Robert from Illinois has sent a few e-mails to Lovefraud. He was married to a woman who he believes is a sociopath—he describes the relationship as non-emotional and loveless, with constant financial and verbal attacks. Robert is now divorced, but has a five-year-old son with the woman.
Here’s what Robert wrote in a recent e-mail:
“Even though I told my divorce lawyer that my ex was a sociopath, he said, all you’re doing is giving her a label. You still have to have evidence she is unfit to your son. I told her once that my son wants to live with me and guess what she said ?. She said, You’re not getting my son. Typical sociopath response.”
The response of Robert’s lawyer is common in divorce and custody situations involving sociopaths. Many lawyers don’t understand what a sociopath is, how they operate and the damage they cause. Neither do the courts.
Apparently, the view today is that someone may have no conscience an no heart, but that doesn’t make them a bad person—or an unfit parent.
Does anyone know of a sociopath who was a good parent?
Are there any children of sociopaths who had happy, healthy childhoods?
I hope for the day when the diagnosis of sociopath means something in the legal system. In the meantime, millions of people who got involved with sociopaths are left to struggle with ignorant lawyers and family court judges.
Robert also wrote, “I want to turn this nightmare into something positive and I’m looking for suggestions.” If you have some, please post them.