A 24-year-old guy described himself in an Internet forum: He doesn’t feel emotion, is an excellent liar, becomes bored quickly, and experiences an adrenalin rush when deceiving or angering someone else. He asks, is he a sociopath?
I’d answer yes. The post is an interesting insight into how a disordered young man perceives himself and others.
Read Self-diagnosing sociopathy on the Dr. Robert forum.
BBE – If he has HIV and a small ‘willie’ I am sure he has alot of intimacy issues and rejection issues – poor guy.
Hens-I don’t want to tell her I have desires for her at all. I just feel like I want her to know. We have been friends for 6 months now. I had an experience with my best friend back years ago where I waited too long to tell her and she kinda felt deceived. If I tell her also, depending on her reaction, then she may never ever know that I have desires for her. How come you think I’m not comfortable with my sexuality?
BBE:
I bet your X spath definitely had intimacy issues. And wanting it with a younger guy who maybe was less experienced would not have intimidated him as badly is my guess. Sigh. I am pretty sure mine also has some type of intimacy issues, but I won’t ever know for sure. He was very mechanical, but yet he wanted to cuddle…that didn’t add up to me.
Lizzy I have been reading your post along time now, it is just my opinion that if you were comfortable with it you would of told her soon in the relationship. If I am wrong I apologize. What do the two of you talk about? guys? past relationships? I mean I am not defined by being gay but at the same time I would want a good friend to know who I am.
Louise When you and the X cuddled did he hold you or did you hold him?
Hens:
Hmmmm, I can already see maybe where this is going. I love this! I love getting insight. It was both, but if I REALLY think about it, it was me holding him. He loved that. I even remember him saying once…”cuddle me.” What is your take on that??
Hens-I am comfortable with it except with my family because they don’t like it, but they’re such a bunch of winners anyway. I really don’t care who knows but I don’t wear it on a tshirt. The people who care about me know and it’s fine with them.
She and I talk about life in general-her work, my lack of work, our families, we are just now getting into more personal stuff. She is starting to tell me things about her past. She is really over guys and doesn’t want anything to do with them anymore. I just feel like since we are starting to get more personal with the conversation that it’s time that she knows. I will know by her reaction right off if I have a chance with her romantically, and if I don’t we can just be friends and that’s it and I can date other people when I’m ready. I thought I was ready to date but I’m not.
louise my X was very mechanical during sex – no eye contact etc….but he loved to cuddle afterwards……for instance – when spooning on the couch or in bed I was the one holding him – his back to me where I did the holding – if I turned over and faced the other direction he never held me or put his arm over or around me – i was his security blanket – his comforter – he never comforted me – i noticed this soon in the relationship – if I laid on my back he would lay his head on my chest and i would hold him – but if i put MY head on hHIS chest he would turn over and face the opposite way…. it was all about him. I knew i was being used – and at first I loved holding him but he is like a little boy man ’46’ I never felt like a sugar daddy but i guess i was……hope he found somebody to rescue his sorry ass…..
My exspath was cuddly too and he was good at it. We always went to sleep all wrapped up in each other after sex. We could sleep for hours and hours that way-it was weird. If I went to see him at work he would be cuddling up to me in the car and burying his head in my neck or putting it on my shoulder. He also loved it when I put my head on his chest.
Hens-I am sorry about your ex like that-it makes me sad. He has no idea what he lost out on-stupid spath.