A 24-year-old guy described himself in an Internet forum: He doesn’t feel emotion, is an excellent liar, becomes bored quickly, and experiences an adrenalin rush when deceiving or angering someone else. He asks, is he a sociopath?
I’d answer yes. The post is an interesting insight into how a disordered young man perceives himself and others.
Read Self-diagnosing sociopathy on the Dr. Robert forum.
Thanks, Louise….
We had been friends for just about 6 years before I learned he was married. He insisted he made a mistake and married the wrong person but didn’t want to end the marriage because he loved her too. Sure, same old story; right? Yes, I was taken in. The thing was we had been friends long before he married. And it just ‘slipped his mind’ to tell me while he was ‘romancing’ me; huh?
Yah, it hasn’t been a picnic, for sure.
He has been a horrid, horrible experience in my life and the only good thing to come from it is a better self awareness. I know what I want and don’t want anymore and it’s going to be the way “I” color it from now on.
I don’t “need” anyone about me. I am completely self sufficient. I don’t need to tolerate anyone’s crap the way I have the past almost five years with no appreciation or respect.
Yah, he is just trying real hard to shut me up and make me go away, now. Yet, he is still caught up in the obsession, I know he is. The spell has broken for me!
I intend to defend and protect myself by whatever means necessary.
Take care of yourself Louise….
Make yourself strong at heart and never give that little spot inside away that belongs to only you. xxoo
DUPED
Why do I think there are more gay sociopath? Personal observation but do a quick Hare test on the gay community (I do mean gay male) and it will come up high due to 1) promiscuity; 2) many short-term relationships; 3) rampant drug and alcohol abuse; 4) grandiosity and narcissism…
Which Gay Clubs? In particular I mean ones that still have back rooms or saunas/bath houses:
In NYC, these are mostly gone save for the Cock and No Where Bar. Saunas and bath houses in NYC are closed save for the WSC, which to be honest I have never been to.
Berlin is a sewer.
Montreal closed back rooms that serve alcohol but has more bath houses and saunas per capita than any city in the world. Again, I don’t do saunas and was told by a friend they are “a nest of HIV.” The person who told me this is HIV+.
Budapest and Paris, not quite as bad as Berlin but both cities still have thriving “back room” establishments.
The one big gay club in St. Petersburg, Russia has a dark room and I am told that the Russian government does not do much to educate regarding HIV.
Nice and Milan seemed pretty “tame” at least in the main clubs.
I have not been out in SF for 10 years so I don’t know what the scene is like there. Same for DC and Philadelphia.
QUOTE One/Joy:
one/joy_step_at_a_time says:
wow. oxy! ”“ sorry my dear, not trying to beat up on you, but holy crap those ARE HUGE GENERALIZATIONS WITH GROSS MISINFORMATION. I am stunned. ”
“They gay world is full of Gaetans even to this day. One reason I believe is that for whatever reason, the are more sociopathic gays than heteros.’ (and the OTHER reasons are”???)
“Even in gay sex clubs today, there is a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy regarding HIV ”.” (I want to know which gay sex clubs you have been frequenting”and then we can compare notes.)
QUOTE BBE:
behind_blue_eyes says:
I said those things. I am gay and stand by them.
One/Joy– There seems to be a problem with who you are attributing the above post to, seeing as I would NEVER SAY SUCH A THING.
In fact, I guess I missed it but I was unable to find where ANYONE said that, but with BBE saying he made the statement I guess it must be somewhere though I didn’t find it.
As far as HIM expressing his opinion about the gay community’s tendency to have some dysfunctional members, maybe even more, percentage wise, than in the “straight” community….I think it’s his right to do so.
My own personal opinion is that many psychopaths “mask” as gay, when in fact, they are NEITHER GAY NOR STRAIGHT, but just sexually perverted. Donna did an article about it here on LoveFraud–I can’t remember enough of the name of the article to get the search function to find it or I would link to it. The point is that these “perverts” hang out and are labeled with the “gays” when they are not truly “gay,” just open for sex with ANYTHING or ANYONE, as I’ve said before, “they would fark a snake if someone would hold it.”
DUPED:
Yeah, he really did dupe you, didn’t he? But not anymore!! And he did all this…the trying to kill you and everything and HE was married??
Yes, Louise. I have almost lost my life and sanity over this THING. Funny that it didn’t start out so ugly as it has turned and it just has shocked and amazed me the way he turned to rabid. Especially after he found out I wasn’t a RICH and WEALTHY older woman….
Suddenly, the passion in the romance waned. Imagine that. I have confronted him about all of these things and he denies them all. Of course, what else would he do? ADMIT his MISTAKES and DEVIANCE? That isn’t part of the program.
Yes, I was definitely DUPED beyond description and/or words.
I have sat here, in my home, unable to function normally for just about five years because of this moron. Someone I trusted and loved and cared for and looked out over with all my entire being. And, yes, he doesn’t deserve to ever see me again or hear my voice. That is HIS doing time in this lifetime.
The good little “worker bee” and “cleaner” is now out of the picture and he is FORBIDDEN to come around me any longer. I wouldn’t go so far as to say I HATE HIM but I would say that I sure don’t LOVE him anymore. How can you love and validate and condone something so vile and indescribably EVIL?
Nobody will ever come to know the torment that I was living under being mind controlled the way I was. This “IT” is a step above all the rest and he knows it. Unfortunately, they can’t keep up the facade forever and then it’s time to split.
It’s alright; live and learn, I guess.
I just wish he had been a little kinder to my heart than he was.
He KNEW I had a heart condition and he purposely tried to kill me with my own heart condition. And this wasn’t the only time he has tried to harm me!!! Even after I had repeatedly asked him to leave me alone. He kept playing on my conscious and my affection for him to work his way back into my world just to have some more entertainment with me.
He isn’t welcome in my world anymore. I don’t even know him anymore – what does he expect?
It’s over and I am going to live what life I have left in peace and quiet without being tortured to death. I will deal with all the legal issues at my demise. I am a paralegal and have the case already done. There are directions. It is completely legal considering the circumstances and charges. There is no time limit on filing an attempted murder charge on someone.
He was the one perpetuating the romance and suddenly when the cat got out of the bag in both directions, “I” was to blame for the marriage falling apart and it wasn’t me at all. His ex wife knows just like I do and just like HE does what transpired. Her decision to divorce him had NOTHING to do with me and EVERYTHING to do with him. I completely supported the marriage and never asked him to leave her, not once. I loved him, after a long time had passed, yes, much to my detriment. We sometimes have to assume responsibility for our share in all of this in order to effect any change in us or the life about us.
It is so easy to pin all the blame on THEM but we now KNOW what they are…it’s time to let it rest, mend ourselves and strive forward and not let them have what little is left of OUR LIVES.
I don’t know what makes them think they can insinuate themselves into our lives; control it; manipulate it to do whatever they want and not care, one iota or recognize that we OWE THEM NOTHING. I was never married to him (thank goodness!); we had no surviving children together; we didn’t even live in the same city!
We were together maybe 3 times in the whole time I knew him and each time I got a sob and whine story. How much “he loved me” —- even after I found out he was married, he continued to hang on and cling and not let go. He doesn’t ‘love’ me, he is ‘obsessed’ with me and that’s a big difference.
It’s sad. Real sad. But I am not going to sacrifice what little life “I” have left to worry about HIS stupid and psychopathic choices. We all must be responsible for ourselves in this lifetime. It’s separating the chaff from the grain. I am sorry for him but NO. It stops now and it stops HERE. For the rest of eternity. I don’t believe he will EVER change who he is.
Yes, there has never been a more ‘grander’ DUPE than the one that was played on me. Yes, everything he did to me, he was married the whole time. We were friends for 9 years and six of those I had not a clue because he was away in the military.
He lead me on and lead me on and lead me on and then after all that time past, came to see me and we slept together; him telling me how much he loved me and how his wife was terrible to him. Yah, hook, line and sinker. It hurts do deeply because I hardly ever trust anyone the way I did him and he purposely tried to kill me. On more than ONE occasion!
Just out of no where like a rabid dog changes…that is the way he changed. There is something seriously wrong with him and I told him so and I told him to go get help for himself. He had one excuse after another for not going. That is HIS decision and HIS choice. Whatever befalls him, was a conscious choice of his own and nobody else’s.
Thanks for the chat, Louise…
You are right: NOT ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
xxoo
DUPED
Well it seems like I missed several posts here!
Oxy, thanks for posting that “Adult humor” it made my day.
BBE, I have to agree with Oxy, how can you tell if the spath is gay or just screwing everything in sight? Actually, you CAN tell, because if it’s a spath they automatically screw everything in sight. When my spath is not screwing children, he prefers blond skinny guys. I read somewhere that it is common for the spaths to prefer screwing people who look like they did when they were in their prime. It’s their way of having sex with themselves, the only person they can truly love.
Oxy,
LOL only 104 grown-ups left! Wow, 100 emails? Geez, I’m lucky if I get four and two of ’em are junk! No news is good news, I guess!
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Thank you SO MUCH! I hope you’re doing okay!
HUGS!
LL
DUPED:
Wow, what a creep. Men…I don’t like any of them now. I think I will just use them for one thing!
Oh, no…that might make me a spath. Don’t worry, I probably won’t date for the rest of my life.