By Joyce Alexander, RNP (Retired)
I was reading an article about Steve Jobs’ new biography that came out this past week, and some of the stories about his life. There is no doubt in my mind that Steve Jobs was one of the smartest and most savvy guys in the Twentieth Century. The inventions that he fostered or personally thought of have changed our society and our culture, and remarkably changed the communication field. An amazing man!
You may have read the title of this article and are already wondering how Steve Jobs was killed by a “psychopath.” Jobs died of the terminal stages of pancreatic cancer. He was diagnosed with this very serious form of cancer. Apparently, according to what I read, it was a slower growing kind of this cancer, and if he had had surgery right then, there is a good chance that he might have actually effected a cure and be alive even today.
That wasn’t what Steve chose to do, though ”¦ he chose to deny the seriousness and the urgency to take drastic action immediately to exorcise the tumor out of his system. He did not essentially “go NO CONTACT” with the toxic, malignant entity that had silently invaded his body. As smart as Jobs was, and even though he had access to the best and most knowledgeable physicians in the world, he did not take the “appropriate action” to have the surgery. Jobs told his biographer that he did “not want to be cut open like that.” He later regretted that decision and even realized that it may have cost him his life.
His biographer says that he ultimately saw that the colon cleansing and other “new age” treatments did nothing for him, and nine months after he turned down after recommended surgery, Jobs finally decided to have it—what is called a “Whipple procedure” to remove the tumor. It was too late; he had missed that narrow “window of opportunity” in which he could have saved his life. He “got a divorce” from the tumor too late, the damage had been done. Though Steve Jobs fought valiantly for the next decade, the ultimate “win” by the psychopathic cancer was a foregone conclusion. He had failed to excise the cancer from his life while it was small.
Psychopaths as cancers
Too many times, I see psychopathic relationships with “malignant” individuals, and like cancers, they may grow inside us without being detectable as toxic until one day, even before we know they are toxic, the fatal damage has been done. Or, we may get a chance recognize them and to excise them when they are “small” in relationship to the rest of our lives. We can remove them without leaving large scars or holes in our lives. If we get this chance to remove the “malignant” people from our lives and we, like Steve Jobs, decide on a “want and see” plan, we allow them to grow and infiltrate our lives more fully, so that if and when we do decide to “surgically” remove them from our lives, the hole and the scars that they leave is much larger and more debilitating than if we had “done the surgery” when the situation wasn’t quite so ingrown.
Jesus talked about “if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, if thy hand offend thee, cut it off,” and went on to analogize that it is better to live a life with one eye or one hand than to live in “hell” with two eyes or two hands. Sometimes I think the “surgery” necessary to remove the psychopathic personality from our lives is very much like “plucking out your own eye” or “cutting off your own hand” with a rusty butcher knife. But the point of the situation is that in order to live a good life, or in some cases to live at all, we must make the hard decision to excise the toxic person, or the malignant tumor, from our lives as soon as we know what they are. Waiting around, treating this toxic, malignant issue with “kindness and love,” isn’t going to remove it from our lives or our bodies, or change it into something benign. We must take drastic and surgical action to remove this malignant person from our lives completely.
Removing those around the psychopath
That may also mean taking out the “lymph nodes” of the people around the cancerous person, just like the doctor will remove lymph nodes from around a breast containing cancer where that malignancy has spread into those nodes so that they, in turn, don’t spread the toxin to the rest of the body. It is unfortunate but true that a toxic psychopath will frequently have spread their lies and toxins to other people around us that we may also love ”¦ their families, our mutual friends, etc. A “cure” from the toxic psychopath may require us to be NC with those people too, and excise them from our lives as well. The longer the psychopath has been in our lives and the more deeply involved, the more likely this will be necessary. Failing to “bite the bullet” and do this as well may result in a recurrence of the malignancy this person leaves in our lives.
Steve Jobs was a significant personality in our culture. Of course there is no guarantee that if he had elected to have the surgery sooner rather than later, that he would have lived longer or better, but I can guarantee that living with a psychopathic person longer, or trying every “alternative” cure, except total surgical removal, isn’t going to improve your life in any way.
I think even in his death, Steve Jobs left us one more important thing ”¦ a lesson for anyone involved with a toxic relationship of any kind.
Near,
LOL I haven’t had fast food in YEARS!! I still remember the smell of the grease though, mmm and the fries! It can be an addiction I think.
You will have a real wife and real kids and not live in grease LOLOLOL you crazy kid 🙂
Hi Ana,
I think Near hit the books too hard and lost it!!
He’s gonna marry fast food. LOL!
Louise….watch the movies. LOL!
Ana: It actually is an addiction. They place additives in the food that makes you crave it more and more. This has been proven. Also, don’t you deny my love of fast food. Be tolerant!! I can marry fast food if I want. I’m going to start an online petition to legalize fast food marriage. ^_^
Skylar: I actually have been at the library studying for research papers. Some even have fast food topics. Maybe all of that stayed in my subconscious mind and just now came flooding out. I guess I must resign myself to my greasy fate of misery. 🙁
Anyway, you two stop going off topic with your sillyness! Great post Ox Drover! ^_^ I just wish Steve would have made the choice to get surgery. Thsi choice of declining a surgery is so alien to me. I had multiple surgeries by the time I was six. For me, it’s always like this. I’m thankful I’ll never have the fear of surgery, though. The thought of surgery is so easy now, I don’t even become fearful.
I think he was afraid to lose control, honestly. He didn’t want people to work on his body or have others take care of him, in my opinion. I think this trait goes well with the sociopathic personality that many believe he exhibits. I also think it’s funny somebody here mentioned Einstein as sociopathic because I read a quote from him the other day in the hallway of my math department. It talked about his utter contempt of authority and how he loved to disobey rules. Hmm.
Hi Skylar,
I think you’re right!! LOL
Near, ok if you really want to marry fast food…who’s to stop you! But ya kids will have greasy hair and that’s no good 🙂
Hope all is well with you!
Ana: At least I didn’t have Big Mac babies… ^_^
All is well with me. I’m just in my usual silly posting mood. I’m shocked I haven’t been banned yet for derailing topics, but then again everyone is off topic tonight talking about human centipedes and other stuff I don’t know about. 😛
How have you been, Ana?
Near,
I can just imagine the papers you turn in : all spotted with greasy finger prints and blotches. Then next time you tell your prof that your dog, “ate your homework”, he won’t even doubt it for a minute.
Yeah, that’s a good point about Steve Jobs. I have not posted about him because I feel bad speaking ill of the dead, but yeah – control freak narcissist is probably right. I didn’t know him, so I can’t say whether he crossed the line to Spathy.
My spath required an oral surgery for a wisdom tooth which had migrated up into his skull. It was off at an angle and way up past the upper jaw. It kept getting infected for YEARS before he found a surgeon he trusted. And, GET THIS, he demanded that he be allowed to STAY AWAKE during the operation. He wanted just a local and some mild sedative. So the doc told him OK, but then put him under a general anesthesia. Spath was so paranoid about losing control that he would rather be operated on while wide awake than take a general anesthesia. I’m sure he figured he could fight off the sedative and control the entire operation by telling the surgeon what to do. That’s just the kind of guy he is.
So, I think you pegged Steve Jobs exactly right. It was about losing control. Reality is the ultimate revenge against the spath because in the end, they have to admit that they have no control and never did. It was a delusion.
skylar: That was hilarious. I’m going to make my next paper messy now on purpose! Maybe I’ll even include that marriage comment on my paper. I’ll be sent to the Crazy House for Boys again. Third time this month. ^_^
I didn’t mean to speak ill of the dead when I came into this topic, but I always had a feeling he was a controlling jerk. He certainly never came off as a kind man. Like I said, just a feeling and I’m probably just spotting spath signs in everybody even if they don’t exist. His power and authority already made my view of him slanted and biased.
I’ve actually heard about spaths wanting to stay awake during their surgeries, not only for control, but curiosity about the procedures and their insides. It sounds unreal. Not even I want to stay awake, and I’ve had so many surgeries. I would be nervous then!
Your spath wanted to tell an oral surgeon what to do while he was performing surgery? Be a little hard to bark out orders with him in your mouth working on the tooth! ^_^
I wonder what your spath would have wanted to do with a huge surgery like a spinal fusion or something. @.......__@.......
Thanks, I think I got that part of Steve’s personality right as well. He might not have been spath, or maybe he was, but he did like control. That is obvious.
Hi Near,
I’ve been ok, just going through life spath free is so nice!
Skylar is right…your papers full of grease UGH LOL!
Yeah, I’m not into human centipedes myself, but to each his own. We are having a Nor Easter now. We just got rain, but others got lots of snow…already!
Near, I divorced fast food many years ago. As far as I’m concerned, it’s a free agent and you can have it if you want it! LOL And for those of you who aren’t into human centipedes, you might rethink your position if you knew that some of the people who ended up in the second centipede were spathy and deserved what they got. 🙂