Editor’s note: Although this post describes the Judeo-Christian scripture, Lovefraud respects and honors all religious and spiritual traditions.
By Joyce Alexander, RNP (retired)
One of my favorite books of the Bible is Proverbs, which was attributed to Solomon, King of Israel, the son of King David. Though reputedly the wisest man in the world, Solomon didn’t always put his philosophies and wisdom to good use in his own life. Nonetheless, the book does have a lot of wisdom in it, including this description of a psychopath.
Proverbs 6:12-19, I think, is a perfect description of the psychopath.
The New Living Bible translation:
12 What are worthless and wicked people like? They are constant liars,
13 signaling their deceit with a wink of the eye, a nudge of the foot, or the wiggle of fingers.
14 Their perverted hearts plot evil,Ӭand they constantly stir up trouble.
15 But they will be destroyed suddenly,Ӭbroken in an instant beyond all hope of healing.
16 There are six things the Lord hates —”¨no, seven things he detests:
17 haughty eyes,Ӭa lying tongue,Ӭhands that kill the innocent,
18 a heart that plots evil,Ӭfeet that race to do wrong,
19 a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.
Psychopathy is not something new in the world, it is just that we, as former victims or associates of these people, have become acutely aware of the evil that people can do to others. We have personally experienced the pain that comes from the betrayal of a lover, friend, family member, child, parent, or someone else who was very close to us, someone we trusted.
Psychopaths have been around since the beginning of humanity and they have preyed on others. They have risen to the highest levels as kings and dictators of countries, like Stalin and Mao, who have been responsible for the deaths of perhaps a hundred million of people, or they have simply preyed on those that were close to them. The majority of the suffering that mankind as a whole endures, both in mass and individually, is because of the actions of psychopaths.
We may not be able, as individuals, to avoid the mega-troubles brought on by psychopathic rulers, but by learning the “red flags” of a psychopath, by learning how to avoid these people on an individual level in the future, we can keep ourselves safer. We can teach others and teach our children how to recognize these evil ones, and how to avoid becoming intimate with them, how to avoid letting them con us financially and emotionally.
There are many great articles here at Lovefraud that talk about the things that we can spot in a person to see that they are possibly high in psychopathic traits. We call these traits “Red Flags,” because they signal that there is danger in the person who is behaving in that manner. If we ignore these red flags, we will absolutely become embroiled in their deceit and chaos.
The eight short verses above describe perfectly the psychopaths in our lives, who leave behind misery and pain.
The Bible (in verse 17) refers to “haughty eyes,” where in today’s language we would call it arrogance. If a person acts in an arrogant and “entitled” manner, we can see that there is a good chance this person does not value other people highly, but values himself above others.
Verse 12 calls them “constant liars,” which is pretty plain in even today’s language. People who lie continually, sometimes “when the truth would fit better,” are not people we can trust. Doing “business” of any kind with a person who is a “constant liar” is very risky because they cannot be trusted.
Verse 13 speaks about how they “signal their deceit” with a wink of the eye. They make light of their dishonesty, showing that honesty and forthrightness is not something that they value highly.
Verse 14 talks about how they “stir up trouble,” and if that is not a perfect signal, a bright red flag, that someone is up to no good, I don’t know what is. People who are “drama queens and kings” are continually creating chaos and unnecessary pain for others.
Verse 18 speaks about those that “plot evil,” which is pretty clearly something that a psychopath does. This may be something that can be observed from the way they treat others, or it may be something that they tell you about how they have treated someone else. Be assured if they treat others badly, you will eventually become one of the people that they will also treat badly, no matter how nicely they treat you today.
“Stirs up trouble in a family” is mentioned in verse 19 (“sows discord in a family”), and is particularly evident in family interactions with the psychopath, as well as business dealings and relationships with their neighbors.
When we see these characteristics in a person’s daily life, or in their past life, we should realize that there are “red flags” waving to warn us that this person, even if they do not qualify as a “full fledged psychopath,” is high enough in the traits of the psychopath that he or she is toxic to those that are connected with them. They are not worthy of our trust…even if it is just a “little bit” arrogant, or a “little bit” of a liar, or stir up a “little bit” of drama, because people who will do these things, who are dishonest and arrogant, will turn on others at their whim. Avoiding toxic and dramatic, lying and deceitful people is the only way that we can protect ourselves. We can’t change these people, any more than we can change a venomous snake. All we can do is to avoid their proximity to us, so that they are not in a position to harm us.
Our trust is something that is precious and something that we must guard by watching for the red flags in the behavior and actions of others. Guard your trust well.
Thank you, Joyce!
Just another validation that I was married to a sociopath and that interestingly enough … “he did eventually turn on me”.
I gain more and more strength each day by reading these posts!!
Thanks Ms. Dixon, glad you like the article.
A couple of years ago Donna did an article also take from Proverbs describing a female psychopath who lures in unsuspecting males into her “web” like a spider lures a fly…it is amazing to me how there are so many descriptions of psychopathic-type people in literature, especially in the Bible, but not only in the Bible, but in plays, movies, stories, myths and novels. Of course the NEWS MEDIA is filled with stories of the “worst of the worst” of the crimes of some of the psychopaths, but they are everywhere.
I have literally started to COMPLETELY avoid anyone who shows ANY of the signs of dishonesty, trouble-making, lying or deceit. It just isn’t worth the hassle of being around people I can’t trust, unless I absolutely have to for some short-term reason beneficial to myself. But I for sure won’t trust them.
Oxy – I know Liane quoted Hebrew scripture in reference to psychopathic women, but I didn’t. I really don’t know the Bible at all. I spent 8 years in Catholic school, and they never taught the Bible. My personal views have now diverged significantly from what they did teach.
So I was fascinated by the verses you quoted – perhaps if I had been taught these words, I would have been better equipped to deal with the sociopath.
Oxy,
the bible is a great place to get descriptions of psychopaths. I hadn’t read that one, thank you for sharing it.
BF and I were looking to sell some coins one day and we called around and found a few places that buys coins. The first place we called, the man who answered was evasive and did some double talk about the price, but we went in anyway. He was busy with another customer when we arrived so we listened to his conversation. After a few minutes, BF and I looked at each other, got up and left. When we got outside, BF said, “It was like observing a character from the bible!” I said, “they’ve been around a long, long time. There’s nothing new under the sun.” 🙂
Oxy,
Thanks for writing this piece. It certainly is a good
reminder. So they have been around a long, long time!
Good information in this article.
Dear Donna, Okay, so it was Liane not you! CRS! LOL 🙂
But seriously there are MANY DESCRIPTIONS of psychopaths in the Bible, in Greek and Roman Mythology, well as history, and literature. Whatever the person’s philosophy is, there can be found descriptions of psychopaths in the literature or religious writings in their culture or philosophy.
Sky is right “there is nothing new under the sun” (that is a quote from the old Testament, not sure the chapter and verse—my CRS has made me forget a lot of my citations.)
Whether or not, Donna, studying these things in a vacuum will help us later when we really encounter someone who IS HIGH IN PSYCHOPATHIC TRAITS or not, is up in the air, but I do know it can’t hurt!
The only way i believe a person can truly understand these people is to seek God first. Otherwise youll be lost.
I just noticed something about this article in verse 15 about they are “beyond all hope of healing.”
As many times as I have read this passage, I didn’t realize until just now that even the description in the Bible says that these people are BEYOND ALL HOPE OF HEALING.
It is amazing what you see sometimes even on the 100th time of re-reading an article (even one you wrote yourself! LOL) that isn’t apparent the first 99 times you read it! LOL
Oxy:
Good observation and very humbling to realize that they cannot be healed.
Louise,
NO ONE can be “healed” who does not WANT to be healed, and is not willing to accept responsibility for themselves. That is the thing we must realize is that until they are willing to accept their own responsibility and to make changes in the way they treat others, there is no hope for them to change. We Can’t do it against their will.