This two-part article in the Washington Times follows the money trail of Connecticut family court. Author Aine Nistophain writes about a 9-year-old, Max:
When Max reported to authorities that his father had raped him, the Judge Munro awarded sole custody of him to his father. Suddenly, Max went from living with his mother full time, to seeing his mother a few hours a week in supervised visitation run by strangers armed with clipboards, then no contact at all.
There’s more, and it’s bad. Read:
i will read more later but now i need to watch some comical Big Bang Theory reruns to refresh my mind away from such matters.
abelrising,
I can certainly understand you needing to watch some comedy to let your mind rest from such sickening and heartbreaking matters!
Yes,the Family Court is full of psychos/sociopaths.Anytime they will intentionally harm a child and break up a safe home,they are on a path of destruction!
Back to choices…..far too many make the wrong one-deliberately.
I can’t read the story. The little bit posted here is enough to turn my stomach. I am so sick with grief over what is happening in the family courts in this country.
I haven’t read the stories posted, but it happened to me and my boys. I have severe PTSD, and have not seen my boys in over 1 1/2 years. I’m living due to God’s mercy and the kindness of strangers and new friends. I can’t get information out of the court system, and even professionals (but in another state) say that I should be able to get this information and have some rights/protection as a mother.
The whole U.S. court system (including criminal) is completely broken from the smallest county court all the way up to the Supreme Court. The U.S. Constitution has been shredded. P/S/N’s rule because they are drawn to power and the type of system that is set up here.
I thought I did everything right, but ended up losing my boys anyways. I should have stayed until they were older. My counselor said that I was lucky to get out alive according to what happened. I’m not sure if being alive without my boys is worth it. My presence in other’s lives since I lost my boys has possibly saved at least 2 other people’s lives, and I have to hold onto that. And my faith.
Sorry if this makes no sense. The damage done to me and my boys is severe. I at least get to call them and talk to them, but it’s hard with the x listening in the background, making comments and telling the boys what to say. My partner/boyfriend says that their love for me is not lost, and most likely will not be lost. I hope so. At least I hope now. For a while, I had lost hope completely. I still sometimes do.
I’ll post later. I need to try to get a few hours of nightmare-filled sleep to minimize the panic attacks.
Onebody, I’ve experienced Family Court fiasco, as well. I have learned that battle is what spaths want, especially those who perpetrated domestic violence/abuse. They LOVE having the other parent painted as a lunatic, and they use/abuse the courts to do it.
And, no – staying EVEN for the sakes of the children is catastrophic, in due time. I recall the threats of murder/suicide from the first exspath that my sons witnessed in an ongoing basis. Staying would have guaranteed that SOMEONE was going to die, either by deliberate action, or by proxy. No, in order to be of assistance to my offspring that I produced with a violent sociopath, I had to heal and recover ME, first. And, guess what?! I jumped from the fire into the frying pan and ended up married to a non-violent sociopath that managed to alienate me from my children and relieve me of nearly 300K. I ended up moving out-of-state with that jackass because he assured me that he was going to (not in so many words) SAVE me and assist me in my recovery and getting custody of my sons. ROTFLMAO!!! Oh, I wish that I knew THEN what I know NOW, but that’s a whole different story……sorry, I digress…..
Your sons are a product of a marriage, Onebody, and even considering that your life isn’t worth living without having custody of them is not going to help you win in a court battle, nor will it help you to recover. Your sons will reach out to you, in due time, of their own accord – or, not. But, what is vital to accept is that we do not have control over the courts. We just don’t. “Acceptance” does not mean that we have to LIKE the facts, but it means that we accept the facts as undeniable truths, and we’re better able to let go of the false beliefs in justice and fairness.
I’m so sorry for your experiences, and I hope that you will continue to read, read, read the articles and ARCHIVED articles and continue posting.
Brightest blessings
Onebody. i feel a lot of pain in your post. i dont know what to say. i feel an appropriate response will be a hug and to say that everything is going to be ok. but if i could i would. but its not in my power to do so. we live in a broken and damaged world. where parents send their children off to school and thats the last time they ever see again… This is the world we live in. all i can say is that while there is life there hope. and time will come. and with time hope does not die and when your sons are grown his control over them will be torn and they can come back to you. and healing can happen.
for now look for the safety and comfort of good people. to stregthen you and support you. rebuild yourself and hope for a better day.
i’m not that much of a huggable person. but i will send love and caring and prayers to you.
i was watching back to back re-runs of Big Bang Theory last night. and its funny how sheldon cooper makes perfect sense to me but to the rest of the world he’s nuts. but if the world was ruled by reason and logic and order we’d be living in a more harmonious world.
this world is so broken and damaged. Sometime i dont know what i was thinking creating a family in such an unpredictable chaotic world. people even questioned my decision to have children as it was a certainty that one with asperger syndrome and another with autism will surely produce another autistic.
“the child’s chances of being born normal is not that strong..” i was told.
i see. so pyschopaths can breed like rabbits but the possibility of bringing a child whose chances of being born with autism is so strong that the decision was openly questioned..
yes i did end up with a child that is not ‘normal’. she eis severely autistic. she’s an absolute angel and such as she is too good for this too often uncaring and very cruel world.
but with so much ugliness in the world running rapid. i think this world can use some beauty and purity.
maybe hell can wreck havoc on this earth but yes in some other areas heaven can shine down here as well. and that’s something i need to hold on too.
Abelrising, exactly right. Disordered dangerous people reproduce all the time and raise damaged and sometimes dangerous children. Your daughter harms no one. And she has loving protective parents. Best wishes to all your family.
On the subject of comedy, I tried to lighten my mood with some Curb Your Enthusiasm that a friend had given me to watch. Urgh! I laughed at points , the klutzy socially awkward moments, but so much of the Larry character’s personality triggered me. I was really intensely irritated and disgusted by the end of the third episode I watched. The casual lying, the selfishness, the infantile sense of entitlement… Maybe my citalopram isn’t working lol.
One body, clearly you have experienced terrible trauma, my heart goes out to you. It seems you have a supportive partner, that must be a source of comfort, I hope? Truthy is correct, staying with a violent partner for the children is not an option if you are in danger. Self preservation has to kick in, and has to be heeded. We are not martyrs to the disordered. Mothers or not, we cannot sacrifice ourselves to disordered dangerous men who will harm us. Noone can ask that of anyone, not even a child of his mother. Peace and love to you, I hope you have some rest x
What is described in the articles is simply SICK and criminal racketeering. It’s got NOTHING to do with protecting children, and EVERYTHING with abuse of power, get rich on the back of innocent children and mothers and then even REWARDING the abusers with custody and the minioning GALs, Court expert psychiatrists, befriended judges. It’s one of the grossest justicefrauds I’ve ever read. Those 4 recurring names deserve to be in jail themselves imo.