Sociopaths explain their own words

Perhaps the hardest thing for those of us targeted by sociopaths to grasp is the extent of their inhumanity.

Sociopaths have no empathy. They do not feel connections to other human beings. We are mere pawns in their games. They view the world as predators and prey—they are the predators, everyone else is prey.

We ask, “How can this be?”

We object, “He said he loved me!” (“She said she loved me!”)

We argue, “I said I was leaving and he cried! He begged me to stay! He said he couldn’t live without me!” (The female sociopath did too.)

Well, let’s take a look at what their words really mean. A Lovefraud reader visited Sociopathworld.com. “They had a discussion going on things they said but what they actually meant to them,” she wrote.

Here’s what our reader sent:

The Cheat-Sheet for What a Sociopath Really Means

1. I love you: I am fond of your companionship and put you above most, but never above me. Consider it an honor.

2. I’m sorry, forgive me: I really do not enjoy the fact that your mood has altered. Please revert back to normal.

3. I’d do anything for you: I’d do plenty to keep you right where I want you to be.

4. My condolences for your loss: *crickets* … It’s just a body. See you later when you aren’t being an emotional train-wreck.

5. S/he fills my heart with joy: I haven’t had this much fun playing in a long time, and the sex is more than acceptable.

6. I love my family: They’re mine.

7. That’s simply shocking: You’ve touched my morbid bone. No need to stop now…

8. Deep down, I feel I’m a good person: I’m not in prison and I stopped abusing animals, mostly. What more can you possibly demand of me?

9. I’m not a monster, I’m a human too: I’m trying to seem human, give me a break. It’s not like this is particularly natural for me.

10. I have feelings too: I feel frustrated when your feelings get in my way.

11. I wouldn’t lie to you: I lie to you every time I say I wouldn’t lie to you.

12. I understand/respect your feelings: I appreciate your feelings because I use them to manipulate you.

13. I never meant to hurt you: mission accomplished.

14. I want to work things out: I want to work things out for today.

15. I’ll always be there for you: I’ll try to as long as I need something from you

Remember this: Never evaluate the words or actions of a sociopath based on what you mean by your words and actions. For a sociopath, it’s all about manipulation.