A 24-year-old guy described himself in an Internet forum: He doesn’t feel emotion, is an excellent liar, becomes bored quickly, and experiences an adrenalin rush when deceiving or angering someone else. He asks, is he a sociopath?
I’d answer yes. The post is an interesting insight into how a disordered young man perceives himself and others.
Read Self-diagnosing sociopathy on the Dr. Robert forum.
Louise
Very late here also…bye everyone…
behind_blue_eyes
One;
Yes, my denial played a big role as I did sense something was not quite right with my x-spath. But his “innocent” charm got the better of me.
They “playing innocent” thing is something my x-spath does. A Windows Live chat name he used with me was like “virginjames…” At the time I laughed because it is also a play on his employer, Virgin Airlines, now I realize this is more pathological.
He also uses names like “clueless lad” on dating sites. That he is rapidly approaching 40 makes his act also quite pathetic…
Louise
BBE:
What part of England is your X spath from? Is he still there?
behind_blue_eyes
Born in Liverpool lives in London. He is still there. For what ever it means the profiles I found have not been active in a year. Facebook profile is the same picture as taken the afternoon just before he met me. One other social site he was not very active and did not post a profile picture. Thus, any “public” pictures of him are over two years old.
Louise
BBE:
Ahhh, yes, we talked about this before, but I couldn’t remember if you said Liverpool or not. Mine was also born in Liverpool! Yikes. Then lived in Manchester for his adult life which isn’t that far away. I think someone else on here talked about the Council Estates.
I truly think the people from there in general have some type of genetic innocent, boylike charm. I can’t explain it, but look at the Beatles. If you ever watch old interviews with them, they all have that playful, charming quality. My X spath acts just like that. And it sounds like yours is the same. Did he come here to the states or did you go there?
Here was my big trigger Saturday night. I went to a concert of a somewhat new band who is really trying to make it big (and they will…they are fantastic). They were here in my city and I was chosen by one of our radio stations to go see them for free. I love their music. So I get there and end up being able to sit RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM UP FRONT!! Anyway, the band happens to be from Bradford/Leeds which is just 30 miles from Manchester. I have fallen in love with the lead singer never mind that I could technically be his mother! Anyway, he sounds EXACTLY like my X spath…that gorgeous northern England accent which is so different from the accents in other parts of England. Even his mannerisms…they way he touches his hair when he talks, everything was almost just like my X spath. He was talking during the show in between songs (you know how they do that) and was saying that he thought their accent was bad and no one could understand them and how it wasn’t the “proper” English accent like the Queen and all that and I was sitting there thinking are you kidding? It’s the sexiest ever. He was also saying how they don’t like it at all where they live; he said the area is a dump and they love the US. I got to talk to him after the show and asked him how old he was. I thought he was about 22, but he said he was 30. He even looked like a young X spath to me. I could have brought him home he was so yummy. I got to hug him twice. I told him I dated someone from Manchester and that’s when he told me he lives only 30 miles from there.
Anyway, this was a HUGE trigger for me obviously. It’s just not good. They are coming here to my city again in September, but to a different venue. I really want to go see them because I love their music, but to what detriment to me because it will trigger me? It’s frustrating.
Louise
Oh, also this is interesting. The lead singer was actually a professional soccer player in England, but he broke his foot when he was 21 and it ended his soccer career. That’s when he picked up a guitar and the rest is history. Interesting.
ElizabethBennett
Louise-it sounds like a fun time even though you were triggered.
Louise
Oh, it was the best ever!!
behind_blue_eyes
Louise;
I gather the Liverpool accent (Scouse) as something akin to a Southern USA accent. Charming to some, but I have learned that the Liverpool accent is viewed as negatively by many in London and SE England.
Its origin is apparently due to many Irish and Scottish immigrants in Liverpool.
I liked it and I liked his “act.”
Louise
BBE:
I just posted to you and lost it. It’s this laptop…I keep touching something I shouldn’t. Anyway, I was saying that I have also heard that the Liverpool (Scouse) accent is looked down upon, but my X spath actually has more of the Manchester accent which is a little different even though it is very close to Liverpool. I love how they say anything with a “short u” like up, cup, f*ck…it has kind of an “oops” sound. And anything with a “short a” sounds like a “short u.” Such as Danny sounds like Dunny. I absolutely love it and my X spath spoke very proper. They pronounce their “Ts.” He also speaks very soft. I think that was part of the addiction. Yes, being in northern England, there is definitely a lot of Scottish influence which would make sense. Kind of like chef Gordon Ramsey’s accent. He sounds a lot like him also. But he REALLY sounded exactly like the lead singer in this band I saw. It’s amazing how different people can sound so much alike.