Editor’s note: Although this post describes the Judeo-Christian scripture, Lovefraud respects and honors all religious and spiritual traditions.
By Joyce Alexander, RNP (retired)
One of my favorite books of the Bible is Proverbs, which was attributed to Solomon, King of Israel, the son of King David. Though reputedly the wisest man in the world, Solomon didn’t always put his philosophies and wisdom to good use in his own life. Nonetheless, the book does have a lot of wisdom in it, including this description of a psychopath.
Proverbs 6:12-19, I think, is a perfect description of the psychopath.
The New Living Bible translation:
12 What are worthless and wicked people like? They are constant liars,
13 signaling their deceit with a wink of the eye, a nudge of the foot, or the wiggle of fingers.
14 Their perverted hearts plot evil,Ӭand they constantly stir up trouble.
15 But they will be destroyed suddenly,Ӭbroken in an instant beyond all hope of healing.
16 There are six things the Lord hates —”¨no, seven things he detests:
17 haughty eyes,Ӭa lying tongue,Ӭhands that kill the innocent,
18 a heart that plots evil,Ӭfeet that race to do wrong,
19 a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.
Psychopathy is not something new in the world, it is just that we, as former victims or associates of these people, have become acutely aware of the evil that people can do to others. We have personally experienced the pain that comes from the betrayal of a lover, friend, family member, child, parent, or someone else who was very close to us, someone we trusted.
Psychopaths have been around since the beginning of humanity and they have preyed on others. They have risen to the highest levels as kings and dictators of countries, like Stalin and Mao, who have been responsible for the deaths of perhaps a hundred million of people, or they have simply preyed on those that were close to them. The majority of the suffering that mankind as a whole endures, both in mass and individually, is because of the actions of psychopaths.
We may not be able, as individuals, to avoid the mega-troubles brought on by psychopathic rulers, but by learning the “red flags” of a psychopath, by learning how to avoid these people on an individual level in the future, we can keep ourselves safer. We can teach others and teach our children how to recognize these evil ones, and how to avoid becoming intimate with them, how to avoid letting them con us financially and emotionally.
There are many great articles here at Lovefraud that talk about the things that we can spot in a person to see that they are possibly high in psychopathic traits. We call these traits “Red Flags,” because they signal that there is danger in the person who is behaving in that manner. If we ignore these red flags, we will absolutely become embroiled in their deceit and chaos.
The eight short verses above describe perfectly the psychopaths in our lives, who leave behind misery and pain.
The Bible (in verse 17) refers to “haughty eyes,” where in today’s language we would call it arrogance. If a person acts in an arrogant and “entitled” manner, we can see that there is a good chance this person does not value other people highly, but values himself above others.
Verse 12 calls them “constant liars,” which is pretty plain in even today’s language. People who lie continually, sometimes “when the truth would fit better,” are not people we can trust. Doing “business” of any kind with a person who is a “constant liar” is very risky because they cannot be trusted.
Verse 13 speaks about how they “signal their deceit” with a wink of the eye. They make light of their dishonesty, showing that honesty and forthrightness is not something that they value highly.
Verse 14 talks about how they “stir up trouble,” and if that is not a perfect signal, a bright red flag, that someone is up to no good, I don’t know what is. People who are “drama queens and kings” are continually creating chaos and unnecessary pain for others.
Verse 18 speaks about those that “plot evil,” which is pretty clearly something that a psychopath does. This may be something that can be observed from the way they treat others, or it may be something that they tell you about how they have treated someone else. Be assured if they treat others badly, you will eventually become one of the people that they will also treat badly, no matter how nicely they treat you today.
“Stirs up trouble in a family” is mentioned in verse 19 (“sows discord in a family”), and is particularly evident in family interactions with the psychopath, as well as business dealings and relationships with their neighbors.
When we see these characteristics in a person’s daily life, or in their past life, we should realize that there are “red flags” waving to warn us that this person, even if they do not qualify as a “full fledged psychopath,” is high enough in the traits of the psychopath that he or she is toxic to those that are connected with them. They are not worthy of our trust…even if it is just a “little bit” arrogant, or a “little bit” of a liar, or stir up a “little bit” of drama, because people who will do these things, who are dishonest and arrogant, will turn on others at their whim. Avoiding toxic and dramatic, lying and deceitful people is the only way that we can protect ourselves. We can’t change these people, any more than we can change a venomous snake. All we can do is to avoid their proximity to us, so that they are not in a position to harm us.
Our trust is something that is precious and something that we must guard by watching for the red flags in the behavior and actions of others. Guard your trust well.
Twice;
OMG. I have no stories like that except that my x-spath has one 22 year old FB friend who puts links to his various gay site profiles on FB.
On the gay sites, this friend of the x-spath openly solicits meth fueled unsafe sex hookups. Now, why would a 37 year old have a friend like that?
Actually, my x-spath never had sex with a woman and I do believe him on this. Probably his small willie…
Sky: yes, you are right! I guess they are just anything and everything..for the thrill of it. Ohhh, really innocent type, yeah, I can see that…he likes to corrupt. Mine loved the already corrupt, the more corrupt the better, but then he wanted his straight arrow wife at home. When his mask started to slip, he panicked because I was getting a glimpse into his double life.
BBE: seems your X may have some hidden activities or at least friends of that sort.
I wouldn’t put it beyond my x to be bi, either. I mean there is nothing wrong with choosing your own sexual preference, but it’s the deceit that goes a long with it and the sexual addictions all mixed up together. I say this because just before I cut the ties and set it adrift…it was telling me about this nice boy he met online…and how “IT” was really starting to HATE all women (like that was a HUGE shock-not!) and would perhaps go in another direction. Well, good for him.
I just can’t deal with the insanity and all the craziness.
It upsets the peaceful quiet life I have already been forced to make for myself. I do agree that they like defiling pure people, which to me, is the markings of the devil itself. Am I not correct?
The deceptions and the masquerading and the taunting and the vileness…I mean just look at it. SOMETHING has my x sp stirred up where it is starting to stalk me again. Hmmm…wonder what it could be THIS TIME? Squirming a little? Hmmm?
Oh yes, my x wanted his wife at home, totally blind and unaware of it’s goings on. It wanted everyone to hail it as the good lord of all women, towards the end of my association with it….
One moment it would say: “All women are whores. As long as you give them the sex they want, you can do anything to them. As long as they feel that connection…as for me, as long as I can feel that warm p***y is what I need!” I mean, just horrid, vile, disgusting things.
It couldn’t hold up the fake persona with me so it didn’t enjoy being around me once I got onto it.
Since it is starting to slither back around me, I am going to be burning a candle tonight to the Archangel Michael and pray for all of us that we may be protected and find our way to a happy and bright life and future. These will be my prayers tonight.
I haven’t felt very well today. I guess you can tell by how much I have been here, writing. I have been sick to my stomach and last night, through most of today: weak and heart going bazonkers. It hurts me. I never know ‘when’ to dial 9-1-1 or not. I don’t want to be making a thousand trips to the hospital for no reason. If I do it too much, they will stop covering me on my insurance! So, when I start to A FIB really bad, I rest.
Thanks to you all for being here.
I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have a place to come and talk…you guys are the only ones who really understand what this has been like. A nightmare of all nightmares.
*LOVE & BLESSINGS*
Dupedster
Duped: good post! Absolutely markings of the devil!!!!! RIGHT you are!
Yup, mine called it this way: whores and saints. The saint was the good, long suffering wife at home and the whores were his playmates. Yeah, once I saw thru the mask, mine was no longer comfortable around me either. Too much conviction.
I am sorry you are not feeling well!!!! I so relate! For three years I had feelings of dying daily! Low blood sugar, thyroid pounding, vision freaking, almost passing out, bad sleep, nightmares, etc…all from adrenal exhaustion from stress. Then I was diagnosed celiac after a horrible episode of months of being sick. Hiatal hernia too and all this was stress related. That crazy P almost finished me off! I sure empathize with you! I’ve starting eat a lot of grass fed red meat and I feel SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!
Prayers for you to have a good night’s rest and peace! â¤
Hey TB: Yah, heart stuff. I go see the cardiologist again next week. If it gets too bad between now and then: hospital, here I come! SPATH took the past five years of my life and treated it like garbage. When I had my heart attack, I was in such good shape! I was shocked when it happened.
Yah, they don’t like it when you have too much conviction…
sp used to call me lame for trying to be proper and nice. “Lame”. I told “IT”: “YOU ARE NOTHING BUT A SCAMMER and YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM ME AND MY LIFE NOW.” And, I meant it.
This has been five years of this and I am done.
My cardiologist told me that the majority of my heart damage was from STRESS. Bad diet; poor sleep, etc. Yep, almost finished me off too IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE. “IT” tried to murder me before my heart attack and shortly after I found out about the attempt, I had this massive heart attack and almost died and all “IT” could do was LAUGH AT ME. How wicked is that? Undeservedly wicked. Thanks ((TB)); I am starting to feel better in the head but the rest of me isn’t cooperating too well these days.
Prayers, love & hugs to you…
sleep well.
Duped
Duped: I am so very sorry for all the evil done to you by this demon! That is beyond horrible! I know mine would have done the same to me. Wicked!!!!!
Thank you for prayers, love and hugs! Same to you(((((DUPED))))
Check out this fraudster:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2017091/Dukes-Manchester-Fraudsters-drug-addicts-jailbirds-shaming-aristocracy.html
Duped;
In spite of ‘how’ we got to ‘here’ and what we are left to clean up……A#1 is our health……
Please take care of your’s…….you’ve got a lot of life yet to live!
Protect your heart from any stressors!
XXOO
EB
Thanks TB and ErinBrock for your wishes on my health. 🙂
I woke up a few minutes ago, hearing “IT” and OW’s (at the moment and flavor of the month) LAUGHTER as they called me on the phone about a year ago now, taunting me about what they had done to me. I never bothered them, neither of them, not one time, even though I could have bazooka’d them off the planet and still have plans on doing so but not with the life I have left.
I think I mentioned before that I am not going to lift one finger on any prosecution while I am still here on this planet. But, I do have things arranged that it will be dealt with upon my demise. And, that’s all there is to it. Advance directives, my Angels!
I am not going to sit back and let someone try to steal my life from me, in LAUGHTER, and get away with it. I just am not. MY LIFE IS JUST AS IMPORTANT as the next persons!
My sp and I used to do a lot of walking together and I heard: “If I wanted you dead, truly, I would just push you out in front of traffic and that would be the end of you.” HOWEVER, “IT” needed me at the time, so it wouldn’t have done that. NOW it may. There is no use for me anymore. And that’s how it works.
Yes, our health is A#1. I got that part down laying there in the operating room, two heart surgeries in one week and where was spath? Dating it’s THINGS off the internet and throwing it in my face. Has to be the world’s ugliest spath! Just the ugliest.
There are a lot of things that has gone on that I don’t even think I can GET TO the truths all locked up inside me; it all moved so fast and happened so quickly, my mind couldn’t even register it.
No; it isn’t getting what life I have left. It just isn’t. I claimed MY LIFE back from it and sent it packing! Oh how forlorned it was when I told it to get packing! That I won’t forget about what it tried to do to me and that I intend to make it ‘right’. Perhaps not in this lifetime but that it WOULD be made right, sooner or later and I meant every word. And, it knows I do. I WILL get my justification. I promise, I will. For this, it would truly like to kill me, now. 🙂 We can do this now, I am prepared, let’s go…bring it on….
Too late to protect my heart from stressors, EB….they already almost got me. In more ways than one, Dearest….
*Hugs* to you….
DUPED