While litigation fees mount, Connecticut court awards custody to abusers

Serenity,

three years ago i was thinking of ways of reaching ways of educating and inhibiting behaviors in conduct disordered children much in the same way we do with autism. Once they become adults or pre-adult I feel its too late to bother. I thought it was critical to reach them during that essential developmental stage when parents start noticing signs.

Just as we have early identification methods as well as early intervention programs for autism I feel this is essential to target and inhibit behaviors in those at risk children who show signs of conduct disorder. A sort of reeducation of providing another route other than where their nature will lead them.

Same way we simply don’t just let an autistic child sit in the corner spinning a plate do we? We look for ways of pulling them from one world into another. To adjust and adapt to the world around them as best they can. My child is diagnosed severe autism. Completely shut off. An extreme case. She’s on that category of most severe on the spectrum. No hope. But we got through to her. She’s still severely autistic. Completely non-verbal but she can relate and interact with others.

But I started with her very young. I knew what we were going to deal with. I have Asperger syndrome and my wife has autism so we knew how our daughter was going to turn out. We saw the signs other parents would miss and we went at therapeutic methods aggressively. She is still autistic. We didn’t change that part of her but that the negative aspects of autism doesn’t rule who she is either. She rules her autism, as best she could. Her autism doesn’t rule her. My wife, me, we do that everyday. We gave ourselves an incentive to keep striving for a goal. Remaining who we are without letting certain parts of who we are dictate where we what to go and be.

When I was young I didn’t need friends, search for friends. It was sort of pushed upon me and I got used to it. I had a friend. I was taught how to relate to my friend, my family and the world and others around me in a healthy way. I found ways to circumvent obtrusive behaviors that would get in the way of that happening.

I feel that if targeted young enough a child with conduct disorder can be retrained from their nature to have a more fulfilling life for themselves and others if they find another way to feed their insatiable hungers.

I saw a movie recently that I will highly recommend. Stoker.

It goes into a 18 year old girl named India whose father mysteriously dies and an uncle she never knew existed shows up. She’s an odd girl. It seems like her father recognized something in his child that he saw in his own brother who in flashbacks reveal that he murdered their younger brother as children. He cut his brother from his life. Had him institutionalized and took his daughter to hunting trips.

He saw and knew there was something predatory about his daughter and he worked to have an outlet for those inclinations”. Later Uncle Charlie resurfaces and unleashes the beast within. But we are left to wonder if Uncle Charlie never showed up would India’s father efforts to retrain his daughters inclinations been subverted? Could she possibly have led a semi normal life without ever giving into those inclinations?

Also in the film it does play on such observances on India’s heightened sense of hearing and sensitivity to touch that seemed to affect both herself and Uncle Charlie.

I sort of just put those interests aside to pursue gardening and landscaping. I felt my soul just couldn’t take on too much. We had a murder that sort of devastated us and I guess we are still healing.

Regards