A study finds that because narcissists are so comfortable talking about themselves, they often impress people who are interviewing them for jobs.
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Skylar;
I learned my lesson too late. In trying to get back to my life too fast after the heart surgery, I did too much too soon. Two months to the day after the surgery, I rode my bicycle 75 miles.
I believe that this, plus the ongoing stress of my legal battle against my sociopathic former employers led to my complete system collapse last summer.
BBE,
you have a tendency to push yourself. The heart condition, very much like the spath attack, should have been a warning to you that you need to make some changes. Changes in life usually have to begin with changes in attitude.
I had a very similar attitude. I used to be addicted to exercise. Now, it’s just the opposite. I think it’s because I used to try to control everything and that included my physique. After my experience w/the spath, I have a different attitude.
Skylar;
I agree, all of this has taught me a lot…
Skylar, I remember how ill I was at various times with my condition before it was diagnosed. I would literally lose my bladder because I was in so much pain that I couldn’t get to the loo in time. He would say, “Aw, poor dear,” and then ask what I was going to cook for dinner.
The last day that I saw him, he called from work to complain about how his side ached – MRI and loads of tests had proven it to be excessive GAS!!!! But, he tells me this after I had finally found evidence of his extra-marital activities, and I said, “Oh, you poor, poor thing,” over the phone with the most blatantly sarcastic tone that I could muster.
MINIMALIZE…….they minimalize the suffering of other human beings and engage in their one-upmanship games so that we end up believing that our physical and emotional well-being has no importance, whatsoever. In turn, WE end up minimalizing our own needs and end up being martyrs-by-proxy: to indicate or complain about our conditions gives them opportunity to ridicule.
Sheeeeesh…..we’re not machines. We’re human beings.
My brother (lawyer) said employers will hire or not hire whomever they want. Laws, in the real world of corporate America, are there as a suggestion. He said this awhile back so I haven’t asked him if he’s heard about the criminal background checks not being allowed.
I believe he is right. With facebook, mugshots online, and so many other free resources for employers to use I do not see any law safeguarding the hiring of potential criminals.
I have worked at several places that actually seemed to hire a majority of criminals, so there are still plenty of jobs available to them even if this law took affect.
With regard to background checks and the hiring of ex-cons, I can say the following from personal experience:
I was arrested for DV and the criminal charges were dismissed. When I spoke to the police after the incident, I told them the truth and the truth never appeared on their report. What DID appear was an over-exaggerated version that portrayed me to have suddenly, and without warning, flown into a violent rage and attacking with an intent to commit murder. Now, although the criminal charges were dismissed and the matter is now closed, this will follow me for the rest of my life – I was arrested for domestic violence, PERIOD. Potential employers are not interested in anything else than the public record.
Many businesses and companies are PAID to hire ex-convicts through work-release and rehabilitation programs. They are paid to hire and train ex-cons to help them integrate into society. For instance, a popular fast-food restaurant receives 10K tax break PER ex-con that is hired and maintained for 3 months or more, per year. The burger joint is also provided cash incentives to “hire” the ex-cons – the gubmint pays the burger joint nearly 100% of the WAGES of the new employee for a certain amount of time.
Now, I wonder what types of programs are in place for the FARKING VICTIMS of sociopaths to recover and rebuild their lives!!!
Wow! The woman who raised me was indeed a strange hypochondriac too. Whatever ailment the family or friends had she claimed it too. She was an avid reader of these medical books of diseases. My one sister (have one sibling who is a major drama queen and hypochondriac) and I are reluctant to this day to discuss are health issues because of the embarrassment of the over the top drama this woman would go to for attention (even from a stranger waiting to pay for groceries).
Just curious these hypochondriacs you know are they incapable of having compassion for anyone else who indeed is dealing with illnesses?
I know this woman is absolutely incapable of doing so. I remember times when I had the flu, she was trying to force me into eating in which case I passed out, threw-up, and case of diarrhea after passing out on the floor. She brought me too by beating the crap out of me because I got sick on her carpet. What the hell! No one in her family listens to her anymore as far as I know (haven’t had contact with them for 8 years now). She actually is made fun of right to her face about her addiction for attention at all costs and her jealousy issues over anyone who is in her spot light over being unhealthy. Sick… Sick…Sick!
Truthspeaks,
Convictions for criminal complaints are one thing versus arrests. I realize that people are arrested every day who are not guilty of anything….and complaints being fraudulently filed by psychopaths against their victims happen. What I was talking about was the people who come out of prison and the employers not being allowed to know about their CONVICTIONS.
I personally wouldn’t hire a convicted anyone if I were looking for an employee….but that is my personal bias. I do think I have the right to know the background criminal convictions (not arrests) of any potential employee though.
I’m learning now if my intuition alerts me I’m dealing with a narcissist to stay away and not engage into their drama. It might take a few months to realize it but once I do listen to the warning signs I’m nicely easing myself out of their range to hear and react to their bs.
As far as ex-cons past not being made available to potential employers: this is not comforting feeling however; the legal system knows about them. How about the personality disorder coworkers that know how to lie to management after they have deliberately been entertained by creating drama for pure enjoyment because they don’t want to work with you. We all have stories I’m sure about these sick individuals. In time they do receive a taste of their own game turned on them by someone else who just gets tired of them.
I wish I could be around to see it happen.
Muenchausen-by-proxy. The deliberate harm/abuse by one person upon another (usually, infants or people incapable of reporting the abuse) that results in “attention” by the medical and psychiatric community.
Raised by a sociopath, have you engaged in any counseling therapy since your extrication from this house of horrors? What a terrifying childhood. Blessings to you on your healing path.