A 24-year-old guy described himself in an Internet forum: He doesn’t feel emotion, is an excellent liar, becomes bored quickly, and experiences an adrenalin rush when deceiving or angering someone else. He asks, is he a sociopath?
I’d answer yes. The post is an interesting insight into how a disordered young man perceives himself and others.
Read Self-diagnosing sociopathy on the Dr. Robert forum.
One, I accept your apology in the spirit it was given.
Skylar
Another excellent, excellent post.
Why is it that they inspire and provoke drama?
I read somewhere that spaths have a very difficult time making decisions. Most of us use emotions when we make decisions. Spaths have no emotions to draw upon, so they make endless comparisons, , they debate, they freeze in terror. My spath did that all the time. He looked like an idiot.
SK
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Skylar;
“I read somewhere that spaths have a very difficult time making decisions…”
When asked to choose three words to describe him, my x-spath answered “indecisive, indecisive, indecisive.”
Of course he seemed to have no trouble deciding to dump me…
BBE:
Interesting. I don’t think I observed that in my X spath, but I can relate on the dumping part 🙁
Louise;
When I came across that dating profile, and saw the I am “indecisive, indecisive, indecisive” part I was crushed as the first thing that came across my mind was that he sure did dump me quickly. I should have be insulted.
But then again, there is much on that profile that profile that was insulting to me. Most of it in fact.
He ends with something like “if you describe yourself as motivated or focused, then we are probably not going to get along…”
I almost feel that was a shot at me. While I would not call myself focused, I am motivated, motivated to be a better person any way I can.
He could use some of the same.
BBE:
Yeah, I hate to say it, but your X spath sounded like a bad guy all around…loser in every sense of the word unfortunately. And you know what?? We are both better off without them. We actually should be glad instead of sad that they are gone. There is really nothing redeeming about them.
Louise;
TBH, I could not imagine what being in a LTR with him would be like given he is cold, unappreciative and shallow.
I am not sad he is gone. I am sad the person I thought he was and could be with a little help is gone. But that person never existed.
What I am sad about is that I have not had the opportunity to tell him that I have him all figured out and I am not as “clueless” as he might think.
BBE:
I know totally what you are saying.
You do have the right to write to him and tell him how you feel. But that would be contact and not sure you want to do that. Plus, from what I have found, they do not care. I did that…I told my X spath exactly what I thought about EVERYTHING. I really put everything on the line; made myself very vulnerable by pouring out my feelings to him…making him realize that I had him figured out. He didn’t care. He never contacted me after that until I contacted him again a month later. And then once again, he was cordial and wanted to see me, but it never happened…he was trying to string me a long once again for about the third stint. That’s when I finally gave up and haven’t heard from him since March 26. I realized that as long as I was engaging him, he was engaging me. But if I stop, he stops. So I am not going to do that. Done.
Louise;
You are right. I experienced similar. Anything you say to them goes in one ear and out the other and even if I confronted him about the HIV issue, I am not sure he would be honest.