A 24-year-old guy described himself in an Internet forum: He doesn’t feel emotion, is an excellent liar, becomes bored quickly, and experiences an adrenalin rush when deceiving or angering someone else. He asks, is he a sociopath?
I’d answer yes. The post is an interesting insight into how a disordered young man perceives himself and others.
Read Self-diagnosing sociopathy on the Dr. Robert forum.
ErinBrock
Lizzy~
We must dislodge from the toxics in our life. cut ALL ties.
We can’t pick and choose when we can ‘go to them’ and expect something different than what theyv’e always given us. You have the knowledge……now don’t cast yourself in his puppet show.
I know you are in a ‘bad’ way financially, but if you continue to allow yourself to be his pawn, he will treat you as such.
Come hell or high water, you can’t rely on him or accept his help with strings.
You will get the same result every time.
Self sufficient is the ONLY way to go……it elliminates so much for us.
Louise
EB:
Fantastic post! You really hit home!
ElizabethBennett
Erin-you are totally right and today I finally had enough of it. I realized that he sends these cruel, vicious, venomous emails whenever my stepmoms daughter is there in town. She is apparently perfect and the yardstick in which all of us should be measured. He pulls the same shit on my little brother that he does with me. My brother hasn’t had enough yet. I plan to pay him back money asap and then quietly go NC without any production. If I can do it with mom, I can do it with him. I have had infinitely less stress in my life without her. Now that I am in counseling it is helping me to deal with it better. I put her out for stepping over boundaries and on mother’s day attempted to make peace (big fat mistake), she immediately started encroaching and I got PTSD and gave her the boot. He’s about to get the same treatment. Sometimes I do envy my friends who have/had normal relationships with their parents.
KatyDid
Lizzy,
Ducks doing a lip lock?
Like in “I know cpr! I can help?” or like in “you clearly have a mouth disease, pucker up?”
KatyDid
EB,
Once I learned how to “play” my husband and get his cooperation, I couldn’t stand myself. Who wants to get something by manipulating someone? It’s an awful feeling.
However, I do admit, I have gotten lots of evidence for my divorce by doing just that… but I have NOT been so foolish to forget that my husband ALWAYS has a hidden agenda, sometimes hidden within other hidden agendas. He thinks people compete to one up him and win. I don’t need to one up him to be free from him. Maybe that means he Overestimates me.
I did stop talking to my husband quite a while ago, stopped him from being able to choose how we communicate for divorce stuff. That has unnerved him b/c without contact, he can’t predict what comes next. Silence is more than golden, it’s priceless.
ElizabethBennett
Katy-either one, I just have this vision of ducks locking lips with someone and makes me giggle. My cell phone ring tone is ducks and it quacks at me when someone calls.
Maybe I’m just wantin to be kissed and so I’m focused on it.
KatyDid
Lizzy,
Stop sucking on your phone.
ElizabethBennett
Katy-I’m just waiting to be kissed! ROTLMAO!
KatyDid
Lizzy,
Then maybe you should have panting and facesucking sounds on your ringer.Ya know, so people hear a subliminal message?
nighty nite. i been bad now…time for beddy bie
ElizabethBennett
Katy-you haven’t been too bad since you obviously can’t see what’s going on in MY head right now-much dirtyness!