A 24-year-old guy described himself in an Internet forum: He doesn’t feel emotion, is an excellent liar, becomes bored quickly, and experiences an adrenalin rush when deceiving or angering someone else. He asks, is he a sociopath?
I’d answer yes. The post is an interesting insight into how a disordered young man perceives himself and others.
Read Self-diagnosing sociopathy on the Dr. Robert forum.
My x-spath did not hold me. He just rubbed my belly a bit, but was distant…
Hens-I think you’re right. She opened up about the last guy she dated years back and he was not good to her. He just wanted to go out and party and socialize all the time and he couldn’t understand how she has a demanding job with long hours and she needs to support herself and take care of herself, because no one is going to do it for her.
She had an accident on a bicycle a few years ago and broke her elbow really bad. They were dating at the time and he was absent and totally non-involved while she was in the hospital and it hurt her. A lot of other things she said told me that maybe he just wanted a gorgeous woman on his arm to show off with but didn’t really care about her. I told her that he didn’t deserve her. She also told me that she wished I would have been in her life when she had the accident-she “I know you would have been there for me”.
I really want to tell her soon.
HI EB _ That’s ok – you mite not be gay but your plumbing is off ..
Hens-you are right about us not being exactly NORMAL!
I hope one thing we can learn through our relationshits with a spath is to trust in ourselves and stand up and hold our heads high.
Know that we are good people and have good hearts and compassion and love for others……..whateveer our beliefs or sexuality.
If someone wants to get to know us, and we are okay with that person getting to know us (after vetting), I say be proud of who we are and just be who we are. If they like us, they like us…….if they don’t….their problem.
If an attraction is there for both parties, it will come out in friendship……IF we are honest with our friendship.
I think it’s our behaviors which hide things…..not only our words.
We need to be proud of who we are…..STAND UP AND BE PROUD!
Okay…..so who set’s the standard of NORMAL?
And hens….yep you’re right…..my faucet leaked twice today!!! I desperately need a plumber…..a CUTE ONE!
I am very PROUD. I know from being with my spath that there is no substitute for women and I will never let ANYONE lead me off that road again-not falling for the con.
I am just so disgusted still that my father was relieved when I started dating the spath because he was male. He freakin knew that the guy was married and encouraged the relationship because it wasn’t with a woman. I hate that my family is like that. It is sick that he would rather me be with a spathy narcissistic man who hurt me than be with a woman.
I was telling my friend how he was being hateful to me about being a failure and that I was mad that family wasn’t supposed to be that way. She said sometimes you have to divorce them-that was the best thing I heard all day.
lizzy – it’s so normal for hetro’s to be hetro they dont understand the obstacles we face just trying to be normal and comfortable with who we are when society tells us we are not normal – but anywho that is a big can of worms – I am off to bed gnite peeps…
Hens:
Did you find this with your X spath…mine didn’t like people trying to take care of him. He shunned that. The OW in triangulation told me that X spath’s hands and nails were a mess. I guess dry hands, etc. She offered him some lotion for his hands and he said in a not so nice tone, “Why does everyone always try to take care of me?” See? Everyone wanted to “fix” him. He pulled the pity play so everyone had this need to want to take care of him, but he didn’t want it. I just will never understand it. I will never understand him and I will never understand myself as I NEVER wanted to take care of another man in my entire life the way I did him. WHY????
Goodnight Hens-thanks for talking to me.
Erin-the rest of the world sets the standard for NORMAL and I am lucky enough to have parents who are card carrying members of the religious right, so it’s way more challenging. It is hard to feel normal.