Lovefraud invites you to complete a survey about your experience with a sociopath/psychopath/narcissist in order to help professionals diagnose this disorder properly.
Two days ago, the American Psychiatric Association released a draft of the fifth edition its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM 5). This book is the standard classification of mental disorders used by mental health and other professionals. The revision has been underway for a decade.
A work group of 11 doctors and psychologists focused on the section about personality and personality disorders. They have recommended significant changes to the description of antisocial personality disorder, which is also referred to as sociopathy and psychopathy. In fact, one of the suggestions is to change the name of the personality disorder to “antisocial/psychopathic type.”
The new description of the disorder is much closer to what most of us at Lovefraud have experienced. You can read the description here:
Antisocial/Psychopathic Type
The American Psychiatric Association has invited public comment on the draft of DSM 5, and Lovefraud is taking the doctors up on their invitation. We thought the best way to do it would be to survey our readers, asking you how well the proposed description of antisocial/psychopathic type matches your experience with one (or more) of these individuals.
Please take the survey. This is serious, so be thoughtful and accurate in your responses. It will probably take you about 15 minutes, so please start it when you are sure you have time to complete it.
The survey will be open until March 3, 2010. After that, we will tabulate and analyze the data. We will prepare a report of the findings for the American Psychiatric Association. The results will also be published on Lovefraud.
Go to the survey:
Myboysmattermost –
He may bend your strength at times…but no way…just no way youre ever gonna let him break you! Stay focused, prioritize, one day at a time! Good for you! That EB Mojo will do it EVERY time!! 🙂
MyBoys:
GIRL……………..
Great news…..!!!!!!!!
Now….heres what I want you to do….Take a snapshot of how low you felt getting to this point…..AND THEN, REMEMBER THE OUTCOME!!!!
These types of divorces have their UPS and DOWNS…..remember this and KEEP THAT MOJO and NEVER GIVE UP!!!!
This is why it’s important we take care of ourselves and remain BALANCED in the process…..the minute you feel out of balance…..RECOUP….take a break,whether it’s an hour or a few days….but you need to breeeeaaaatttttthhhhh!
When the lows get low…..remember how they come up…..(like this situation)
when you get the highs…..don’t get too cocky…..allow a celebration….but bring yourself back to the balance point.
The balance goes both ways!
When youv’e taken a breath and recouped…..
Make sure you have taken him off any ’emergency contact’ or authorized contact lists with Dr’s etc….along with typing up a letter to forward to everyone….starting with the Ins. carrier and dr’s…..stating they are NOT allowed to release ANY info re your son to this person…..start it with…..This letter is in regards to my privacy and Hippa priveleges….
(I think your son is 18, so he will need to sign it….and MAKE sure he gives YOU authorization to Health ins and Dr’s….) in writing.
I am thrilled for you!
Keep it up and keep it going….YOU CAN DO IT….it’s hard, long and tedious…..YOU MUST BE IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL…..
Protect what is right….Stand up and fight!
Mojo baby……MOJO!
🙂
It has been one year since my S left me in a motel in montana never to be seen or heard from again. I took the survey today and found that there are not enough words to describe the impact that he had on my life. Every single day I think about how I wish he would be caught and think of all the other women he will hurt if he isn’t stopped. It is not up to me to stop him, though I wish I could. I kind of feel sorry for the men who have tried dating me since. I have no patience, and I pay attention to all the red flags. I am afraid that I even imagine flags that do not exist. leaving perfectly decent men to wonder what they did wrong. Over time I may let my guard down, but I just can’t right now. Even if it means I will always be alone.
Hello All, I’m new to this site. In 1954 I was raped by a 19 year old sailor from a nearby naval base. He was arrested but somehow I was never notified of the trial. I was 16, became pregnant and kept the baby, a girl. Years went by and I noticed that my grandaughter displayed all the signs of a sociopath. She is on drugs. Now I notice my daughter also on drugs shows signs of being a sociopath. She has not seen me for 4 years now that my husband and I won’t house her or give her any more money. I kept blaming myself for their cruelness until I finally realized that they are the way they are because of genes. How much study has been done concerning inheritence.? Best wishes, waterdance
Waterdance:
Welcome to LF….
There is so much valuable information in the old articles and I highly recomend you go through them…..look on the left side under catagories…..
We have had this discussion numerous times throughout the years….and as people come and go from this site, there is a whole lot of perspective on this very topic.
So I encourage you to do some reading…..you will be enlightened.
I say your very lucky and ahead of the game……that you don’t have these two people active in your daily life…..
Most people at LF have been convinced that No contact is the only way to deal with these Cluster B’s…..
It provides a separation of space and time and it’s just what we need to be able to see the situation for what it is…..
TOXIC!
I’m sorry your ‘here’…..but I’m glad you found us…..
Arrrgggggg – he got me!! Broke NC but I also let him know to STOP calling me (26 times in 4 minutes) and that I do not want him and have filed for divorce. He gave me the “so you didn’t mean your vows”, the “I am selling the house out from under you” (NOPE – TRO signed by judge absolutely prevents this and I plan to leave the bad memories here in the next few months anyway) and the “you took my son away from me” – no, he abandoned him – didn’t even call for Christmas. Can’t wait ’til he gets that TRO:)
He ended with the “not going to sign the divorce papers” – oh well, so I stay married – not going to stop me from moving on!!! I hated breaking NC but it did tell me that of course he still thinks he is totally not to blame for anything that has happened and he is of course still the same spath. I also got to say a few things I wanted to and did not respond to his crap – just kept saying over and over how much better it is without him and to go find someone who does want him.
Powerful that EB Mojo is!!
26 times in 4 minutes????
Stalking……..
unplug that phone…..quick!
I am a bit curious about why he hasn’t been served the TRO?
COntacting you would be a violation…..and you need to report ALL violations myboys!
Usually the TRO goes ‘both ways’ too…..so you DON”T want to take any calls…..follow it to a T to make the point to him….and report all violations…..
Keep that Mojo and follow through…..with every inch…..
I am waiting on a client call…I am also going to try to change my number.
There was a mix-up at the courthouse and the computers weren’t working so the citation wasn’t even ready before yesterday…and it has to be served to him in another state – (makes me feel safer that he is not just going to show up!)
I am keeping track of all the calls so that when I go to court next week I can show why I need it and hopefully make it permanent.
I am not taking any more calls, and it has been 4 calls while I type this…said what I had to say!
Yes…..document….every single call….and time…..and save messages.
This will seal the deal for you for an extended order for 1year!!!!
What a freak………
Remember….loose lips sink ships!!!
Good for you….don’t let him break ya!
It also sounds as if he HAS been served!!! It usually precipitates this sort of behavior……
My lawyer says he hasn’t…??? Maybe he did get the divorce papers though???
He left a message that I AM being insane and ridiculous…LOL – another call…what does he think I am going to do? Roll over and say “okay, come home and continue to disrespect me” ????
Didn’t say a thing he could use – and the TRO says only the “respondent” is prohibited????
I am not going to answer ‘cuz I know now that he thinks he has the upper hand and it is just going to p*** him off – I kind of like that:)
Working on getting my cell phone co to change my number due to harassment:)