. Meloy differentiates between two different kinds of violence by illustrating his text with a story about a cat.
We have all seen a cat, cornered by a dog, with its hackles raised, its tail up, hissing and spitting. That cat is emotionally reacting in a violent way to the fear inside it that it is going to be attacked by the dog. (This is called “affective” or emotional violence in reaction to a perceived threat.) Once the perceived threat is gone, the cat will quickly return to a state of calm. The purpose of this kind of violence is “threat reduction.”
The second type of violence illustrated with another story of a cat is the predatory violence, which is planned and purposeful and goal directed.
The planned and purposeful (or predatory) violence has a minimal or absent autonomic arousal, (which is the hair standing on end, the hissing and spitting etc.). As you observe the cat in predatory violence—such as stalking a mouse or bird—the cat is calm, cool and collected. It is focused on a goal as it stalks the prey. It tries to keep its purpose (violence) hidden and it tries to keep the prey from realizing that it is prey.
The brain chemicals released in each of these states of violence are completely different. The emotionally generated fear induced violence is a defense mechanism. It can still be a threat to anyone who is the perceived enemy, but it quickly subsides once the threat is gone.
With predatory violence, the predator is goal directed to do violence to the prey. They may plot and plan and take quite some time to stalk and corner the prey. The predator may strike without warning. Unlike emotionally (fear) induced violence, predatory violence is not time limited and the stalking may go on for days, weeks, months or years.
Knowing which type of violence your psychopathic adversary is involved with at any given moment can help you assess what your course of action should be. If the Psychopath is showing the “cornered cat” response, for example for being confronted in a lie, your best response is to just “back off” and let them calm down when the perceived threat is removed. If the psychopath is stalking you; emotionally, financially, or physically, they will not be so obvious to spot as the enraged cat. Once you have determined that the person you are dealing with is a psychopath, or likely one, you must assume that the person will engage in predatory violence on some level. The fact that this stalking and predatory violence may be very subtle does not make it any less dangerous.
In the short term, cornering one in a threatening manner (confrontation of any kind) can produce an emotionally violent response or even physical attack, but in the long term, the predatory violence can do more damage to us, body and soul. We need, I think, to assess the state our psychopath is operating in, and learn when to back off with confrontations, and when to prepare ourselves for “out of the blue” attacks when they are in a predatory state.
OxDrover,
The more I read about the potential to be dangerous, themore nervous it makes me. Again, even though he has not been arrested for anything, (that I am aware of) it doesnt’ mean he doesn’t have that potentail to BE dangerous. Scott Peterson did not have a criminal history right?
The kinds of things he did to be vengeful were very immature….. not thinking of the consequences to himself….like, texting my son (a teenager) and justifying being in bed with a woman 18 yrs younger by telling him he did it because I hate his children and he loves mine so much or leaving a letter (five of them) at every entrance to my home and in my mailbox while I was at work, accusing me of cheating when he knew my kids would find them. Calling my friends and telling them how crazy my behavior is after he stood me up several times, calling me names and being abusive……. I actually watch him stomp up and down on a pair of sunglasses I bought him because he was mad at me for questioning him.
I think he wants to APPEAR intimidating, hence the lies about special ops, killing people, chasing terrorists. THe hero wannabe??? The FBI has a tough enough time convicting these liars when they have also committed arson and murder, let alone wasting their time on the ones who threaten and intimidate. Unfortunately, you have to actually commit a crime first. No such thing as being proactive in these cases because there are so many of them who are just big talkers. THe whole thing is just disturbing !! And I don’t underestimate the potential.. Thanks for your support and I really menat that. When I read your story OxDrover, I realize that my situation is minor but it hurts all the same to be duped by someone you were convinced truly cared about you.
Keeping Faith,
Consider paying a little money to have him investigated. Don’t invest more than about 75 bucks, and confine your search to whichever state/states he’s lived in within 5 years.
If there aren’t any incidents, relax a bit. Past behavior is an excellent predictor of future behavior. That being said, everyone should develop good “HABITS” and do their home security “WALK AWAYS”.
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html
I suggest you worry as little as possible. Consider taking reasonable steps to reduce your risk and then giving yourself a well deserved pat on the back. The payoff can be enormous.
Elizabeth,
Thank you. It’s a year later but only about 8 months since the stalking ended. I did have some help from an organization who helped me to investigate his military record. I had correspondence with an author who wrote a book about special ops phonies and they basically told me the truth. I also learned that he did not subsequently work for a gov’t agency (under cover) and each time he lied to me it came in the form of a dramatic story usually with tears. He didn’t use aliases or kill people….on and on and on.
He didn’t earn what he said. Everything he owns was given to him. I’m not sure he was an abused child based on conversations with his sister. His daughters are manipulative and angry adults. His x wife and previous girlfriend are in denial. He is impulsive and abusive and I have no doubt he is a sociopath. he may be a milder form in that he hasn’t committed a crime by law but he is immoral and unethical at a minimum.
Thank you for your support. I am so glad I found this place.
Awesome. If there’s no history of actual assaults, domestic or otherwise, you can probably relax a little bit. That’s not to minimize what you’re going through. Mind games are the worst!!!
They just found the remains of a small girl just a small distance from the Anthonys House! ferified child! Casy Anthony is cooked I hope she gets life so she can dwell on little snot nose ruining her social life ! she is the PSYcopath of the moment and she deserves death But I would’nt let her get off that easy I would rather Pay for her to ROT! LOVE JJ
as sad as this case is, i hope that body is caylee to put this case to rest and finally get justice for that little girl she didt deserve any of this. i hope that casey gets what she deserves
I picked up a book at a junk store yesrday written by a “contributitin g Forensic Psychiatrist on Court TV” Dr. Keith Ablow, M.D. called “Inside the Mind of Scott Peterson” about what made Scott into a viiolent killer.
As I read this book, my BLOOD BOILED at the ignorance and stupidity of this “Contribuiting Forensic Psychiatrist” and his idiotic (am I holding back my opinions of this guy too much for you all?)
He went to great lengths to IMAGINE that the murder of Scott Peterson’s grandfather when his mother Jackie was 2, and Jackie being raised in an orphanage for several years was THE FACTOR that caused Jackie to be “cold” to Scott and that his father (who didn’t like kids) and was a cold fish was what kept Scott from having empathy.
Dr. Ablow reported that Scott’s mother, Jackie was a pathological liar and that family members said “Jackie lies about anything and everything. She would not confirom your recollection or view of anything, if it didn’t suit her.”
He went on to talk about the LOVE that Scott had for Amber Frey his girl friend and that if she had just given him UNCONDITIONAL love that it would have changed Scott, if she had not told him that if he was married she wouldn’t stay with him.
Can we say BULL CHIT children?
Dr. What’s-his-face even said, when talking about the “pity ploy” that Scott gave Amber (complete with fake tears) “I do not believe he could have faked every iotal of what Amber Freydescribed–the breathlessness, the tears streaming down his face, the difficulty swallowing, the stunning admission that he had lied to her in the past.” (This was when Amber had found out he was married, and he “confessed” that he HAD been married but his wife had DIED!
Yet, he also said that Scott had “No empathy. No feelings of guilt. Scott was displaying the hallmarks of sociopathy.” He went on to say that “classic sociopahts like Scott are “unmoved by the suffering of others.”
He also quoted several passages from “The Mask of Sanity” but in the end he said that his opinon was that Scott Peterson was “legally insane” and had no control over his behavior, that his mother’s coldness and his father’s coldness had taken away all of Scott’s emotions and he couldn’t help himself.
Scott had apprently gotten a girl preg when he was in college and his mother had come and talked the girl into an abortion and Dr. What-shis-face surmises and imagines that “If his girlfriend had put it this way, “I would never destroy this baby, Scott, because it is part of you, and I love you” then we might never have watched Laci Peterson’s body pulled from the San Francisco Bay, or Scott Peterson on tiral for her murder and that of his unborn son. We have the capacity to heal one another.”
AH, COME ON, WHAT MATCH BOX DID THIS JERK GET HIS MD FROM?
Dr. Ablow seems to think that if Scott Peterson had gotten Unconditional love from any of the many women he cheated on Laci with, or from Amber Frey, or that the girl carrying his child that she later aborted, he would have had a “spark” that would have made him able to love.
It appals me that someone who presents themselves to the media as an “expert” in this sort of thing, apparently knows SQUAT about the potential violence of the psychopath, or that ANY of them, under the right circumstances of being “caught” in a web of responsibility that they don’t want to assume can see violence, even murder as a “way out.” How someone who presents himself as an “expert” knows absolutely nothing about how real psychopaths act.
Blub blub blub!!! That’s the sound of my blood boiling folks!!!
The Anthony case is another example of how the underestimation of the potential for violence in the psychopath causes injuries and deaths.
The grandmother “made” the daughter keep the baby when she wanted to give her up for adoption, to “teach her responsibility’ and what happened–she killed the baby.
I tried to “make” my psychopathic teenager not violate the law too, and what did it get me?
If a psychopath is cornered where they feel they are trapped by something and prevented from getting what they want, I am convinced any and all of them under the right circumsances can and will consider murder, and especially if they are like my P son and are so arrogant about their own smarts and the “threat” is real enough to them, that they will do what they can to quell the threat. Also the violence brought on by a momentary rage is also I think underestimated.
My opinion (for what little it’s worth given the little I know) I think that the baby was probably killed in a fit of rage at the child’s crying or other inconveniencing of her P-mother, then the cover up of disposing of the body. I don’t think it was planned in advance.
The entire family situation sounds really dysfunctional at best, with enabling etc. but the bottom line was that if the girl’s mother had let her give the baby up for adoption, that child would be alive today. Forced parenthood doesn’t work–EVER, and especially not with a psychopath as the “parent.”
OxD
I have heard it mentionedd that perhaps she was only trying to get the baby to sleep. Chloraform . And your right If they had just taken the baby away from her the child might still be alive today LOVE JJ
OxD
Hence the Location of the Book ! :)~