A romantic relationship with a sociopath can leave a person sour on the opposite sex, or on people in general. I said last week that sociopaths try to train their partners in their disordered thinking patterns. Recovery involves purging the sociopath’s mollifications and seeing the beauty in life again. Recovery means a renewed ability to appreciate the loving connections we still have. Sometimes art, music and cinema can help us do that.
This Christmas we were not able to be with our family in California. But it was a “warm” beautiful day in Connecticut, so the kids and I walked the dog on the beach, went to the movies and ate out at a Chinese restaurant. I recommend the movie we saw because it describes real love between a man and a woman and of course their dog.
The movie, Marley and Me, is based on the true story of a family and Marley “the worst dog in the world.” The lead male character is somewhat unsure of himself but very committed to his family, and his values are contrasted with those of his best friend who has an uncommitted approach to relationships.
The story is also about adult development and the changes we go through between 25 and 40. The ending is rather bittersweet but I was still glad to have seen this movie on Christmas. It is good to be reminded about the importance of love and devotion. Movies can be very powerful tools for that kind of reminding. Although there are a lot of movies that portray the dark side of humanity, there is still a demand for stories like this one. Marley and Me advertises the common place, deep connections we have to our loved ones be they human or canine.
sstiles54
How about “Itchie coo Park”? Now I wanna know what those kids were smokin’! “Dirty Deeds Done Dirt Cheap” is what the spaths did to us to send us on “The Highway to Hell”. For kicks, how about “Any Man of Mine” (I think by Shania Twain), or “Nowhere to Run” (Martha & the Vadellas?), or like the line from Adrien Kronour in “Good Morning Viet Nam”, I don’t care what you play, just play it LOUD! I’ll take good ole rock ‘n roll any time!
Peace!
Elizabeth Conley
If you saw Madagascar and had fun, you’ll probably like Madagascar II.
When I’m looking for a sure thing, I usually resort to the classics. Here is some fun stuff:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sShMA85pv8M
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FgFjLB4VYSU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_Y6231uAmo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zekiZYSVdeQ
Elizabeth Conley
Lesser known but nontheless hysterical:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=un_PjRXV5l8
stormee
oh my God…My x-S loved the song “Behind Blue Eyes” by The Who….. Now I get it!!!!
A great song about Sociopaths is “Guiltiness” by the late,great Bob Marley on the album (of the century) “Exodus” (also re-done on “Shout Down Babylon”)
Elizabeth Conley
Stormee,
“Behind Blue Eyes” was the song I thought of whenever the P from decades past came to mind. It was such a good explanation of what he was and how he operated…
…except now I wonder if he was sad at all. I realize that sad was a projection of mine, ’cause I’d be sad if I had done the things he had. He probably wasn’t sad.
Rune
How about “You were pretending . . .,” Eric Clapton.
Rune
Yes, Elizabeth, I think we ASSUME, we project, that they must feel “sad.” But I think The Who really caught a description of the behavior.
Elizabeth Conley
Hmmm.
Bob Marley… …was it Guiltiness?
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Don’t think I’ve heard it. Interesting lyrics.
Elizabeth Conley
For pure, raw emotion in response to sociopathic behavior, I gotta go with “The Pusherman”
I’ve worked in ministries that served the homeless, so this really reflects how I feel. Foul language alert. I don’t talk like this, and I wouldn’t post it here. It’s a powerful song though. Art should pack an emotional punch.
http://www.steppenwolf.com/lyr/thpshrr.html
Elizabeth Conley
Pretending lyrics
Clapton is a really good performance artist. I’m betting his delivery gives this a very strong emotional impact.